I have an advantage here - I've been a ghost in this town for years, I moved here with no warning and cut my old life off, including everyone in it. I'm in a very unique position where I'm completely clean for the first time in my life, nobody has a story to tell about me. I'm just me, as I am, and I want to use that.

Last 'relationship' was a real nasty, toxic, violent (on both sides), drug and alcohol fueled non-relationship with a highly insecure, fragile little shit who likes to degrade women to feel big. It didn't have a label. That short term liaison was off the back of another turbulent shitshow with a man double my age.

I've been single since and not hooking up with anyone or dating for three years. Spent a lot of time to getting my head together, stopped drinking heavily, stopped taking drugs etc. But I'm worried I don't know when the right time to get out there is, and whether I'll regret getting back in the dating pool once I do.