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| 1 | Thoughts on "Dream Home Makeover" Couple from NetflixNot really - more like you can tell he is using her as beard or likely in denial. Growing up in the church myself I’ve seen this happen several times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/22 10:16 PM |
| 3 | My parents’ relationship has taught me that I want a man who is everything my father isn’t.Yeah my dad loves my mom too and they are best friends. However my dad has never made more money than my mom (he retired with little benefits) while my mom is still working and the one supporting the household. Yet my dad demands to be treated as head of the household… He could have gone out and gotten a job in the last couple of years but he hasn’t. He does basic chores and light cooking for her (but if the roles were reversed would that be enough as a house wife? Definitely not). He’s also emo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 07:11 PM |
| 17 | Men are two-faced & will say one thing to you & a whole other thing about you“So you’re just not going to show…” what did you think was gonna happen lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:18 PM |
| 22 | Men are two-faced & will say one thing to you & a whole other thing about youI don’t think it was on purpose. This idiot accidentally sent it to her and tried to save face but he knew it was over. He was just hoping she was dumb enough to buy his lie. Which explains why he sent her those follow up messages playing victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:13 PM |
| 98 | Can we talk about how aggressively men get off on cheating, getting caught, and NOT getting broken up with immediately? Their egos are astronomical at this point.This is all true. My most recent ex would always brag how women don’t ever leave him alone and that they stick to him “like glue.” My ex is tall, extremely fit, handsome, charming, funny. He’s one of the most attractive men I’ve ever seen. And he’s right. I was afraid to lose him, so was his gf after me. He cheated on both of us while we were in the dating stage (according to him that’s not cheating since we weren’t in a relationship - see how men’s loyalty differs from ours). Me and his most re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:53 PM |
| 128 | How hard it is to find a decent man? I am starting to get really upset.I work in healthcare and I see women younger than me (I’m in my early 30s) using fertility meds. I also see lots of women older than me getting pregnant naturally. There’s no hard cut off age for having children. As mentioned, your dr is using old outdate info. My cousin and aunt had their kids in their late late 30s and all are healthy and fine. At most, get another dr and have them do a fertility screening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 09:21 PM |
| 0 | The struggle is real.Who is she? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:20 AM |
| 84 | Scrote wants his mortgage paid offImpossible - didn’t you know only women are the gold diggers? /s But the redpill men will blame her for staying with him. Like he isn’t choosing to stay and take advantage of her vulnerability and lack of self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 12:12 AM |
| 229 | Scrote wants his mortgage paid offReading this made my blood pressure soar. Thank God every comment told her absolutely not. I found the post and went thru her post history. Her boyfriend hates her: they don’t have sex anymore, he puts her down for her weight, comments how he wants to have sex with other women, shows her no affection. Her self-esteem is non existent and it breaks my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 215 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.Thanks but he broke up with me lol 🤡 I did leave him previously, he begged and pleaded for me back, said all the things I wanted to hear. Turns out it was bullshit because he was scared to be alone and lose his safety net (me). A moment of weakness for him lol. He left once he had a lineup of women he knew were interested in sleeping with him and when his friend started showing interest in him. He’s still dating her as far as I know. Good stuff. So I hope this forever gf in the post leaves befor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:25 PM |
| 467 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.How sad. That was me, minus the kids part. When I asked him what he loved about me it was all things I did. When I asked him about fully committing it was a bunch of “I don’t know if I’m ready, I can’t fully commit yet, I can’t give you what you want.” But he was able to do just that with someone else a month after he broke up with me. I doubt she’ll leave, she has too much invested. But I hope she does before he leaves her for someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:11 PM |
| 35 | Overheard: "Insecure women are BAD"When a man doesn’t make his partner feel secure, this is what happens. Assuming the woman stays. “You’re acting desperate” one of my exes told me. I had lost weight at one point, cried on the regular, the things he would say that were so selfish, the things he did that made me question my worth. Of course I was desperate and insecure. It was a lesson learned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 11:45 AM |
| 415 | 💯The biggest scam sold to women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:46 PM |
| 114 | Spotted one in the wild.A man who likes food? Ground-breaking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:58 PM |
| 5 | New to OLDYeah don’t hint at meeting. You’re basically pushing him in that direction. If he wants to ask you out he will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:52 PM |
| 14 | New to OLDJust to clarify, you’ve never dated at all? If so, I would advise you to be extremely cautious. Men can smell inexperienced women a mile away and will do or say anything to “conquer” you. First thing, don’t give out your phone number without having met the person (and even then you don’t have to right away). Stay on the app. You will encounter men trying to get your number because that takes you off the app and more likely to meet/get laid. If you encounter “I’m barely on here lol” then tough fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:51 PM |
| 11 | Husband Hates Wife: CEO Edition. He refers to his wife publicly as a "sucker", she asked HIM out, they dated for 5 years before getting married. This is his anniversary post after 12 years of marriage.What’s the story with Joshua Jackson? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 03:46 AM |
| 30 | Nah sis.She spent $650k to troll her husband? I don’t think so. She thinks this is what she owes him in order for him to take care of her and their baby. She made a tik tok about it too. She’s only 19 so maybe one day she will realize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 03:11 AM |
| 47 | Nah sis.Does Malaysia have April fool’s in March?…cus lord help us if not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 03:08 AM |
| 39 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatNot sure if he’s an actual incel, but the man who just punched that poor elderly Asian woman 125 times has been arrested 14 times in the past and has multiple convictions. In 2021 he pushed a woman through a glass plate window and didn’t get any jail time. He was in prison for 42 months for stabbing his ex in 2010. Why is this man allowed back into society?? Why are people in jail for lesser crimes? The system is a joke and now an elderly woman may die because of it. https://www.cbsnews.com/newy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:11 AM |
