High conflict divorce with bpd stbxw. 2 kids under 10. NYC She assaulted me in front of kids 4 years ago which started an OOP and separation. I am a high earner and she is almost unemployable. With regards to custody, although forensic advised me to have full custody, I took the high road and offered 5050 to avoid trial. Years of fighting over financial settlement and now I am going into debt to made ED. I realize I should have just given in to her terms then. Would have saved lots of legal fees and already have finished the divorce. When you are divorcing someone with no earning, they have compete leverage over this process. You are paying their lawyer and your own. Don't waste your time and money fighting back, as this will only extend your suffering and lawyers take the money from your kids. There is no justice for the 'moneyed spouse'. The system is designed to reward the non working parent, even if they are abusive to you.