Be a queen. Never beg. Never chase.

bambamdum

March 18, 2020

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Title	Be a queen. Never beg. Never chase.
Author	bambamdum
Upvotes	2407
Comments	21
Date	March 18, 2020 7:21 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fkvd6b/be_a_queen_never_beg_never_chase/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/be-a-queen-never-beg-never-chase.679982 https://theredarchive.com/post/679982

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I believe this to a point. Never do that obscenely trashy "BITCH U STOLE MY MAN!!1!" shit. There was nothing to steal, you never owned him. He broke the promise, not her.

However, there is nothing wrong with regarding the other woman - provided she knew that you existed - as a massively low value woman. I find a lot of those women tend to try to "reach out" ("Like, OMFG, he was such a jerrrrrk, what were we thinking girlfriend?!") when things go kaput in their subsequent relationship with the guy, because as someone said, how you get him is how you lose him. I've actually had this happen to me multiple times, and I have no qualms about informing her that this would be a discussion better suited for her friends, which we are not. No name-calling, no slut-shaming, but firm and cold and dismissive. Don't let your feminism take you to a place where you let LVW exploit you for emotional labor because "sisterhood."

[–]siberiansummerFDS Disciple23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Oh no, I wasn’t suggesting being buddy-buddy with the bitch. Actually my last interaction with a man went like this: he lived in a different state and I was visiting once in a while because my one very good gf lives there. I started hooking up with him even though I was waaaaaay out of his league. He was smitten by it in the beginning and was super sweet with me, took me around town a lot and always paid for everything. Well the last time I went there I brought my “friend” with me. The girl was 5 years older than me and it showed, not nearly as attractive and heavier than me. What do you think happened? He switched to her lmao! It wasn’t obvious but his whole demeanor changed. Then they went on a date behind my back saying it was just a friendly hang out and they didn’t even kiss. I cut them both off. Gone. Bye. Get the fuck out. Botha tried to contact me multiple times. Nah. I don’t keep snakes in my life. The “friend” tried to play all that “Oh sis let’s not argue over a man”. Nah bitch, you knew what you are doing. The door is over there lol

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