Throwaway account but 100% life-alteringly serious. I started writing this post but it was emotional and full of details. Trying to stick to facts and keep this short. We are in Connecticut, USA. I am doing a lot of research, in addition to Reddit posts, and apologize if this breaks rules (eg. I don't know what "redpilling" is.)

To your knowledge and in your experience:

Who might get more favorable child custody "points" in our case?

Can she kick me out of the house, separating my daughter from her dad and teacher?

Does her SS (work history) contribute to mine?

How was alimony determined for you?

Can I insist on keeping our daughter IN the loop?

Some background:

Met in 2005, married in 2008, daughter born in 2011. I have always been a passive type, and since my teenage years, have looked forward to taking care of my own family. My wife is has a high-achieving, high-ambition personality.

We agreed even before marrying in 2008 that one of us should stay at home, and we also agreed that it should be me. I've had a few gigs and work stints, but have been a full-time stay-at-home dad.