Parental alienation

prunkardsdrayer · 2019-06-04T12:37:05+00:00

File for therapy with the courts. Make sure it’s in the temporary orders.

Proving parental alienation is hard and expensive. Better to head it off. 8 weeks isn’t much. File for temporary orders immediately, and get the best attorney you can find- one who knows the judge.

Accept that this is a long-term battle.

ArtisticQuality · 2019-06-05T07:30:12+00:00

I don't have any practical experience with your situation but I'll say this:
You know that this process is hell on you, it's also hell on your kids. Every person takes adversity in a different way. Don't give up on your daughter, don't judge her harshly and don't let yourself feel too hurt by her behavior. She is trying to process this storm and she has even fewer coping skills than you do, and you know how hard the hit is.

My bet is she comes out of this sooner or later, and she'll be deeply thankful that you had the strength to deal with her behavior when she was a mess, didn't know better and couldn't do better.

SUEDE2BLACK · 2019-06-04T21:56:29+00:00

Let her go.Sounds harsh but it is what it is.I lost 100s of thousands in the market during the recession it forced me to change my entire life style but I endured.I have lost valuable possessions and property it hurts but loss is apart of life.

Some people have children that die or are kidnapped.Some can't have children at all.We all have our crosses to carry and our burdens and pains to endure in this life.This is yours.

You can wallow in self loading sorrow despair hopelessness and defeat or you can take control of your situation.

Walk away.Forget your ex wife forget the kids for now.Send in your child support check and call it a day if the kids want to see you so be it if not it's their loss,one day they will regret pushing away a good father you have done your part you owe nothing more.

My father dipped out,i have a good because I came to see how crazy my mother was and he had no other options the system is against men.The harder you fight for your children the harder women and system fight back.

MGTOW walk away brother.

My children are through surrogacy I will never allow a women to have financial or emotional control over me or my offspring.

divorceddad2019 · 2019-06-05T04:30:03+00:00

Hi mate. DO NOT GIVE UP. It’s is going to be a very long haul, but if you give up now, you will never get her back. I know that you already know this, but a daughter’s bond with her dad is so important for the rest of her life.

Keep on telling her that you love her, and be there for her as much as you can. It’ll hurt like hell when she rejects you, but don’t stop. How old is she? I guess she’ll need some therapy to help with the transition anyway. Some of the things that she's doing will come up in her sessions. Any quality therapist should be able to pick elements of parental alienation, and give your daughter some assistance on how to handle it. Look for a good quality therapist which experience in this area. It might cost a bit, but it will be worth it.

It’s hard to prove, but do you have any evidence that you can use in court? I assume that you’ve lawyered up?

Good luck! You’re not alone! I'm going through this now with my STBXW. Urrgh ...l

CoolNameHere8765 · 2019-06-06T01:15:46+00:00

Bro I’m going through the exact thing. I have a teen daughter who has a grandma(my in-law) who is so manipulative that she causes issues with everyone around her for the sole purpose of making herself happy, regardless of how it affects others. She has tried to cause issues with me and my family! But the one thing I do is show my daughter 100% attention when she is around. You have to absolutely 100% show her love and attention. She’s a lady and not only needs attention, but needs attention from her daddy. If you show her that love she will come around. I hope the best for you and feel your pain.

MarcusTheo · 2019-06-07T16:29:57+00:00

Hard as it is, give it time. You've only been apart 9 weeks. Your daughter is probably angry at you, even if it's not your fault. She will get over it when she's ready. It might be in a few weeks, it might be in a few years. But she will, and she will know that you've always been there waiting for when she's ready.

Title	Parental alienation
Author	thetonymc
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	June 4, 2019 7:29 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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