Burner account for the reasons below.

My wife told me she wanted a divorce about two years ago and moved out about one year ago. I’ve gone through all the common emotions and struggles shared on this sub. I’ve also tried some dating apps, hated them, deleted them, then got back on when feeling lonely or horny. I’ve also chatted with local women on Reddit. Well a few months back there was a “woman” who posted that said she was in my town and looking for a guy who wanted to try some bdsm. Me being horny and lonely started chatting with her first on Reddit then on Telegram. I was all set to meet her and then chickened out and canceled. I forgot about her for about a month until yesterday. I was feeling extra lonely because after months my marital settlement agreement was finalized and the divorce case was ending. I was really missing companionship and a sexual relationship. So I started chatting with the same woman as before on Telegram. She seemed like a local because she gave very detailed descriptions about where she lived and worked, and had a cell number from California. She also said she was divorced with kids and wanted to meet up. There were red flags, like mildly bad English and her asking me to send her dinner, but I thought it was part of the bdsm dynamic. I refused outright to give her money and she backed off. She sent me a handful of pictures that were all the same woman and I sent her a couple as well. Then when I refused to give her money she asked for a nude pic. In my loneliness and stupidity I did. I’m in really good shape and don’t care about being seen naked, but I didn’t show my face and deleted it from the chat after a minute. Well a little while later she starts asking me to come to my house and meet my kids. I said that will never happen and said that was disturbing for her to even ask. Then she asked me why I deleted the pictures I sent from the chat. I said because I don’t know you and set them to auto-delete in Telegram anyway. She then sends me a side by side “post” she made of my face and nude picture with a caption saying my name, profession, my address, phone number, that I am a rapist, evil, and other random shit. She asked me if i wanted to “negotiate” or she would ruin my life. I told her my life is already fucked and I don’t particularly care what she does. She threatened to send it to my house for my kids to see unless I gave her money. After that I told her I’d be calling the fbi, to fuck off, and to choose a different path before she ends up in prison.

I was a little nervous and upset after all this but, again, I don’t have control over it anymore and decided I don’t give a fuck. If my friends and family or work see my dick, so be it. I’m in shape. I saved all the chats and am submitting a complaint to the fbi.

I know there are plenty of guys out there who would be devastated if this happened to them. So the lesson I want to share is if you are super lonely and/or horny, don’t take the lazy and easy way out online. Get out there and meet some ladies. Someone could still try to blackmail you but you are better prepared for that when you can actually set eyes on someone. For me, this is the life event I needed to finally stop trying to meet women online. God bless you all and this sub.