Getting divorced in NY. I actually moved out 4 years ago. She still carries my insurance and I get mail there. We had been pretty cordial. Until she started dating. She pulled a P.O. of made up shit from years ago. Now I get FaceTime calls twice a week and I get her for 4 hours every other Sunday. We are still going thru the battle no nothing is final. I’ve don’t alcohol counsel, anger management and parents apart to “rebuild my reputation”. My lawyer keeps asking her lawyer for things and gets no response. He just doesn’t seem to be into defending me. I have sent some stupid drunk messages. Nothing other then threatening litigation. Nothing to warrant a full protection order against her and my daughter. Hell I can’t even go near the dog. What can I do now that she has this upper hand? She said she wasn’t going to introduce my daughter to this new guy. That lasted 3 months. Debating firing my lawyer and going after her. 50/50 spousal support her retirement and the house. Anyone deal with divorce in NY? I’m upstate not NYC. Should I start fighting fire with fire? And how do you get over someone else being around your kid when you only see her 8 hours a month? Please any advice is appreciated. I am at my end. No job cause this has ruined me mentally: and the bills are coming. Thanks for any help!