Public Perception

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-08-06T02:26:11+00:00

You can do lots of things.

Probably the best thing to do is to ignore the stories and go about living the best life you can, focusing on self-improvement and reaching your personal goals.

flimbo2019 · 2020-08-06T09:03:12+00:00

You adopt the IDGAF mentality and keep pushing with your own life pursuits. Taking any action would only make the situation worse. If the neighbors want to believe your stbx, that's on them. If they're decent people, they'll know they're missing your side of the story. And if they're great neighbors, they wouldn't care to take sides or butt in. Don't react to your stbx's bullfuckery-- she feeds on your despair. It makes her feel more powerful and in control of your emotions. Don't give her that satisfaction.

research002019 · 2020-08-06T13:07:39+00:00

You shouldn't worry what the neighbors think anyway. Also, they probably think she's crazy too.

akihonj · 2020-08-06T09:17:37+00:00

Two things are always true

What people don't know they'll make up and

Lies are far more entertaining than the truth

However this is also true

Some will speak to you directly and get your side. You don't need everyone to know but it only takes one person close to you who asks for the truth or your side, when that happens you know that her web will fall apart.

This is also true, if you hide, duck or run you give the lies credence if you stay and hold your heap up, it makes people question what they hear.

Data_Fan · 2020-08-06T19:25:17+00:00

Comments above are all true, but what do I DO??

I hire their kids to odd jobs, babysit, feed pets, shovel snow...something easy. Then I pay them, maybe a little more than going rate, but add on a good tip for excellent work. That info goes straight back to the parents and pretty much eliminates any issues.....

And no, I don't care what the neighbors think, but its a win-win, because I get some work done

Title	Public Perception
Author	Bobfrom815
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	August 6, 2020 2:24 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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