How to stop “relapsing” ?

RedPillDetox · 2022-05-11T12:23:30+00:00

If you were TRP you wouldn't stop being hurt. TRP just gives you the illusion of control by filling your head with a bunch of made up concepts that you can relate to justify a dating failure like "i failed this shit test, next time if i pass it it shall succeed", but in reality it's all an illusion, since there's always something you can pick up to justify why you failed on dating. It's just like religion - You pray, and if it works, you don't even question anything regarding why it worked, you just conclude it's because God exists and rewarded you, but if it fails you starting asking yourself why: "Must have been because i didn't pray hard enough, i didn't have enough faith in God, etc".

What's worse, TRP also inevitably fills your head with a lot of insecurities like "she's gonna cheat because hypergamy, i need to be ready", etc... which also makes you suffer obviously.

So, all in all, relapsing to TRP makes no sense. It won't stop you from being hurt, so quit interpreting anything through a red pill lens. The only real "harsh reality" in dating is that it can be frustrating because we often fail to read other people's intentions and often there's not much we can do other than trying to net get hurt or duped.

vcreativ · 2022-05-11T10:03:47+00:00

Well reflected post.

For a relapse to occur the underlying need hasn't been addressed yet. There's something that RP gives you, that you cannot yet provide for yourself. I suspect it's a sense of security (through avoidance of reality, subscribing to the preachings of a leader as a "follower").

I’m really tired of it and modern dating generally.

You don't actually have to date. Nor would I recommend doing it regularly. It seems like fun, but you will get depressed. Spend quality time with yourself figuring out your needs first. It's allowed for this to take time.

It just seems like everyone’s trying not to get hurt by hurting other people.

You're quite right, healthy, this is not. These are not people to get into a relationship with or even to keep close. You will get hurt. But not everyone is like that, the key lies in finding the right people and knowing how to select for them.

A lot of that happens internally, we don't tend to select for healthy partners by default, but rather for partners that match us right now.

The key then would be to heal and mature first, then select a partner.

Overall, though, you seem well reflected, so I am not particularly worried about you, reflection is the key in healing and moving past any type of cultlike behaviour.

LOTEZK · 2022-05-11T12:32:53+00:00

Unfortunately you’ve been exposed to the red pill. There’s really no going back.

You’re essentially trying to become “no pill” without realizing it. That’s the same mental feat as reaching enlightenment or self actualization.

Focus on rebuilding trust with women. That’s the name of the game.

Yesm3can · 2022-05-11T13:21:03+00:00

In which way does your mind revert to? To AWALT? To alpha-beta? Or to the healthiest thought that ever came from TRP but hardly practiced, aka the abundance mentality?

Stick to abundance mentality if you really have to relapse. So you got hurt, the ones hurting you will always be fewer than the total possible amount of women you will run into in your life. You are just 22. And no reason not to try again with different individuals, you know?

Dumber is RP way of trying to game a relationship/attraction with a certain person. Gaming relationships/interactions are just time wasting and stress inducing.

Title	How to stop “relapsing” ?
Author	poplin01
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	May 11, 2022 9:15 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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