Got this from a FB group I'm in. I almost linked this subreddit in my comment.

" We are discussing our sexual fantasies. I ask him what would be his ultimate: He says, " you, blindfolded, doing anything I want; sucking cock, eating my ass, fucking your mouth, and fucking your in the ass"(keep in mind this is all sounding awfully lovely in the moment and I'm preparing to fuck like coked-up pornstars following this conversation). Hearing honest turn-ons and dirty talk fuck me all the way up and I need to change panties 😬

Surprisingly, he asks me what my fantasy is, & I feel...stupid. And I don't want to answer. After gentle prodding(combined with my mildly inebriated-& admittedly aroused state-I tell him): 

To be pursued, wooed, wanted. For one night. I want the initiation to come from him. I want to feel wanted. I want to be wanted, pursued, worshipped for one day, 24 hours. Emotionally, physically, etc. (Every relationship I've had I've pursued, worked through, maintained, initiated fucking) 

He told me h'd never do that again. For anyone. He had a relationship from 18-21 that he says he behaved in this way and the ability within him to be like that now "is  fucking dead". He then got frustrated & proceeded to literally tell me the that, " having sex with you tonight is not happening now. There's no way I can with that kinda impossible shit" 😶🙃😭

(Keep in mind we don't do it a lot because he's not that interested in the 1st place) 

ETA: I made sure to tell him that I'd still give him his fantasy and that it wasn't contingent upon mine in any way. Full stop. 

HOWEVER

I'm vulnerable. I'm horny. I was honest. 

Now it's 2:30AM and hrs snoring beside me & I'm crying alone, confused, again. Halp.

This is not the first time we've had conversation about relationship thoughts, expectations, fantasies, conduct and we've differed so harshly.  Am I too sensitive and demanding? Am I asking too much for a simple fantasy? Am I just a fucking immature, idealistic moron??? "

My comment: " He wants you to act as his personal sex doll and you seem down. You literally ask to be treated nice &spoiled a little and he says No. I'm..... Addition bc I'm absolutely flaming: He asks for full control over your body like nbd to the physical demands of that and he has the nerve to be mad over being asked to bring flowers & chocolate one time. Like. WHAT. " I have a few words for that man.