I was married to a woman who was 36 and I'm 30. We had a very active intimate life and were physically close almost every day (except during special circumstances). We are now divorced and completely out of contact. I don't know where she is, and I have no desire to reconnect.

The problem is that I'm struggling with the physical side of moving on. Even though I've changed my diet, stay busy, and try to focus on other things, I still get frequent flashbacks of our time together. Those memories often trigger strong urges and mostly leads to masturbation.

I'm getting tired of dealing with this and would genuinely like to hear from men who have gone through divorce.