I’m sure most of us have been pressured into trying new things by a man at some point. Well, I’m finally withholding sex from men for an extended period of time. And having a high sex drive I am trying to spice it up for myself. Well getting a small anal plug and fooling around I have determined I definitely do not enjoy anal. Self discovery of this type of play is much safer than leaving it in the hands of another, who could be aggressive, lacking knowledge, pornsick with unrealistic expectations of certain kinks. Or just overall unable to communicate to make you feel safe.

Now that I have discovered this on my own, I feel much more confident to turn down specific advances and explain my reasoning if I’m ever in a situation again where it’s brought up.

This knowledge combined with other FDS strategies make me feel much more confident to stand up for myself and recognize the difference between a discussion and manipulation.