Deep self hatred is my only reason for improving.

RedPillDetox · 2021-04-04T14:11:43+00:00

when it comes to dating you need to have something to offer.

You don't need to have something to offer when it comes to dating. Have you never seen people you found unattractive dating? It's true it's more difficult but most people eventually date. Quit this stupid idea that you need to be perfect to nail a date.

Besides that, it all comes down to personal well being? What do you prefer? Work you ass off, get a date and be miserable or chill, be single and happy?

GoodFaithSockPuppet · 2021-04-04T16:32:45+00:00

For the headaches? Look into if you are sleep grinding your teeth. Oral nerves, referred pain, and then a terrible waking headache. The pain then saps your morale and energy.
Mouth guards can help there.
Also, rituals before bed to put the day away. If you can put the day away, set it down, and release? You may find an improvement in sleep quality, which can then banish the headaches, and improve morale.

When your morale is low, everything hurts more and nothing feels worth it. Before you work on the self-hate, work on the sleep quality.

As for self-hatred? I have some things you need to remember:

"You are a World Champion"
"You are an Awesome Bastard" (I mean it in a good way)
"You are to be the best version of yourself, for yourself, and only you can be that man."
"You are the prize as your life is for the making."
"The purpose of life is to embrace living it."

Do not worry about Self-Hate or Self-Love. Examine the capacity within yourself to accept love. To give love.
"My relationship to them. That we came into the world for the sake of one another." — Marcus Aurelius

Good luck.

Inareskai · 2021-04-04T17:05:30+00:00

As always my first thought is are you seeking professional help? Because this sounds much more like some form of anxiety or similar, and there are definitely techniques that you can use to manage unrealistic expectations for yourself.

You absolutely can be in a relationship with 'nothing to offer', or at the very least lifting isn't something I'd personally consider something to offer. You offer your time, opinions, thoughts etc. You talk about physical things in the post, and whilst those can help get your foot in the door (so to speak), it is generally the case that regardless of gender people prefer to be in a relationship with someone they get on with who doesn't lift than someone who lifts all the time but doesn't 'offer' emotional or conversational input.

thetruthishere_ · 2021-04-05T02:28:18+00:00

Most people on the planet are average, living average lives looking average yet still date and marry.

hagakurejunkie · 2021-04-07T00:15:52+00:00

Well, at least you're doing something. But damn, realize that dating and women are not the be-all, end-alls in life. They're a nice to have, they're fun to be with while they're here and when they're gone, you won't really miss them in the long run.

But women are just people. Pussy is nice but it's not made of gold. It won't solve your life's problems and it doesn't come with a lambo and a bag of money.

But I will say, stop acting like the only women you can date are these mythical 8's, 9's, and 10's. The BEST women I've ever dated in my life, the ones I miss the most, were all about 6.5-7.5's. They had great personalities and I had a lot of fun with them.

I rarely think of the super hot girls I hooked up with because physically they were hot but mentally, they were boring. All they did was literally talk about how hot they were.

SNOOOOOOOOORRRREEEE!!!

There are PLENTY of women to date out there and the average woman is not structurally ugly. In fact, I bet I could take any 5 and get her in shape and she'd be hot.

Besides, what would you rather have; the super hot chick who offers little more than mediocre sex or the fun fit 6 who is crazy about you, thinks you're the sweetest guy she's ever met and loves the hell out of you?

I don't know about you but I'm taking the 6 chick ALL DAY!!! You can keep that annoying-ass 9 with her full DM's.

Title	Deep self hatred is my only reason for improving.
Author	shopkeep_sam
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	April 4, 2021 12:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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