| 45 | Nightmare Fuel. My heart is broken for this mother and her daughter.There is no good reason whatsoever someone should be allowed to marry under 18. None. I got into an argument with a female friend about this, sadly. You can’t vote yet but you can marry?? Gtfo. These laws need to change in every state. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:16 PM |
| 7 | The Manlet Propaganda of Tall GirlHaha I dated a guy who was 2-3 inches taller than me who was so insecure about it. God forbid I wear heels, even tho you’re taller than me. He was used to dating much shorter women who inflated his ego just because they were short and that’s how he felt like a man. I don’t think I even mind dating someone who is my height or a bit shorter but I don’t want to deal with their insecurity. I like being my height. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 02:37 AM |
| 32 | The truth about "the wall"Red pill and whereareallthegoodmen believe a woman after 25 is left over goods. 25 lol. And they shit on single mothers daily, while also finding fault with any woman 30+ who hasn’t had kids yet. They’ll fuck any of them tho and use them for everything. My favorite is them being mad that a woman in her late 20s or 30s has raised her standards after toxic relationships - God forbid she realizes she is worth more. You can’t win and you can’t stop growing older so might as well live well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 10:50 PM |
| 35 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?I know someone who is married and cheating on his wife with a psychologist. Crazy thing is the women both know of each other. If she had patients then I feel sorry for them and can’t imagine what she tells them if they come to her for advice about cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 03:24 AM |
| 73 | UPDATE: Part 1 of my 3 experience implementing the 3 month rule. I HAVE MADE A HUUUUUGE MISTAKE with cohabitation.Oh wow I remeber reading your first post. I’m so glad you’re out of that situation. A couple of things I remeber when I first read your post: he was love bombing hard. He felt threatened because he knew you were dating other men and was pulling out all the stops to make sure he won. I’m somewhat torn on telling men about our dating lives. I don’t want to lie, if I’m dating other men, but it’s also not their business if there’s no commitment. If you do tell them, see their reaction. Like this guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 08:33 PM |
| 11 | I finally figured out datingI don’t see 22 as a late bloomer, that still so young. I didn’t have sex until my late twenties. That being said, I’m sure you’re not the only one here having casual sex. It seems to be benefiting you for now but I can see it going down south quickly. Also sleeping with A is already complicated since he wants a relationship with you. Do you, but I would reconsider that relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:51 PM |
| 24 | Wholesome post❤️ i’ll be doing the sameThe comments in this thread…people blaming the parents for his actions because they raised him, some saying cheating isn’t immoral (except like you took a vow lol), saying they’re horrible parents for cutting him out of the will because blood, no matter what you have to leave your money to your children, he’s still young and dumb at 24. I disagree. I’ve seen women on Reddit dragged for the same type of stuff, but the same people saying “he’s still young and dumb at 24” would tell a woman of the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:04 PM |
| 132 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡This is such a blessing. I didn’t find fds until I was 31. You will be saved a lot of heartache 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:04 AM |
| 24 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡Phew I can relate, minus the physical abuse part. The groveling back, flowers, promises. It’s just a second chance for their egos to feel less guilt about how they treated you. Then they dump you when they have someone else in line. Men like this always need to have backup women waiting. They don’t have the courage to end it and be alone. I hope your friend realizes this is her chance to be fully free of him. I hope she blocked him on everything for good. He had his “second” chance and all it go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:56 AM |
| 41 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡Some things can’t be fixed. I know maybe one person/couple where a second chance worked out (as far as I know anyway, we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors). Also it depends on the severity of the boundary crossed or broken promise. Someone treating you terribly and taking you for granted will not change after you end things with them and they beg for a second chance. It wouldn’t even be a second chance - they’ve had many chances to treat you well but everyday they chose not to. Just re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:50 AM |
| 24 | From my feed. Post after post, same ol' BS. And yet scrote tryna pretend they are innocent angels being taken advantage by "manipulative evil" women.Surprisingly no. Most of the comments told the woman with the boyfriend making mean comments that it wasn’t normal partner behavior and downright cruel. Many even told her it’s emotional abuse and she should start planning her exit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:45 AM |
| 5 | HVW tips for long distance relationships?Even plans to move to your area could fall through. Until he moves and courts you seriously, assuming he will, continue your life as usual. Since you are feeling yourself getting carried away, keep dating other people. Stay as busy as possible and remeber you don’t know what he’s doing. He could be dating multiple women or have someone he’s steadily dating. You don’t know so make sure you take what he’s saying with a grain of salt. And let him lead with communication, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:42 AM |
| 4 | What we can learn from model Paulina Porizkova (the latest Aba & Preach video)Red pill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:35 AM |
| 109 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡This is why we don’t give second chances. I think we all have had to learn that the hard way. Does anyone know any couple/person where a second chance was successful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:34 AM |
| 159 | Red pilled Twitter caught encouraging men not to wear condoms and thinks STIs are part of a government conspiracy to keep birth rates down🤡I doubt the dude talking about Stds being “psy-op” would have sex with a woman who tested positive for one. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 04:08 PM |
| 11 | Divorcee's and DatingYes I agree it doesn’t go both ways. But I think it’s perfectly ok to share that if you are asked or when the relationship is progressing. You don’t have to share details, just let the fact be known. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:49 AM |
| 81 | Divorcee's and DatingEven tho I’ve never been married/divorced, I’d would want to know if the person I’m dating is divorced. Most of the time, divorce is not as clean cut as it’s been in your case and I don’t want any surprises of them still pining after their ex, etc. I don’t see anything wrong in stating you are divorced and that bridge is burned, so to speak. And also asking them if they’ve ever been married. You aren’t sharing specific details, but it’s courteous and important to many people to know a detail lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 10:05 PM |
