Background story: Marriage of 23 years on the rocks for at least 10. No children they are all adults and independent. I was pushed to my limits and left the house. We have a house in PA and a house in NC. I moved to Florida she moved to Pennsylvania. She removed everything from the North Carolina house and left only garbage behind.

Her attorney sent me a letter to negotiate an equitable distribution asking for ridiculous things like giving her the vehicle and assuming the loan on it, 2000.00 a month in permanent alimony and doing something about 20K in a 401K. After I did not give an inch past 50/50 and did not budge on any alimony. Then I pointed out taking everything and not listing several items in her original letter worth 5,000-20,000 dollars would not play well in the courts. Her lawyer wrote me back "I have been out of county on a case. Based on jurisdictional issues I will not be representing Ms. STBX on any court filings. As it does not appear that we will agree in a separation agreement Ms. STBX will be deciding how she wants to proceed. Best Regards,"

Basically the PA property is free and clear of any mortgage. The North Carolina house has a mortgage I am paying. The values of the property "based on Zillow estimates" are equal say 200K. I still owe 100K on the North Carolina house. She took about 60 or 70K of marital assets to Pennsylvania I have nothing from the Marital assets besides the equity in the North Carolina house.

What exactly does her attorney mean it is not in her jurisdiction? What should I do at this point? Nothing has been filed with any courts yet I am assuming since I have not been served with any papers yet.

Bottom line with the PA house and all of the marital assets in Pennsylvania if we can agree the she keeps the PA property and the marital assets she pretty much stole, get the vehicle loan in her name and forget about the 401K and alimony. She walks away with 250K and I have 100K in equity in North Carolina. Bullshit I know but probably worth it at the end.

Where would I file the equitable distribution agreement? Florida where I live, Pennsylvania where she lives or North Carolina where the marriage ended?

Advice suggestions? What would you do?

Thanks.