People always say worry about what you can control, but what exactly CAN you control? I may be starting the divorce/potential mediation route and I don’t know what else can ask for or possibly control in my favor. Two sons 4 and 3 in Illinois. Wife is a business owner and I was a stay at home dad. Married 12 years. Not so much concern Ed with finances but in regards to the kids.

Side note: I despise her family. They are very needy and overstep my boundaries with the kids and have been a huge part of the demise of my marriage. I want to be able to avoid them to avoid any conflict/confrontations. My reaction always worse than the crime. I worry about extracurricular activities can we alternate. If I see them every week or two after this I might go crazy.