| 217 | This. Is. Horrifying. Husband thinks it’s okay her sister was physically abused and went to the hospital by her boyfriend. Wife hasn’t mentioned leaving him in either post (that I’ve seen)“Going thru some stuff at work” + not in the mood lately = most likely an affair. I hope she divorces him before he starts physically assaulting her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:11 AM |
| 2 | From a FB group: male rando on OLD sends woman low-effort opener asking for personal information, woman states boundary, pickmes are upset she didn’t coddle him enough.Lol she’s a queen. I would have left out the last sentence tho, if I bothered to respond. When I first started OLD, i used to give out my number, Instagram, Snapchat when men (I was interested in) would ask. I quickly learned this was not the way (they can find personal info using your phone number, collect IG followers, if they turn out to be creepy then they have multiple outlets to harass you on, etc). Later on I just unmatched if they asked for social media before meeting. If they gave me th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:31 PM |
| 8 | Learn to be SelfishThank you for this. I watched the women in my family sacrifice and work themselves to the bone for their family. Their husbands only made their lives harder. I could have saved myself so much heartache, money, tears, and stress if I had been taught the power of boundaries and dignity. My grandmother told me too late “it’s a blessing to be single.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:25 PM |
| 78 | Pickme woman giggles as her boyfriend shops for expensive jewelry himself and gets her nothing. A year later, he evicts her and their baby, then beats up her brother with his crew.It’s very telling if you go shopping with a man (especially if you help him shop) and he doesn’t buy you anything. I remeber going plant shopping with a guy I’d been dating. I helped him pick out some great plants that would work with the light in his house. I also picked out a $10 plant for myself I’d been wanting. When we went to pay, he went ahead and paid just for himself. I remeber feeling very disappointed he didn’t even offer to pay for my little ol plant. I wasn’t expecting him to pay, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:48 AM |
| 42 | being male in america hard, so hardAgreed. His life is not at all the life of an average American male. If everything he’s saying is true, then this marriage needs to end. Also if you look thru his comments, someone mentioned that his wife sounds like she’s part of the “FDS cult” and claimed we are just trying to use men for their money lol. While there might be some women on here who do that, many of us are just trying to find a good partner. Being a lazy wife/mom is not fds principles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:37 AM |
| 18 | being male in america hard, so hardAccording to his comments she doesn’t work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:34 AM |
| 25 | Tale as old as timeShe wasn’t necessarily taught by [good] parents or mentors, which is what I mean when I say she wasn’t taught boundaries; more than likely, she’s learning through her experiences. Boundaries need to be broken down, not just “don’t do this, it’s bad,” We need to know why it’s not in our best interest to have sex right away, why we should not take anyone at their words, etc. The last two men she met online were making her hesitant to have sex because they were beginning to show a pattern of hittin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 09:09 AM |
| 77 | Tale as old as timeI know it was stupid on her part, and I’ve done similar. We all have. But in her naivety, she felt she was safe and that she could let her guard down. This is what happens when you are not taught boundaries in your childhood (parents telling you “don’t have sex!” doesnt count). I lost my virginity in a similar fashion, although we didn’t have sex on the first date. I hope she genuinely learns from this and vets vets vets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 01:33 AM |
| 32 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)I have to agree with you. From the minute I saw them and their dynamic, I could tell she was way more into him. Hopefully he is just less public about it, but she seems very vulnerable/innocent and he doesn’t. I hope the best for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:42 AM |
| 30 | The red flags, the entitlement, the audacity 🤡🤯Yup. This is what happens when you move on from them. It’s just thier ego. If you go back to them nothing will change. Leave them to cry about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 08:46 PM |
| 104 | Holy shit this is genius 😂😂😂🤣🤣😂Love this. But honestly, how are people finding multiple men they like to date?? I can’t even find one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:53 AM |
| 42 | Spring Breakup Season Is Coming!Pathetic. I once ended things with a man who was going to party in Mexico for spring break. He wouldn’t let me come with his friends (a mixture of males and females) and I asked him if I could trust him on the trip. He said he didn’t know. So I ended things. We did get back together later on tho lmao 🤡 this was before FDS. I wouldn’t tolerate that now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:48 PM |
| 62 | Heartbreaking. Wife wants to spend time with lv hubby v-day weekend, gets ignored. He admits he’s trash but doesn’t want her with another manI’ve seen so many people in this situation. Men like this just shouldn’t get married. Plenty of folks will say therapy but it would just be her initiating that/forcing it. If he’s not choosing on his own to go to therapy he doesn’t care enough. He won’t change. It’s so hard for people to change and the older they get the less likely it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:29 PM |
| 152 | Spring Breakup Season Is Coming!I’ve known men who would break up with their girlfriends so they could fool around while out of town for spring break (and therefore not technically be cheating). Then they’d get back together with them when they got back from their trip lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:22 PM |
| 5 | What’s your take on this advice: telling a new man you’re dating all the ways your ex treated you well and that it ended because on cheating? She says it will let the man know that your standards are high and nothing could make you put up with it.To an extent, yes. But it’s a good idea to find out as early as possible when their last relationship/situationship ended and if they are still in contact with exes. I’ve dated a few men where I didn’t find out that information early enough; I found out a couple of months in, that he had only broken up with his ex 2 months prior and they were still in contact. I would have ended things sooner had I known. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:57 PM |
| 155 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.No sister, no. Being good at sex means little. I’m great at sex. Yet I’ve still been with men who run back to their exes or ghost me. They’ll run to the next woman who may not be as good sexually because they never liked you and/or they like the chase more. Many men will choose multiple women over one amazing one. And remeber, women generally make more effort during sex while men don’t. They think if they Jack hammer you for 45 seconds they’re doing God’s work. Next time don’t worry about your p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 09:50 PM |
