When to start moving on?

BadgerBoy913 · 2024-08-13T18:27:14+00:00

Edit: sorry, I was getting a lot of people messaging me 1 on 1 and I was getting overwhelmed. I appreciate everyone who is providing good advice.

I don’t know why everyone is thinking I’m going to start RIGHT NOW I was going to wait a few months regardless. I never said I was looking right now or wanted to start dating right away. I just trying to ask how long it is acceptable to wait.

I mean, I see where people are trying to be helpful and prevent me from rebounding hard and fast, but damn.

For those that have sent me message requests and asking if I’m looking…. No, I’m still a married man for now and have never been and never will be a cheater. Even if we haven’t slept in the same bed for months, I’m not looking for hookups in a subreddit.

Prudent_Door9866 · 2024-08-12T21:38:44+00:00

This is a case where you're going to get pretty different answers if you ask here vs asking in gay spaces since "the apps" function differently and more connection is asked of you even for hookups on the straight ones.

But some universal advice:

Wait those 11 days until he's served, minimum. It'll just make things easier. Especially if he doesn't know the divorce is coming.
Make sure you're doing it for you and not as a reaction to him
Expect to fuck up and make mistakes, even if everything was perfect and you were fully moved on, this is still a lot.
Don't tell him. You don't have to skulk around, but don't announce it and keep it off your socials for a while.

binglybinglybeep99 · 2024-08-12T20:28:28+00:00

Why do you care what is socially acceptable?

Betteroffalone1111 · 2024-08-12T18:48:56+00:00

When you are content with being by yourself; going to eat alone, shopping alone, living alone, sleeping alone….

Bermnerfs · 2024-08-12T18:30:39+00:00

It's different for everyone, but sounds pretty early based on your timeline. I'd suggest you first focus on yourself and make that a priority for a while. Rushing into another relationship shortly after the previous one ended usually doesn't go very well.

Title	When to start moving on?
Author	BadgerBoy913
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	August 12, 2024 6:08 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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