PCOS

gmack2547 · 2020-06-05T04:00:22+00:00

I have a few friends who's wives couldn't conceive, actually two the wives bodies wouldn't function and one the dude was the issue. In the three cases the two women who's bodies weren't capable of carrying a child the women never recovered neither did the marriage. In one case the two had a beautiful healthy toddler. It got so bad the husband agreed to a surrogate, which miscarried. At this point through all the fertility treatments, and the surrogate he had dropped like 130k cash and he finally said I understand your desire for another child, but can't understand why you're not happy with the child we have or me. She was possessed and if he wasn't going to spend any more money to try and get a child with her she needed to be free to do it on her own. Only problem she didn't really understand is most of their money was spend trying with the first miscarriage and she divorced him with little to no money to try to pay for a second attempt. Someone here said it best....Run while you can.

4agreements · 2020-06-05T02:45:43+00:00

Give yourself a break. She is projecting her experience on to you and wants you to feel the deep and pain she feels. (and who says you don’t?) everyone expresses loss and life’s pains differently. She doesn’t have the market on grieving.

I’m sure, just through your post you gave what you could. It does come down to biology, life experiences, childhood trauma and each other’s brain wiring. People experience life differently. You might suggest she tell you exactly, in measurable terms, what it is Exactly you could have said, word for word, to help empathize with her. Honestly she probably wouldn’t know, and s maybe you even said what she wanted to hear and at the time, she dismissed it. Who knows.

She is struggling with the unfairness of life, and you’re probably an easy available target. It’s really not about you.m she is suffering from preconceived idea of how her life was supposed to go.

Forgive yourself for being human. Embrace the imperfection of life. And get a therapist. 90% sure there is nothing you could have done.

mpellas · 2020-06-05T02:49:05+00:00

My latest ex had pcos. We were married 15 years. Year 7 we finally conceived after 3 miscarriages and "giving up".

Year 13 she had her 4th miscarriage, which was a surprise since she had an iud. After that she dove into alcoholism. Lots of bad stuff happened. We seperated after she tried to kill me and our son. That was 20 months ago.

Sometimes... you can't fix it. Rehabs, therapists, psychiatrists, I exhausted my 401k trying to help. In the endz ahe thought murder was the only option.

Daylyte12 · 2020-06-05T02:57:28+00:00

Run while you can .....,,,,,,,,,,,that’s all I am gonna say

On_ur_left · 2020-06-05T03:14:00+00:00

Dude. Yes. Omg.

platonic_thoughts · 2020-06-05T09:30:10+00:00

Sounds like you empathized with her well.. I'm (27m) in the same boat as you, my wife has PCOS (28M) and we've been unable to conceive for a few years.. It's taken a toll on the relationship to say the least.. sounds harsh, but your wife already filed.. if you're looking to start a family I'd move on and save all of the trouble.. plenty of great women out there bud

Title	PCOS
Author	mpellas
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	June 5, 2020 2:24 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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