| 307 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.Exactly. Guaranteed he would have dipped after a couple of months or less of no sex. Also, his job sounds like a big nope. Military and constant traveling? I know men with jobs like this and most are cheating. Also also, there’s no such thing as exclusive dating - you’re either single or in a relationship. While women are more likely to stay loyal in an “exclusive” situation, men are not. I remeber having an exclusive dating situationship with my ex and the number of times he reminded me during … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 08:48 PM |
| 51 | Some of these aren't even dates 🤦These are things you do as part of a date. Or for high schoolers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:56 AM |
| 174 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.Here come the men crying that women do this too. The amount of women who do things like this with men are few and far between. I don’t know of any woman who would mess with a man they didn’t like by telling him to go down on their girlfriends, and then they’ll have sex with them and then shame them for it. Wtf. The depravity of men knows no bounds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:01 PM |
| 80 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.He ruined his own marriage and thought she would forgive him and stay with him. His new fiancée should dump him ASAP. Also glad to see Reddit giving sound advice to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:52 PM |
| 38 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesYes, I’ve heard this too. I should try it. You can do both. I like to have the screenshots so I can see what was actually said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:48 PM |
| 156 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chances100% this. If they come crawling and begging back, don’t do it. I regret getting back with my ex. I’ve told this story before but after begging for me back and promising he won’t mess up, he suddenly started dragging his feet when I came back. His urgent readiness to commit turned into “I don’t know anymore, I have to think.” 7 months later after tears and sadness, he ends it with me because he can’t give me what I want (a serious relationship) and he needs to do his own thing. He started dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 08:10 PM |
| 8 | This makes me so angry - a male primary care doctor(!) refuses to prescribe contraception because apparently basic women's health is "just not something I want to practice"I’ve never head of a gynecologist NOT doing a Pap smear wtf. I’ve also never heard of a primary care doctor doing them. And I work in healthcare. Can you find a new dr and gynecologist? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:44 PM |
| 58 | Let’s talk safety tips all women should know (even the obvious ones)If they give you their phone number, there are few free websites where you can find their full name and address, etc. I don’t give out my phone number anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Learn from me (and looking for some moral support after my breakup)It could be part of it. But what I’m saying is some guys get so infatuated before they get to know you so they want to introduce you to friends and family quickly, but they don’t even stop to think if they actually want to be with you or get to know you. Cus they’re thinking with their dick and riding the high of someone new. In my experience, if a guy wants to introduce that early then live bombing and future faking are likely happening as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Learn from me (and looking for some moral support after my breakup)No, definitely not. But I don’t consider 6 months into a relationship exactly early for parent introduction. Men know before the 6 month mark if they wanna marry you or not so if he’s dragging his feet about introducing you to his family, something is up. Obviously there’s exceptions like racist, narc, abusive parents, etc. I consider before 3 months super early so introducing you 3 weeks in is a yellow flag. That’s still so fresh, why so early? Plenty of non-serious guys do this because they do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 05:56 PM |
| 28 | Learn from me (and looking for some moral support after my breakup)Yup to all this. And people have to decide on their own to change and get therapy. He decided it wasn’t important enough to him. That aside, you guys are not a match. He clearly was worried of his mother’s reaction to him dating a white woman. Unlikely he was going to tell her about you ever, he was wasting your time. A serious man will introduce you to his family within 6 months or so. Also, please don’t give men ultimatums; that’s just twisting their arm, so to speak, to hopefully force them t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:40 AM |
| 35 | Valentine’s Day approaching, what are you ladies doing to celebrate?Me and one of my single girlfriends will be going out to dinner to celebrate our friendship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:32 AM |
| 102 | Don't let any entitled male tell you that you need to be desperate for male attention. This mess is Exhibit A for what they want women to believe about their chances of meeting a man. Don't lower your standards.That must be old stats, it’s only about 5 million more women now. Women live longer than men on average so it’s no surprise. And who cares, I’m more interested in my age ranges and plenty of people coming into this country and plenty of countries where men out number women. Anyway, all these words just to tell women to lower their standards lol. He obviously isn’t fitting into any woman’s standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:12 AM |
| 31 | RIP Lauren. 💔 Shame on the Bridgeport PD for not taking this seriously. PLEASE be safe with dates you met through OLD, ladies.How tragic, Rest In Peace Lauren. The fact that the police didn’t even try to reach the family to let them know of her death and they had to find out by going to her apartment and seeing a note. Heartless. The investigation was botched and there’s only the date’s word that they seem to be taking as the full truth, what a joke. I hope as this becomes more public, her family will get answers and justice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:12 PM |
| 7 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.I know someone who got back with her ex husband, got remarried to him and had kids. They’re divorced again now. Edit: he wooed her back. Started fixing things around her house, brought her flowers, etc. I don’t know what caused their marriage to end either time but regardless, the likelihood of couples lasting after breaking up is slim. The “changes” men make to win us back don’t last and then same problems arise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:04 AM |
| 15 | Valentine’s Day Has Always Been the Saddest Year of the Time For MeI’ll never forget Valentine’s Day the year my ex begged for me back. I thought it would be a great Valentine’s that year but he said he didn’t believe in celebrating it (even tho we had celebrated in the past lol) after I asked ahead what the plan for that day was. Even so, thinking he wasn’t being serious, I had made sure to write him a heartfelt card, got him some computer gifts he wanted and other small things he liked. He got me nothing, and last minute on Valentine’s Day invited me to a cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 01:06 AM |
