Once you've become thoroughly familiar with the spinning plates strategy and its ultimate goal-to have multiple women catering to and bending themselves to accommodate one single man, it becomes crystal clear that you must avoid this scenario. Men who want open relationships (at least for themselves) or want to spin multiple plates do so not because they need variety or that they're just not sure yet but because they want to control you and want to take from you much more than the crumbs they begrudgingly give back. Don't be afraid to be the plate that smashed.