I’ve read RP boards out of morbid curiosity and I personally feel that most of it is about how to create and reinforce a trauma bond... especially how to spark an intense toxic obsessive/chasing abandonment reaction or trigger in women. I firmly believe that RP for men, is like an instruction manual for “gaming” traumatized women for maximum sex (which really seems to be about validation and power in an RP context).

The truth is that childhood trauma and personality disorders are extremely harmful and warps relationship skills in both genders. My own mother is NPD and I’m the one who encouraged my father to leave and to not allow himself to be treated this way ever again. There’s much talk about women dating “jerks” but almost no talk about educating men about abuse and neglect and how it shouldn’t be accepted from anyone, to anyone. Regardless of gender. I really believe that this unawareness is a massive issue poisoning gender relations.

I see way too many men accepting abuse, manipulation and neglect in exchange for sexual access and way too many women accepting the same, for commitment access. I advocate for singlehood and celibacy if a healthy and mutual relationship is not available. Yes, we are an animal species and the most attractive men and women will have more options for partners. But I don’t see why learning to manipulate and play on other people’s trauma just for sex or commitment, is truly worth it to anyone. Is the dopamine from “RP-obtained sex” or “a relationship just to have a relationship” a worthy replacement for the mutual and honest love that a lot of these posters seem to truly want? I think that mutual and honest love is an objectively rare thing, for average or below average looking people of both genders. It’s normal for average or below average looking people to be single for long periods of time, waiting for something real. If you have to manipulate someone and be a false self for them to be with you, is it worth it?

The only “RP advice” I support is working on and valuing yourself. This includes your health, and seeking positive, productive platonic and occupational social relationships. But honestly, that is not RP advice. That is just a recap of even the most generic life advice that’s out there.