| 13 | Spineless people-pleasing can literally cost lives—a case studyI hate this mentality. It’s an old-time mentality, that lacks empathy. My family is from Eastern Europe and many did/still lump domesticated animals into the livestock category, which they are not, they are pets. We don’t eat dogs and cats and they were bred to be close to humans, in the most literal sense. My uncle is back In Europe (he has mental issues and we have no relationship to him) and last I heard, he got a dog, kept it outside the whole time, and it died from cold exposure. I used to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 09:00 PM |
| 13 | HVW Texting PatternsPerhaps I’m in the minority, but for the most part I love texting throughout the day. I prefer it to a phone call since I can respond at my leisure and think things through before replying. Doesn’t mean I am texting every hour on the hour but in the morning, afternoon, and evening is my preference with us occasionally us texting in real time and the conversation really gets flowing. But I also want to face time somewhat regularly once we are established. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:50 AM |
| 91 | Even in a best case scenario with a seemingly “ok” man, age gap relationships still suckThis is the main problem (minus the age gap, which does close once you’re past 30ish)- they got together when she was 18. She probably had very to little no dating/relationship/life experience beforehand. She missed out on a huge chunk of her adolescence that her husband probably got to experience his whole twenties. Jumping from teen to adult in a serious relationship + marriage is very often a recipe for disaster. Her mother did her wrong, she should have advised her to live some of her life f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 08:31 PM |
| 70 | Disappointed by my date todayYes. It’s fine to compliment once on a date, perhaps when he first sees you, but excessively is weird. Like he can’t control himself or he thinks he has you or is losing you so he has to resort to basic flattery. I’m curvy too and had to take down almost all body pictures (except for one that’s taken from far away and you can’t see my shape well) when online dating. I would get such stupid comments that made me laugh they were so dumb. I get slightly less matches now and that’s fine with me. It’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:57 AM |
| 321 | Men can hate you, despise you even, and they’ll still string you along for years to get their revenge“Any thoughts or advice?” Yes - leave. End the relationship for both your sakes and let her get someone who is on her level and same for you, sir. The reason he hasn’t left is because she’s obviously out of his league and he’s worried he’ll never find someone like her again. But then he resents her cus he knows she’s settling for him but yet takes pleasure in her chasing him. It’s a mixed bag of emotions and it’s a mess. Just leave. Or I wish she would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 01:35 AM |
| 19 | From the recent Keanu Reeves feature in Esquire. Men of value are thoughtful and generous. Be like Keanu.He wasn’t even dating her and presumedly had no goal to date her; just a caring and thoughtful man. meanwhile, I’ve had men who supposedly love me/really like me/are dating me not even do a quarter of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.Agreed but many men asking us out only for drink dates either are hoping for that, or at still too cheap for dinner + drinks. I understand what you’re saying. Going out for drinks when you’re established in your relationship is fine. But if a man suggests only drinks, then I can only assume he’s either not serious, cheap and/or using pua tactics because what’s stopping him from having a meal with me if he can pay for spendy drinks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:24 AM |
| 14 | Men aren’t asking you on coffee dates because they care about your safety or convenience.I live in an area we’re alcoholic drinks are also expensive. However, I still wouldn’t accept a drink date. Some men won’t mind spending a little more on taking you out for drinks if it means they can get you tipsy, which gives them a more likely chance to get you back to their place. If it’s dinner with drinks, that’s different (although I would say limit your alcohol consumption still). But just drinks is a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:59 AM |
| 13 | Am I codependent or do I have a strong intuition?I have felt the same way numerous times, OP. The biggest indicator that my intuition is letting me know that something is off (they’re not that into me, using me for sex, leading me on, etc) is I start getting really fidgety around them, especially after sex. I can’t sit still or I don’t want them to leave or I can’t pay attention to the movie. I figured out it was my intuition saying they won’t call you back or they’ll begin the slow fade shortly. The reality is hitting and my body is reacting.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:38 AM |
| 16 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.I’ve shared this story before but a couple years ago, pre-FDS days I met someone who lived in a different state. We had had a one night stand and instead of going our own ways, he asked me when I was going to come visit him. We had intense chemistry and this was just what I needed to get over an ex. I asked him if he would I buy my ticket and he sulked and said something like “oh that’s how it is?” I ended up buying my own ticket. He was late picking me up at the airport, I cooked for him and he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:48 PM |
| 63 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.Omg how awful. I wonder if he had a family the whole time? I hope you at least made the most of your trip out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:20 PM |
| 37 | If you want a complete stranger to stop and give you the time if day, call the phone company.I’m confused on the title and context. Call the phone company for what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:17 PM |
| 33 | I met himWhy does this read like an FDS circlejerk post…looking through your post history op, it seems as if you met this man less than 2 months ago? If this is the case, this is nowhere near enough time to know if he’s the real deal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:06 AM |
| 69 | Using Social Media to VetI want to add: does he follow a lot of women in general? Especially local women or women from a place he recently traveled to. I’ve encountered men who do this to keep these women as options. if a man is serious about you, he will post you on his social media at an appropriate time. And not just on Instagram stories but on his actual page with a sweet caption, not some Chris Pratt bullshit . Some low value men will still still post you; but if he doesn’t post you at all and is active on social m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 09:55 PM |
| 80 | Listen to your GUT not your Heart: guys will fake a nice first date and drop effort OR try a switch a roo as their masks slipAll of this. They know exactly what they are doing. Lots of sweet talk and compliments in the beginning, maybe some sly hints at a future with you (“I’ve told my family all about you, they would love you; no way you wanna visit Fiji too? Maybe we’ll just have to go together then; wow if we had kids they’d be models or athletes”), and a wonderfully planned first or second date. They have you thinking “wow what a gentleman, he’s really into me I can tell.” So Maybe you have sex with them soon afte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 08:02 AM |
