Any advice for a girl who hates commitment?

fistfulloftosca · 2019-10-21T22:46:32+00:00

Ahem, earlier this year I decided to go down the same path you are looking at, and I found finding high quality D almost impossible to come by. Then, I came across this much younger guy who was really ripped, a 9/10 "Chad" and low and behold, he blew my mind in bed and I decided he'd be my slam piece.

THEN HE STARTED WHINING that no one thinks he's relationship material and that I just wanted to use him for sex!

Seriously, cannot win with men.

linalinaloo · 2019-10-21T12:31:42+00:00

That’s kind of a tough one. It sounds like you’re looking for FWB. My suggestion would be to keep playing the field until you find a few high quality dicks and then just rotate through those. Tinder and OkCupid are decent places to find those. Or go out and meet dudes at a bar or the gym.

SluttyPuss · 2019-10-21T14:32:02+00:00

You don’t have to do all that stuff, wearing makeup, dressing up, waxing. Most guys will sleep with you regardless. I mean yeah be clean and presentable but you don’t have to go to any efforts you wouldn’t expect a guy to go to. I don’t wear uncomfortable shoes, makeup, jewelry, or spend any extra time on my hair, etc. I still could probably get like five different guys to come over at any moment. Most guys really don’t hold you to that high of standards for a fwb. If you want to do that stuff for yourself then by all means but doing it to impress a man, especially one you’re only trying to get sex from, is unnecessary and a waste of time.

If you want someone who’s good in bed and cares about making you feel good, make him go down on you first before anything else. If it’s good then you go further. If not, or if he won’t even do it, you say thanks bye and show him the door.

I’ve found the guys who are best in bed are not always the most conventionally attractive. I’m not saying only pick ugly guys but don’t go for the gym rat/ frat boy looking guys. Go for the guys who are sort of bottom range of what you’d find attractive. They’ve typically had to try harder to impress a woman so as a result they’ve had to improve their technique.

mountainbreadcycle · 2019-10-21T12:52:05+00:00

I was about to link some really good advice that I just read this morning on this topic... until I realized it was you that had posted it! I’m currently in the same boat. I’ve been married and now I’m single. I made mistakes in my youth, but now that I’m “older and wiser”, my standards are higher. I’m not interested in being married again, and I like the freedom of being single. A previous commenter mentioned meeting a few high quality dicks and rotating through them. I think I agree. Though, I tried online apps in my youth for a long time (with varied success), I think I prefer meeting people in person instead. Joining groups that share my values has given me the biggest success. I mean the type of group that gets together in real life to do shared activities. Sure there are lower quality men who try to get attention. I’m just polite and friendly with them and wait to determine, through conversation, which others I might like to bang. I think we can still expect the high standards that we discuss in this sub, even if we’re not dating these men. I expect my FWB(s) to already have and provide the drinks and food, especially when in his home. And I expect his home to be clean, sheets washed. I expect him to have hygiene. Your list rounds out the rest of my expectations as well.

Petra-24 · 2019-10-21T20:46:07+00:00

I feel the same way. My only advice is to get several quality dicks and rotate. That's what I do. I had the problem of developing crushes on my FWBs, when I used to only have one. But I have found that if I avoid having sex with the same man twice, I stay clear of all that. So get several quality dicks and rotate, is my advice.

drunky_crowette · 2019-10-23T05:04:55+00:00

Use tinder to find hookups and adopt an animal?

Babystrauser · 2019-10-21T16:50:37+00:00

Have you maybe thought Of trying women? 😂😂😂

Petra-24 · 2019-10-22T02:20:14+00:00

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StopBeingAPlate · 2019-10-21T15:38:13+00:00

Go to therapy and figure out the root cause of your fear of commitment.

Toxic_Gamer_Memes · 2019-10-24T21:45:45+00:00

Really, I found there is no good way to tell if a guy has good dick. It's mainly just luck.

But a relationship without commitment? I'm not sure I'm following, what exactly are you looking for? Because from experience, a relationship functionally CANNOT work without commitment from both parties.

Title	Any advice for a girl who hates commitment?
Author	SluttyPuss
Upvotes	11
Comments	28
Date	October 21, 2019 9:50 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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