~ archived since 2018 ~

How to catch them cheaters

spiceylifey

August 27, 2020

82 upvotes

/r/FemaleDatingStrategy

https://v.redd.it/ky7nd1dnygj51

Download the post

Want to save the post for offline use on your device? Choose one of the download options below:

PDF TXT EPUB

Support the archive

Everything here was supposed to disappear. Banned subreddits, deleted communities, cancelled blogs — much of what is archived here survives nowhere else.

It stays free — no paywall, no account — for the next man who comes looking, the way it was free for you.

I pay for the servers, the storage and the bandwidth myself. If you want this record still standing in ten years, become one of the people who keeps it online.

Support the archive

Post Information

Title	How to catch them cheaters
Author	spiceylifey
Upvotes	82
Comments	10
Date	August 27, 2020 4:03 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ihe6lp/how_to_catch_them_cheaters/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/how-to-catch-them-cheaters.171610 https://theredarchive.com/post/171610

Comments

[+][deleted] 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

[deleted]

[–]SuccessfulShow5Pickmeisha™️40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Sage_PlanterFDS Disciple25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

My ex got super moody. I went through him phone and found out his dad had another suicide attempt. He couldn't really talk about his father much, it got him too sad.

I used the info to be more patient. It benefited both of us - there was no sense in me being suspicious when we had being loyal. And he wasn't actually hurt by me going through his phone. In fact, I was more patient and gave him space but acted super eager to do things that I knew would cheer him up. He told me in his own time, maybe 3 or 4 days later on the weekend, and the fact that I snooped literally harmed no one. It also avoided the "CoMmUnIcAtE wItH HiM" advice - I already knew something was wrong, and an accusation of cheating wouldn't have help.

I don't think it's appropriate to just do it whenever you feel like, but if you're suspicious I think it's fine. I don't judge women for it. I think it's one of those scenarios where it's better to do it than not - I won't regret having snooped but I would have regretted not doing it.

[–]llamasinspace420FDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I never went through my ex's phone. Not once. We had the same passwords for a while so I never felt the need, and I trusted him, we lived together. Eventually, he started acting shady about his phone, and one night I asked to read an article he was showing me on his phone and although he let me, he hovered behind my back and snatched the phone back before I could even finish the article. I asked why. No answer I asked to see his phone, he said no, had the deer in headlights look. When I pressed the issue he ran upstairs and tried to jump out our bedroom window all in avoidance to show me the phone.

He left not long after with no communication as to why and not even a formal break up. Just showed up with a uhaul after being gone for a few days and left.

To this day, I don't know what was on the phone but I'm not fucking stupid.

[+][deleted] 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

[deleted]

[–]llamasinspace420FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]husheveryoneFDS Apprentice30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]AverageToHotRuthless Strategist2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link