Wife has relationship OCD and health OCD. I have invested heavily into myself the past 5 months with heavy therapy and working out. Mentally and physically the best I've been in several years. Issues appear like when after lifting this past weekend I took a hot shower because my forearms are wrecked being 41. I didn't realize I had the door locked as our kiddos do it all the time. I was accused without question after that for masturbating and texting someone. No amount of reassurance would change that. In reality I was sitting there letting the hot water help then forearm pain. She refuses to accept anything else. I consistently keep running into this.

I remain calm and talk with her but it will not change anything. Brutal honesty here, what would you do? How long would you keep just staying around if she's not actively trying for help? I'm all in but getting literally nothing back in return here.