Any coming back from this?

THE_ANGRY_SHARTER · 2019-09-22T07:51:44+00:00

Yes.

Has exclusivity been explicitly discussed and agreed to, by both parties?
If the answer to #1 is YES, then back off. Begin the slow fade. STOP texting him first. Cut that out IMMEDIATELY. NEVER DO IT AGAIN. EVER!!! When he texts you back, NEVER EVER EVER EVER respond immediately. Always make him wait at least 30 minutes for a response. An hour is ideal.
If the answer to #1 is NO. Do NOT assume exclusivity. Do NOT be exclusive to a man who isn't exclusive to you. NEVER EVER EVER DO THIS! ALWAYS date at LEAST 3. Date 5 or more at a time if you know you need more attention than that. Make them all work hard to secure exclusivity with you. You'll discover a few things by doing this. First, when you're out on dates and YOU don't bring up the "what are we" discussion, he'll get curious as to why. When he does get curious, he'll bring it up himself. When he does, act surprised and like it's not a big deal. Make him work for the answer.

Once one of them asks you to be exclusive, you'll have to cut off the other 3 or 5 or whatever. Most of them will defensively push harder for you, as you break it off with them. IDK why they do that, but it ALWAYS happens.

Never EVER EVER EVER EVER get stuck on any one dude. There are THOUSANDS of men out there. OLD is a woman's game. You can get a new boyfriend within hours while an attractive man has to send hundreds of messages just to get 2% to 5% of them to text back. It's just reality.

They're not unique or special. There's dozens of them out there and you will find a New boyfriend faster than he will a new girlfriend.

Never forget that. YOU are the prize. YOU ARE THE TROPHY.

RussianAsshole · 2019-09-22T09:00:03+00:00

Kissing is best reserved for a second date at the very least. You texted first after a date, never do that, and complimented him which lets him know that you’re on his dick and therefore don’t have to work to impress you (hence the flaking) cause you’re already impressed. Your home is sacred. You don’t know him all that well yet and you’re inviting him into your temple? Your home is only for the men who Meet your standards and have known for a WHILE and deserve it. Just make sure these things don’t happen again.

Pull back on the attention, taking initiative to plan dates, and compliments. He will wonder why the sudden lack of attention and seek out yours. Lack of contact intrigues men since they’re hard wired to chase. When he texts, reply an hour later.

normabelka · 2019-09-22T08:55:43+00:00

Yeah, lean back, act like you’re not interested. Don’t initiate texts anymore!!

AverageToHot · 2019-09-22T22:34:46+00:00

Stop initiating. Don’t text him after a date to compliment him. Don’t initiate a date. Let him make all the moves so he can prove himself worthy of you.

sweetbitchvibes · 2019-09-23T12:48:08+00:00

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Title	Any coming back from this?
Author	furcoat_noknickers
Upvotes	6
Comments	18
Date	September 22, 2019 7:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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