| 32 | Ladies: have you ever had a successful walk, coffee, or drink date with a HVM?Yeah I think it’s fine for high school kids to do coffee, ice cream, movie dates. Maybe even young college that’s a pass. But it’s about effort. Like you said, even young young men would make an effort to be creative on dates. I’m in my 30s. A coffee date is no effort and a drink date just screams “let’s fuck.” Come to think of it I’ve never had a drink date where the man had good or serious intentions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:16 AM |
| 6 | Ladies: have you ever had a successful walk, coffee, or drink date with a HVM?Was he high value? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:12 AM |
| 66 | Ladies: have you ever had a successful walk, coffee, or drink date with a HVM?This sounds nice if there is already effort established. Were you ever concerned that he was trying to start downgrading the dates? I’ve had men attempt to downgrade dates to “views” and “walks” once their mask started slipping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 11:53 PM |
| 43 | Ladies: have you ever had a successful walk, coffee, or drink date with a HVM?I agree. The arguments from friends and family are that the man doesn’t owe us anything (ok but they need to prove themselves as a HVM), and if they’re dating multiple women (yes we’re also dating multiple men), dinner dates can get expensive. My argument is that I’m not interested in a man who is dating multiple women. And even if he is, he will quickly make a decision on who he wants. Generally speaking, men who date multiple women are going to try and stretch their dollar and be cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 11:48 PM |
| 18 | This is so sad and scary. We are not safe anywhere. Not even our own homes 😔.Unfortunately I read he was waiting inside her place when she got home. If only she had a camera that would have alerted her of motion inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:16 AM |
| 5 | So I tried "hooking up" ...I’m glad to hear it wasn’t too recent. Please block and delete. This man doesn’t respect you whatsoever. Exactly like you said, he won’t bother replying to you except when it suits him because he knows how most women are. He has the upper hand and he loves it. Maybe when he’s bored and lonely he’ll hit you up. Take away that power and don’t even give him the chance to do that. Like another user mentioned, it’s ok to not want anything serious and date causally. But the FDS way is no sex until the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:26 PM |
| 14 | So I tried "hooking up" ...Girl…did you read the handbook? Have you been reading all the guides and helpful posts on here? This post goes against everything FDS stands for. What are you looking for by posting this here? He’s not serious and now he holds the power because of what went down and you messaging him a couple of times with no reply from him. Block and delete and please don’t let any man choke you ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:16 PM |
| 80 | This is so sad and scary. We are not safe anywhere. Not even our own homes 😔.Absolutely. And apartments don’t let you install additional locks, etc. This is extremely dangerous and shouldn’t be allowed. My friend lives in a sketchy apartment complex and can’t even install a camera outside since it would require drilling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:07 PM |
| 208 | This is so sad and scary. We are not safe anywhere. Not even our own homes 😔.How tragic. The prime suspect had master keys to all the apartments, I feel sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:04 PM |
| 22 | I'm done with men shorter than meAgreed! And lmao how tall was he? What’s funny is, men know women don’t lie about their height. But short insecure men who do, still want to go out with a taller than average woman. I’m 5’8.5. I round up my height since no one does half inch height - it gives me no advantage to round down, since taller women are more ridiculed. I dated a guy who said he was 6’0 but more like 5’11 and he was so insecure of my height. He was taller than me, saw my height on my OLD profile, and still asked me out a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:57 PM |
| 27 | FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.And redpill 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 08:20 AM |
| 41 | When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guysI’ve dated older and younger and both sides have the same amount of fuck boys and foolishness. Some of my friends refuse to date a man the same age as them, let alone younger, because they believe the younger men are immature and not in the same life stage as them. They aren’t wrong - but some of their older boyfriends are just as bad if not worse than the younger men. But I agree, same life stage and goals is important. Of course, I don’t blame women in their 20s not wanting to date younger or … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:46 PM |
| 157 | When are women ready to admit LTR don't mean shit? It's not soft marriage.I really question some of these degenerate’s boasting lol. But anyway, good reminder to vet vet vet and no wifey shit. There will always be signs that he’s faking it and leading you on. Can’t believe they call us a hate sub when I never see women on here behaving this way with men or encouraging that behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 01:02 AM |
| 23 | The Magnificent Scrote: the red flags of chapter one of the Magnolia StoryGirl, me too. I used to love them. Until I started getting annoyed at Chip’s child-like antics and Joanna had to play the straight man, so to speak. Now I can’t stand him. If you haven’t watched Hometown, I highly recommend it. You can see how Ben adores Erin. He’s kind, funny yet mature, gentle, hardworking, loving. He loves his family and town and he shows it. They’re such a sweet couple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 56 | It's no wonder that men are as dysfunctional as they are... this is from a men's therapist's site...Lord give me strength… Also, what’s the link that says “showing you affection in different ways” say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 09:07 PM |
| -2 | Look who apparently "Picked Up" COVID (screenshot lifted from a sub almost as reviled as this one...😆)Yes I’ve been reading about that being used in other countries. Very interesting. If it’s working, I’m glad to hear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 07:00 PM |
| 14 | The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised.Sorry I meant I wish the US and other nation’s military and government would have mainly brought back women and children. But I understand it would be hard to access them without the men and many governments are not interested in talking the effrort to prioritize them. Just wishful thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:38 PM |
| 22 | Look who apparently "Picked Up" COVID (screenshot lifted from a sub almost as reviled as this one...😆)Right but that’s not what I’m stating. I see a lot of people claiming everyone is taking a “cattle drug” which yes some are, but I also know of people who have the prescription version for humans. I also know of people in other countries who purchased it directly from a pharmacy. So while it may not work for covid, many are taking a human version/dosage of this. Just clarifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:35 PM |
