So my ex was blegh but his dad was amazing. His dad was seriously a second father to me and he really lived a good wholesome life. He peacefully coparents with his ex wife, he's remarried, with 3 boys, has an amazing job, funny, playful, extroverted and amazing with kids. If im being honest a big reason I didn't want to break up with my ex is out of hope he could be the type of man that his dad is. (He wasn't.)

But one time, he said something that was weird. A family member of their just had their 3rd girl and he goes "Yikes. What a bummer for them." Then he looks at me, the only woman in the room, and says "No offense. Girls are cute when they're small, but then they grow up." he said it in such a disapproving way too. It made me sad tbh. Because even the best of men are still kinda sexist at their core.