Giving up

babybelly · 2020-02-07T13:46:16+00:00

i agree with your drive towards independence but i cant help but feel that the toxicity is getting to you.

I_like_the_word_MUFF · 2020-02-07T12:40:07+00:00

Seriously, i get your lack of faith in humanity. It's not easy being outside the norm, by choice or not. Honestly, my entire childhood up to 17 years old was a god damn nightmare. I'm 45 now and every once in awhile I will get a flash of something horribly awkward or embarrassing that happened to me when I was young and I can feel my chest tighten with anxiety.

The thing is, life is strange. There's a massive group of people who toe the line on the status quo. They care about everything having to do with being accepted socially. When they're young it's about dating and clothes. How to be 'cool' enough to be included. When you get older you see those same people, married, two kids, a dog and the house in the suburbs. They work endless jobs, pay endless bills, go to endless pta meetings just to be judged over and over again.

But nobody tells you that you can opt out. I figured that out along with a shit ton of other people. You don't have to dress cool, you can be anti-consumption and there you'll find a bunch of folks who just don't care about stuff like that.

You can opt out of the big 50 year soul draining career and do something crazy, join the peace corps and literally end up across the world with other folks trying to drop out and do something more meaningful.

You can opt out of one thing, or everything. I opted out of the linear life. I ended up in college at 40 after opting out of my former career. I opted out of drinking a long time ago because I realized people who drink are more likely to be assholes. Now a majority of my friends don't drink and never have.

Everyone, male and female, goes through this bullshit. Some of us opt in to the lifestyles they sell us on tv, internet, and glossy magazines. The rest of us, a real majority, opts out of much of it. The thing you need to remember is as your opting out, you need to find others who opt out too. Not just people exactly like you, everyone, male/female, no matter their race, religion, or ethnicity. Opt out people don't care about your Autism except for the fact that it makes you uniquely you. They'll take time to know you, because they need time to get to know them. Opt out people don't rely on social ques, like how you dress and what you do, to lable you.

Before you give up, give in to really exploring the people who have opted out of "dating strategy", "big money careers", "marriage culture", and "politics of identity". That's just a few. Don't run into another tribe for security like some do. TRP/MGTOW are the same as any tribe, a group that opts in to an ideology. Opting out means not seeing one way to do life, no ideology necessary. Don't look for people who are "against" anything, that's not opting out.

It's ok to put all the pressure down and say, " Nope, I'm out." , but it's only a start. The best part of that decision is somewhere along the way you notice the rest of the opt out people. You never notice them when you're busy worrying about how will people judge you. When you stop letting society dictate your anxiety, you come to realize that there's more opt out people than you think.

GCWanderer · 2020-02-08T07:38:45+00:00

While you're deleting dating apps and the like, you might also want to take a break from reddit and Any other form of social media, along with mainstream news for a while. I'm serious about this. It sounds like you've filled your head with a lot of negativity and it's not helping you be any happier.

Go and find yourself some hobby to pursue, whether it's hiking in nature, playing the guitar or whatever. Just something you can totally dedicate yourself to for long enough to actually get good at it. Do this for a while and you'll realise that life is beautiful if you truly live it on your own terms, and stop letting the Internet and mainstream media fill your head with bullshit.

brahmidia · 2020-02-07T06:26:01+00:00

Autism can sure make it very hard to form human relationships, and it sounds like you're very depressed about it too. You're thinking very negatively about a wide swath of people, which is pretty fallacious and unhealthy.

I think swearing off dating for awhile is a great idea, and I think focusing on simply enjoying life and maybe having a decent amount of platonic human contact would be good for you. The pressures of "dating" are immense and have never been useful for me even though I'm now married. Simply working on having a few friends and improving yourself as a person is my advice. Your goal of applying yourself to your work is fine, but I think you'll also discover that a well-balanced "diet" of healthy food, physical activity, human contact, culture, etc, are necessary to do something like earn a million dollars over any short timeframe. Existing in a vacuum can sound tempting, but earning a million bucks will necessarily involve human interaction so managing that with a modicum of success will help you greatly.

2020-02-10T12:16:33+00:00

Coming from someone who is depressed and sometimes thinks the same way. You're not doing yourself any favors by only focusing on the bad of humans. Despite the pain there are people that exist that you can definitely find that will be worth having in your life. They won't be perfect but neither are you.

roomspace · 2020-02-07T05:23:20+00:00

My advice would be to go on your own path. Don’t worry about the “dating scene”, because through life you’ll meet people on a similar path to you. Hope all is well :)

Rudd504 · 2020-02-07T05:38:15+00:00

It seems that you have thought through this quite a bit. Based on your reasoning, I totally agree with your decision.

raych7887 · 2020-02-15T21:55:57+00:00

Maybe you're asexual

c_ee3 · 2020-02-18T23:14:04+00:00

I relate to this a lot. I’m currently 20 and was diagnosed with a spectrum disorder. I also know that I am able to view the world from a different perspective. When I was 16 I had my ego and cultural conditioning dissolved by acid I have not been the same (I can see why it’s outlawed). I discovered a unique individuality that I developed through personal accomplishments and moral building. Personally, I am someone of faith so I am actually looking forward to build my career in IT and hopefully have kids one day and become self sufficient (homesteading). I understand what you’re saying when you hint about the greed of the common man. After months of studying the corporate greed I have come to realize that a select few evil men run the world. Through social engineering they are able to mold cultures and generations to their liking. I even recently found out that my fathers business partner was a speaker for the Kabbalah. (Jewish mystical tradition) aka Satanism. I do not resent my father in any way as he’s a great hearted person and just wants the best for his family. As I began to talk to him about all the research I had done on Satans works he just asks why it’s even important. After hearing this I concluded that it is solely due to the difference in our thinking (and age) that he can’t really comprehend. He is just one of many Americans controlled and conditioned by culture and media. I wish you the best in your journey of finding yourself. Just remember that you have as many masters as you have vices.

when_its_too_late · 2020-02-19T02:01:54+00:00

You know, I feel the exact same way. Literally you read my mind. But...

I have found some pride in existence and being around other people by having higher standards and values than they do and openly expressing them to the point people notice and look at themselves and think..."hmm maybe I'm just so boring and average that I need to do something human with my life".

That and I will say, trp cold approach actually fucking works with EVERYONE.

Title	Giving up
Author	ihaveasmallpeniss
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	February 7, 2020 4:04 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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