14 months ago we finally settled on permanent custody. In our consent orders we appoint a Parenting Coordinator (PC). The PC is essentially a quasi judicial lawyer that makes directives on specific topics/issues that we cannot agree on regarding our children. Her scope is limited and the laws governing her authority are pretty insane. She essentially has immunity granted by the state. Meaning she can’t be held liable for any damages caused by her directives. She can legally defy subpoenas to testify. She can meet with our children without me being present. It’s fucking nuts.

That said, my ex and I have had an extremely high conflict relationship since our separation. My lawyers had been pushing for a PC since i filed our first custody complaint. I was convinced that this person would help and at least provide some kind of remedy for my ex’s wild parenting decisions.

Damn was I wrong. This person has emboldened my ex on every level. She thinks the PC represents her now.

Her term ends in about 10 months and I can’t wait. We’ve paid her thousands of dollars and the only thing she’s done is create more contempt. We are worse off than before she was appointed.

Has anyone had experience using a PC? Curious how it worked out for you?