Am I Hitting the Wall?

luridlurker · 2023-06-12T22:14:52+00:00

I think i just hit the wall

There is no such thing.

Life can be very tough, but you have to keep pushing on things and find ways to do better.

GlassOfSkimMilf · 2023-06-12T21:49:06+00:00

There is no permanent wall for success. Anyone can become successful at any point in their life. Even CEOs at companies are in their 50's. Can you at the very least grind at a fast food place or grunt work? Anything is better than nothing short-term and you can gain valuable skills doing grunt work.

As for looks, that's all subjective anyways, just keep working at it to be healthy, because you'll have to do that for the rest of your life anyways. Your looks will fade, as will everyone else's. Looks only provide short-term gain anyways. Even those that get surgical work done end up looking like aliens eventually.

fallingwhale06 · 2023-06-13T05:13:04+00:00

No such thing as the wall. I am incredibly sorry for what you are going through and that you feel you are at a wall, but you aren’t. Life can get better at that your age, you are still a young man. You can still attract looks, you can change careers or jobs, you can be happy, and you can be successful. It is all possible, even if it doesn’t seem so from your current perspective. It really is possible to have things turned around, and you are strong enough to do so.

It is great that you are going to the gym, keep that up. It is great for your health, both mentally and physically. Keep a strong relationship with your mother. Living with a parent is hard and may strain it, but remember how much you love them and what that relationship means for you, even if you may move out someday. Definitely work on sending out CVs. It may be hard as hell, and you may need to switch into a new field or work a job for a while that is below your experience. You don’t need to be tethered to it forever, you just need something that gets you on your feet.

Life has a way of turning itself around, and it is great that you are going to the gym and having a honest discussion about what you want out of life. I think you can see what you want, and I hope that my response and some others can help you see the path to get there. You CAN do it, it is fucking possible brother. I wish you the best of luck, and continue to use subs like this and other outlets for help in your journey. No man is an island, and we can and should depend on each other for our growth along this journey through life of ours.

HelenHavok · 2023-06-13T08:55:57+00:00

The wall doesn’t exist. It’s completely made up and arbitrary. Some RP/Mgtow influencers claim it’s 35 or 30 or 27 or 22 or even 20! In the past, people talked about midlife crises, but that doesn’t have the horrid finality of the RP wall. It was just a feeling of discontent and/or depression, not societal dismissal. No one outside of gamified dating culture even knows the term “the wall.”

It sounds like you’re struggling with depression and would benefit from some therapy. You aren’t where you’d like to be in life and that feeling is kind of poisoning everything. Being chronically unemployed is daunting! You may need someone to help you deal with this frustration and form a game plan for moving forward. I’m sorry things are so tough right now!

No_Jelly_6635 · 2023-06-13T11:28:54+00:00

Hey I’m about to be 31 and let me tel you. When you don’t have everything “together” by 30 you get ANXIOUS. If you scroll down my post history you can see how much the concept of “the Wall” scared the living shit out of me. And how I thought I passed my prime as a woman. Then I realized it’s not true and God has bigger plan for me ❤️

Almost every millennial is going through it. It’s because society has this idea that if you don’t have a house, career, kids etc by 30 then you failed and you’re weird etc. and it’s simply not true. I know you are probably used to hearing the opposite and the common “ you are a loser” rhetoric from red pill creators but honestly they’re ALL miserable and don’t practice what they preach.

30 was a rough year for me but I’m entering 31 so happy and still single with no real relationship experience and still working on finances and professional career trajectory. I’m developing a positive mindset because I look back at what I have gone through and what is to come. Honestly our lives JUST started!

It’s all perspective. There are people who die before 30 and you are still here. There are people that hit all the milestones “on time” and then die, get cancer, get cheated on, divorced, their kids die, lose their money etc. life is harsh and complicated so don’t compare yourself to others. Most people are struggling and scared. Look at what you have instead of what you don’t. Also worry about your health as number 1.

Whenever that feeling of anxiety hits you just accept it don’t fight it and let yourself feel it. Then reassure yourself that you are exactly where you need to be and remind yourself about what you have and what you’re grateful for.

Be grateful! It makes a difference. Also listen to a lot of positive affirmations. It changed a lot for me ❤️❤️❤️

WolfOutrageous1374 · 2023-06-12T21:13:04+00:00

Go speak to a trusted family member/close friend or professional.

Because anybody can post there you wont find good guidance

patheticinsecurelser · 2023-06-14T10:24:44+00:00

The wall is when you die, please stop the rhetoric. ur microcritising urself

RedPillDetox · 2023-06-15T09:18:10+00:00

You're a man, you don't really hit "the Wall", whatever that made up shit is anyway

RedViperofCorn · 2023-06-16T19:17:32+00:00

There is no such thing, but to prove a point, the average age of the current UFC champions is 32.

DragonflyAromatic793 · 2023-06-16T20:42:13+00:00

the wall is for women not men.

Title	Am I Hitting the Wall?
Author	MrBlenton
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	June 12, 2023 8:23 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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