After an 8 year marriage where we've both had our on line indiscretions in the past, my wife has finally said "I'm not happy anymore, I don't hate you, I'm. Just not in love with you anymore." It hurt, but we've separated twice in the past and she always came back after I begged and pleaded for her to stay. I'm not doing that this time - it's ludacris to make someone stay if they don't love you. However she's said I need to be alone after we separate because I've never been alone, and she's right - I always jumped right into another relationship. It's terrifying - I'm 58 and I don't know how to be single, everything I've done has always been in consideration of someone else. How do you cope?