My STBXW & I had the "talk" at the weekend.

Hours long talk on Friday, she went to work on Saturday but came home early as she was very upset. We spent hours talking and a bit of arguing for good measure.

We continued with with more talking and we decided on Sunday that enough was enough.

To be clear. We are great friends but awful partners. There are elements of her that drive me mad and vise versa.

Just spending time together would often lead to a childish argument or the most stupid stuff but it would be an argument none the less.

We were talking this morning about our decision to separate (no kids to worry about) so it's going to be a pretty easy divorce but one word I used to describe how I felt was "relief" and she laughed and said the exact same thing.

The weight of our decision is weighing on us but we both said we felt happier and "lighter".

Both sides of our family are having health worries so we aren't going to tell anyone yet but we reckon in a month we will.