Hi Gents,

I've written a few posts asking for support while cohabitating with a soon to be ex. A few months later, we are still cohabitating. She told me that she is no longer seeing new people for exploits. Instead she is now seeing one person, and she claims its just sex and going out on dates. It stings a little less that it is only one person now, but it still stings considering that our bedroom has been practically dead for quite some time.

She sees this person every few days in the evenings. I know this shouldn't sting me, but it does. Its difficult because she wants a commitment for me to give her money. I don't have what she wants, though she says a calculator says that I need to do it, and it doesn't matter whether its tenable or not.

She has told me many times that I am free to do the same thing as she is doing. I've written on here in other posts. I won't do it. It goes against everything inside of me. I'm not ready to see someone else. There are things that I need to figure out with myself; the biggest one is to give myself grace and the freedoms to do things that are solely for me. I do things for everyone else except myself.

Have any of you been in a similar situation? How did you cope? My kids ask where mommy goes when she leaves late at night. I tell them that I don't know. That is the truth, I don't know where she goes. I don't know who she is with (I don't know the identity of the man, nor do I want to know). For what its worth, I have no ill feelings towards the man, though if I were in his place, I would not want to be intimate with a married woman (we are not legally separated). I wouldn't want to make the other man a fool.