| 50 | Look who apparently "Picked Up" COVID (screenshot lifted from a sub almost as reviled as this one...😆)Ivermectin is available as a prescription medication (for humans) in the United States. In other parts of the world, it can be bought over the counter (for humans) or directly from pharmacies. I don’t know who this man is or if he has the human or livestock version, but just wanted to point out that that there’s a human dosage of this medication. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:16 PM |
| 364 | The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised.I wish they would have prioritized saving women and children over men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:42 AM |
| 41 | I went and read comments about the Korean Marriage situation and thought this one was greatCan someone link the thread? I’d love to read the whole thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 01:16 AM |
| 23 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingI agree which is why I caution young women of getting into long term relationships at ages 18-22. That’s a critical development stage. I know some people meet young and both are HV but that’s rare and rarer that they will grow together. I’ve seen it happen so many times where the young man gets restless but doesn’t want to lose her so he puts her through hell. It becomes a vicious roller costar and of course she’s holding on because of all that’s she’s invested and her attachment to him. And bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:14 PM |
| 39 | SOS girl wherever you are please come find us 😔✊😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:56 AM |
| 39 | Keep things in perspective - make an ‘ick’ listI do this too, it’s my form of journaling when dating. I always make a pros and cons list and almost always, the cons list outweighs the pros. I really liked the last guy I was dating, despite an impressive cons list. But the more I looked at the cons, the more it helped me break things off with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:29 PM |
| 23 | Scrote wants woman to pay for dates, even though they’re not exclusive after several dates. Pretty impressed to see the comments from other guys saying that they happily pay for dates.agreed. It’s not just white men tho, it’s definitely the modern male yuppie and red pill mentality . Another story. A friend of mine was dating this guy (both of them Asian) who paid for all dates. He invited her on a trip, all expenses paid for her. He didn’t like that she made friends with his friends and he felt “ignored” when she was just trying to not cling onto him and let him enjoy the time with his friends. He sends her a Venmo request for “her expenses” when they get back from the trip … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:13 PM |
| 130 | Scrote wants woman to pay for dates, even though they’re not exclusive after several dates. Pretty impressed to see the comments from other guys saying that they happily pay for dates.One of my friends recently was asked out on on a date. Within the first hour they both knew it wasn’t going anywhere. He told her they could split the bill and he’d Venmo her for her half. They’re both in their 30s. How ungentlemanly and cheap do you have to be to split the bill just cus you’re not getting some pussy? Cus guaranteed he would have paid for the whole thing if he got the vibes they were going to hook up. She didn’t pay, btw. She blocked him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:03 AM |
| 117 | The importance of being clear with/having boundariesIf she’s like a bro then why is he questioning whether she’s a friend or not? Would he be questioning the same thing if she were a male? It’s very obvious she doesn’t see him as anything more than work buddies but he’s trying to read so hard into it. It sounds like he doesn’t have much experience flirting or working with women if he’s questioning this at 29. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 03:30 AM |
| 149 | I bailed on a date and I’ve never been more proud of myselfGood!! And don’t forget: we don’t do drink dates. They are low effort; LVM want to take out as many women as possible for as little money as possible. And we are more likely to make unwise choices with alcohol in our system. If they suggest drink dates, they most likely aren’t high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 12:37 AM |
| 19 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experienceOh yeah I’ve seen my share of men lying about their ages lol so dumb. I don’t know of any woman who lies about their age or height. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:10 AM |
| 46 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experienceI’m confused - aren’t you required to put your age on your online dating profile? How/why are they shocked to find out your age when they’re in the same age range as you? I’m sorry about your experience. The consensus here is that online dating is trash and I agree. I’m not child free but I’m good whether I have them or not. But I regularly take breaks from dating because it is a cesspool and I hope you do the same, OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 10:13 PM |
| 32 | The level of mental gymnastics hereIs this real 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:01 AM |
| 9 | My friend just posted this and it's so depressing.....My aunt only had one child because her husband basically didn’t help her with childcare whatsoever. They’re immigrants and unfortunately, a lot of the older generation immigrant men were raised with no basic domestic life skills. Thankfully, I see the newer generation stepping up more. But parents and society need to train males from young ages on how to take care of themselves and others. It starts at home and at school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:11 PM |
| 73 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢Yup. The men I’ve been with who didn’t watch porn could get hard just from seeing me, hugging me, hearing my voice, etc. They could all also go multiple rounds. The ones who watched porn and gripped their dicks to death wouldn’t usually get hard from even kissing and their dicks would get soft randomly. Don’t even suggest a second round lmao. Some also complained of previous “loose” vaginas and I would correct them that the vaginas weren’t loose, they just jacked off so often and vigorously that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 01:40 AM |
| 97 | Recent discontent with (potentially LVM) bf - need insightYou guys are only a year in and he’s already taking you for granted and acting like you’ve been married for 10 years. You’re not fulfilled and you know it’s only going to get worse as the years progress. My last relationship lasted about 3 years and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other until the very end. Now he was an LVM lol but the chemistry never faded, it only got more intense. It’s very hard to find the whole package in a man so I understand why you’re torn but just remember he won’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 09:04 PM |
| 47 | Scrote messages to teach me a philosophical lesson excited to mention Gabbie Petito “but hey, at least my sex isn’t being murdered” 🤡Men are being murdered all the time and it’s almost always by other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:53 AM |
