There are so many coaches and books out there that want the woman to be agreeable and let the man lead. Telling a woman to be quiet and let a man lead because he will like her more that way is really horrible misguided advice. Yes, abusive LVM will love her. They loved me when i took this advice. My relationships were always typical but the more and more dating advice I took like this the worse the men I attracted became. Telling a woman not to state her preferences and not create arguments and speak as much as she wants is toxic advice. Most women who have dating questions and the reason these coaches and books even exist is because the woman is a toxic relationship with a LVM. These things are not issues with HVM. Do not conform to this advice. This will not make you more attractive to a HVM. It will make you attractive and able to be groomed by LVM. Protect yourself. Really angry it took me this long to figure this out.