Hey FDSers, I've recently come across a book that is similar to Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, but it is written by a psychiatrist, so goes deeper and gets to the core of the LVM behaviors that LVM display. The author, Martin Kantor, is a Harvard trained MD/PhD psychiatrist who is an expert in personality disorders.

As it turns out, many, if not all LVM are actually deeply psychologically disturbed and this book proves it.

The book also provides examples of behaviors that reflect a guy is unable to have a healthy relationship. What I like about the book, although dense and esoteric, is that you'll find various passages in there that hit the nail on the head and describe LVM we've all met before.

It vindicates all of us who have been saying LVM are actually disturbed individuals. Even subtle LVM behavior like not calling back or being consistent is evidence of a greater issue. Dr. Kantor also confirms that cities are where the most LVM and borderline personality-disordered people flock to. The ebook Distancing is available right here.

I advise everyone to give it a look because it goes through several different scenarios and LVM examples.

Here are some excerpts of the book:

On how mommy's boys are histrionics-

https://preview.redd.it/imqmaawf27v41.png?width=1472&format=png&auto=webp&s=d0f28d5839afcb9ce92635397bf1f86a12957338

On how stingy men have pathological issues and suffer from hatred of women.

https://preview.redd.it/l394ylap27v41.png?width=1632&format=png&auto=webp&s=b517f47ccac8b383fe8ff4087e7bf7a045d96d6f

On how being afraid of success is a real issue.

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On how sadistic LVM are repulsed by honest communication.

https://preview.redd.it/mdaeizo157v41.png?width=1055&format=png&auto=webp&s=0fe8e364ef5659a12c22995608eff130382ad082

LVM have strategies to avoid intimacy with others and dampen the mood.

https://preview.redd.it/ygpbqgyc57v41.png?width=1071&format=png&auto=webp&s=90e95ce44b4363a33871ecab1c422ae6668677bd

On the narcissistic LVM mindset:

https://preview.redd.it/q66vo9jp57v41.png?width=1081&format=png&auto=webp&s=cd82023184eb091f3ae55a212ec1bee22459223e

On the middle-aged avoidant.

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On where the most disordered singles are located.

https://preview.redd.it/evkfpj8i77v41.png?width=1071&format=png&auto=webp&s=52737086aa7f0d38f0eeb406d201c92386457026

On the LVM lack of self-awareness.

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https://preview.redd.it/yvnvgsnx77v41.png?width=1093&format=png&auto=webp&s=daf81aa39be43304525374c6cdd37a220d23b2bd

If you all have some time, check the book out to learn the subtle personality tells that tell you he is a LVM not fit for a relationship. Happy reading!