Settlement Meeting Tomorrow

No-Tomorrow8150 · 2023-09-05T18:14:26+00:00

Don’t get rushed or bullied into terms you are not happy with. Suggest taking 24 hours after to review everything

Benzon22s · 2023-09-06T01:49:44+00:00

Don’t let your feelings get you to give in more, I made that mistake I gave her more $ and she shows zero appreciation for it

Throwawaysi1234 · 2023-09-06T14:48:49+00:00

.... well I have a lot to say on this

1) if you are what's referred to as a "shared income" state and have a higher income than your stbx, watch out. You will end up owing child support and how it is typically calculated in many states is pretty bogus especially if you are not the one paying for health insurance. My kids health insurance costs $120 a month. The difference on my payments before and after health insurance is $140. I'm literally paying more for my kids insurance than it costs. Let me know what state you're in and I can probably offer more specific advice, but basically many states calculate it as "your obligation minus her obligation = payment amount" which is stupid (I can get into why). It should be "your obligation minus her obligation divided by 2, then add or subtract the pro rata health insurance depending on who is paying". They will likely fall back on "but that's not what is customary, so fuck your correct math" but it's worth a pitch.

2) watch out for how disagreements in parenting are resolved. Often tiebreaker authority gets broken into categories: educational, non-emergency Healthcare, extracurricular, and religious upbringing

The hidden threats:

Educational decision making:

she can move an hour away from you and pick a school next to her. She can use the school bus, you have to drive 4 hours a days (back and forth twice) to get the kid to school. I included a 50/50 split on transportation to combat this in my settlement
she can send the kid to a fancy private school and force you to pay half without your permission

non-emergency medical:

same issue I brought up before. You can easily end up paying twice a such as you're supposed to for health insurance of the kid is on her insurance

extracurricular:

It gets expensive when the kids are older. It's the power to make you pay out thousands you might not agree with

religious:

Basically doesn't matter unless there is a big religious difference between you two

3) make sure premarital assets don't get split. This includes premarital value in a house with only your name on it or a car purchased before marriage

4) Include a clause on splitting the child tax credit or alternating between years

life-is-short- · 2023-09-05T18:53:49+00:00

Is this mediation or settlement in court? Is that about assets only?

Title	Settlement Meeting Tomorrow
Author	begr8fulla
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	September 5, 2023 6:02 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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