My ex and I separated feb 2019. After having kids our relationship deteriorated and we just didn’t meet each other’s needs/stopped working on our relationship. She’d also messaged an ex including messages of a sexual nature.

We went to counselling and stuff but it couldn’t be saved. I moved out to my parents as I couldn’t afford anywhere at that time but still saw the kids 50% of the week at the house we owned. I’m financially in a better position and was in the process of securing a place when covid hit. I moved back into the house as I couldn’t not see the kids and I didn’t want to put my parents (aged 70+) at risk.

Now my ex and I got on okay. I was lucky that we didn’t fight and it didn’t get nasty when we broke up. Whilst being at the house we sort of kept our distance but inevitably had times when we spoke and stuff.

This is where I’m struggling.

Thoughts of her have entered my head again and it’s fucking me up. Before covid I felt like I’d moved on and was about to get a house (this should still be happening). But being in the house with her has just made me sad. I don’t know if that’s sad at what we used to have, the fantasy of what we used to have or whether I miss her.

She’s moved on fully and is dating etc so there’s no chance of anything happening. It’s just really hit me hard and I feel so down. I guess there’s nothing anyone can say but I’m just struggling.