Will mediation sort it?

Adventurous_Tie_4464 · 2023-03-03T12:43:15+00:00

My experience absolutely not. I would avoid mediation like the plague unless court ordered

upvotersfortruth · 2023-03-03T03:41:09+00:00

Financial issues, maybe. Custody issues, almost never. Court-ordered mediation is rarely anything but a big steaming pile of "tick-the-box" shit.

Potential-Low-3632 · 2023-03-03T13:02:32+00:00

Yeah mediation won’t work ex wife and I have been to three and she won’t agree nor is reasonable and just trying to kick the can down the road now I just had my lawyer file a motion and we moved the courts I hope the judge just orders a time sharing plan and not force us back to mediation it won’t work and if we do go back I’m gonna call her out at the beginning and if she does not reason then I’m walking out with my lawyer. Crazy ex wife does not realize that’s she’s hurting our son by doing this trying to continue to keep our son from me and his half brother has been with me full time no issues but she’s holding our son back with this horse and pony show and this will be the 4 time a mediation would be ordered before hearing I’m not even gonna participate and leave as soon as we introduce ourselves.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-03-03T13:43:48+00:00

You need to realize that mediators have one job: To get an agreement. They don't care about being fair. Their reputation is based on the percentage of cases they can finalize. The number one way they get meditation done is by leaning on the weaker party. So don't be the weaker party.

Mediation tips: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=46407

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2023-03-03T15:04:43+00:00

Maybe. Depends on how much you already agree on stuff. The big thing is it locks down everything you agree on already so you can't argue about any of those things anymore, just on the things you don't agree on.

Be careful with mediation. They go one subject/item at a time, and you can't really negotiate an exchange "I agree to this if you agree to this other thing" -- what often happens is that you'll get a "sure I'll agree to the other thing" in order to get you to agree to the one thing, and then when it's time to agree to the other thing your stbx will go "LOL nope!" and you're screwed unless you throw out the entire mediation.

Mrsmmi2 · 2023-03-03T15:17:24+00:00

Mediation sorted out assets and some other broad framework for me. Plus it didn’t get too into it with parent schedules and other things. Once that contract draft was written, the other side did everything In their power to change shit.

Was it worth it? Probably because In the end most went in my favor. But in then end I think our mediator was a clown

Title	Will mediation sort it?
Author	testdummy5115
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Comments	9
Date	March 3, 2023 2:18 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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