How do you stop feelings from developing?

saraperche · 2020-11-19T19:40:34+00:00

It's hard but this is what works with a lot if discipline:

do not engage in any daydreaming about them. Stop and begin thinking about something else when you catch yourself imagining yourself with them. Every single time.
try not to think about them at all between the dates. Don't walk around in anticipation for their phone call or the next date. Talk to other guys and go on dates with them. You are still determining who'd be the best match for you.
don't romanticize his gestures and actions. Sometimes we begin feeling giggly and in love just because they put in some effort into impressing us during the early stages. Judge everything from the position of an employer looking for the best candidate for a position that assumes a lot of responsibility. You have a lot at stake - your sanity, your life, your future children.
have another source for those feel-good chemicals so you don't become dependent on him for them. Think what makes you "high" and keep engaging in those activities, prioritize them and never cancel them to prioritize your time with him. For many people it's some sort of a communal activity that gives a rush of those feel - good chemicals, such as a night with close friends, community fiesta or anything where you feel a part of the group. For me it's also a time alone in nature. You have your own "drug", use it.
Keep yourself busy. Mentally and physically.

2020-11-19T19:51:04+00:00

Actively seek out other men, either via OLD or irl. As long as your mind isn’t zeroing in him and him alone, that’s all that matters.

cat-inspector · 2020-11-20T01:16:53+00:00

Personally I don’t date or anything because I don’t get feelings. It’s crazy easy for me to not be emotional because:

There’s better. There’s always better There’s plenty of fish in the sea realistically

Most importantly; The moment things go south, being able to cut off the relationship seamlessly will be beneficial to you moving forward and not going back.

Seeing things as a good vs. bad investment helps

Edit: this works with friendships, co workers..etc. keeping things formal helps establish boundaries

pumpkin-pied · 2020-11-20T07:32:53+00:00

i'm currently on the verge of getting ~ f e e l i n g s ~ for a person i've only been talking to for two days. their tactic is to "open up" and talk about seemingly deep philosophical things in order to invoke a trauma bond. STAY AWAY. ask yourself why you like them so much, ask yourself what makes you interested in them in first place. then ask yourself if those are qualities you can curate for yourself, and become that one person you would date and have feelings for. stay strong queen! ✨💓

level_up_always · 2020-11-20T20:07:07+00:00

ROSTER DATING - ALWAYS HAVE MORE THAN ONE
DON'T HAVE SEX

doing both of these will literally eliminate 80% of your problems

yesmme · 2020-11-22T16:31:07+00:00

I take them at their word so well that I plan my future without them. Thinking about going back to school? Go for it. Book that visa to go abroad next month (obviously before it was COVID)? No problem. Buy a house? Yes please. And obviously date others. I do everything on my own anyway (go to the movies by myself, go out to dinner by myself, etc) that ultimately, the only thing I need a man for is sex but even at that, the quality of men is so low that I don’t even want to bother sleeping with them. Toys will never disrespect you.

Title	How do you stop feelings from developing?
Author	rbas2020
Upvotes	56
Comments	10
Date	November 19, 2020 6:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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