My ex was denied emergency relief (ex parte) for a DVPO that she filed 2 days before Father’s Day. In her complaint she makes 9 different false allegations against me. All are lies and none of them rise to the level of domestic violence. The DV trial court Judge denied her request and set a calendar date for us to appear before the district court judge that oversaw our custody case. State law requires the plaintiff to show a preponderance of evidence in civil court and unlike criminal Court she is not held to the beyond a reasonable doubt standard.

I titled the post round 2 because she has had me arrested once before. She lied to the police, destroyed evidence and then defied 3 subpoenas by the DA to testify against me. I was found not guilty and the charges were ultimately dismissed. No police report was ever produced by the clerk of courts, local Police station, or by the DA. While I was in jail for three days she destroyed the video cameras that would have easily exonerated me. Despite all this, her attorney used the charges against me in our custody trial. She produced doctored images of the alleged abuse and entered a video recording that was clearly manipulated. The Judge was not impressed and all of her motions were denied. I feel like her attorney should be sanctioned. Her lawyer verbally attacked me in the courtroom and lied about almost everything with no credible evidence.

My lawyer now wants another $3K to represent me at the DVPO hearing that is set for late July. We feel she’s trying to set the stage for a custody modification motion and will use this latest round of false accusations against me to advance her case.

Does anyone have experience defending themselves pro se in a DVPO hearing?