I’m not quite sure if my situation was love bombing or if he genuinely saw something in me and just got sick of me. Me and my now ex started getting to know each other when we were 18 (were 23 rn). Within months of the talking phase and getting to know me, he claimed he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Me, being the pickme that I was, believed every single word. It’s amazing how convincing they seem. During a church trip a few months after that, I then mentioned to him that I wanted to raise our kids in the church (it’s very important to me). I figured that since he claimed he wanted to spend his life with me, that obviously includes children somewhere down the line. Basically, he freaked out and I did apologize because it was uncalled for.

A year into our official relationship (2018) on Valentine’s Day, he mentioned to me that his mom asked him when he was going to propose to me. He then told me “you know that gif of Homer Simpson backing up into a bush? That was me when she asked me that” and in my head I was like, great lol. Jokes on me because that winter, I finally realized that he was the one I wanted to be with. I didn’t say shit because clearly he didn’t feel that way towards me. In the three years we’ve dated, there was no talk about marriage, children, where we’d live in the future, where we’d go on our honeymoon, or just talk like that. Clearly he has a negative view of marriage or he just didn’t love me enough to want to marry me in the future.

A few months before the breakup, he had sent me a meme about something having to do with girlfriends and their requirements (I don’t remember lmao but it was within that context) and one of them mentioned of kids. As a response to the meme, I mentioned that I would be really good with kids and just an overall good mom. He freaks the hell out as if I was pregnant with his child lol... I then told him to calm down and that I was just responding to the meme. Lord give me patience...