| 92 | Weekly FDS Check-InFinally deleted some men from my Instagram and Snapchat. These are men who I had sex with, some had future faked me and talked a lot of talk and no action, some just used me for sex. There was no point in having them following me anymore and vice versa. I realized it gave me some sort of validation when they would watch my stories when really, it doesn’t mean anything. I was also holding onto a false hope of them realizing what they missed. It’s better to fully let go, something I should have do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:52 AM |
| 7 | Past lvm and stepping up for a better future.Hey girl, we are all glad to hear you are doing so much better and that it’s over with him for good 👍❤️ Don’t kick yourself, it was your first relationship and you went in it trusting he was as vulnerable and sincere as you were; almost all women have gone tru this. No one taught me men will do and say anything to get what they want and it’s not the same as what we want, unfortunately. This is a learning process and thank God for this sub and all the women who warn other women with their stories… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:06 AM |
| 22 | Be careful out there with these hobosexualsYeah: mommy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 03:44 AM |
| 7 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsYup. I recently spoke to someone with a family member who was a working mom while her husband was a stay at home dad. He complained all the time of the expectations she had of him keeping the house and kids in order. He ended up cheating and leaving her. “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 10:00 PM |
| 16 | Man claims he has gotten "absurdly hot" over the coarse of his marriage and now resents his wife....good god the AUDACITYClassic mid-life crisis. I wish she would divorce him or honestly he can just divorce her too - what’s stopping him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 09:24 PM |
| 61 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptAgreed, showering twice a day is not needed for many people. I shower once a day and sometimes even skip a day if I’m just at home not doing anything. My skin is dry and I find it gets worse if I shower more than once daily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:54 AM |
| 2 | Multiple kids without marriage- thoughts?Thanks for sharing. I would guess it’s likely either both or one of them doesn’t believe in/want/or “need” marriage. I know down couples like that. The other option is one of them wants to get married but the other person is not inclined because of above reasons or they’re keeping their options open. Just by looking at her page, I would guess it’s along the lines of they don’t feel like they need marriage to be committed. I could be wrong tho but those are the main reasons people don’t get marri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Multiple kids without marriage- thoughts?I’d like to know as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 10:02 PM |
| 64 | Ladies, do you consider seeing a man once a week (every Saturday) as fulfilling dating?Him admitting he’s a commitment phobe should prompt you to end things. If he does commit, it won’t be in the way that you want or deserve. He won’t ever fully be all in like you will be. I say end it with him. And always always keep your options open until you get the relationship and commitment that you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 566 | That’s why you should always demand proof, don’t just accept their wordsEvery time I feel lonely, I read a post like this and thank God i’m single. I could never dupe anyone to thinking I make or have more than I have or not disclose debt. But I’ve heard/read about so many men hiding things and not disclosing them until after marriage because she’s locked in now. Thank God all the comments are telling her to annul the marriage or divorce ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:49 PM |
| 125 | Ladies, do you consider seeing a man once a week (every Saturday) as fulfilling dating?Once a week for 4 months seems stale to me; As if it’s just a standing appointment. Do you feel as if your relationship is growing? Has he ever initiated seeing you more often than once a week? For me, that’s not enough. For the first month or two that’s fine but he should pick up the pace after, especially with exclusive dating. You’re still only dating, so I wouldn’t expect for him to post you on social media nor would I want that in the early stage. That being said, FDS does not really encour… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:40 PM |
| 15 | Would you be dating someone like this? Before he turned out to be a LVM (later part of the movie)Yup agreed. I’ve had men really chase me and as soon as I show interest, reciprocate, or especially if sex comesinto play they run the other way. They just love that chase and thrill of wearing you down. Keep your distance. Watch out for any begging, love bombing, future faking, and overall too-much eagerness. The red flags will slip out with time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:47 AM |
| 6 | I’d wife me 💍I for sure would! I’m smart, trustworthy, loving, kind, interesting, funny, beautiful, alluring, Curious, educated, constantly learning, sexy, in good shape, and I don’t have eyes for anyone who is not my partner. Who wouldn’t want that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:42 AM |
| 51 | And this is why you should NEVER allow yourself to become financially dependent on a man.This has to be fake lol. If it’s not then yes listen to everyone and sell your shit and move on. You accepted his lavish treatments and now he’s not paying up so what other choice do you have. Doubtful any contracts were signed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | OLD strat: what's yours?Yup. I never have liked or commented on pictures/prompts and never initiate the conversation. I also umatch within 48 of matching if they don’t initiate conversation. For anyone mad about that, women are the choosers. I’m not gonna stroke some dudes ego and waste my time. Come correctly or don’t come at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:27 AM |
| 21 | OLD strat: what's yours?Agreed with this. You can weed a lot of them out by their bios. So many men, on hinge for example, pick the prompt that says “best way to ask me out…just ask.” Yeah no. Lots of bios suggesting getting coffee or drink meet ups. Also, a lot of men are looking for a woman “who doesn’t take things to seriously” haha. You will reject more people than you accept. It’s a numbers game. Most men are just casting the net wide because they know few will reply. You’re likely not their first pick. I’ve had s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:05 PM |
| 108 | Study suggests that I don't give afEvery man I dated alway knew I desired them. I did things for them, bought them things, had sex alll the time with them, complimented their accomplishments/looks/sex skills/told them I desired them. And I was genuine, I cared for them. Most of those men still had wandering eyes, cheated, or broke up with me lol. This is actually a pretty simple: if your wife or gf isn’t doing a thing to boost your ego, it’s one or all of these: she’s fed up of having to cook, clean, take care of the kids all day… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 08:16 PM |
| 47 | Mini Golf/Kayaking First DatesI love mini golfing, bowling, arcades and other activities like that. They’re a good indicator also of how he handles being competitive and losing and/or winning. But I agree, those things alone are not dates, they’re what you do after dinner. Mini golfing in the evening is more fun since it’s cooler and the atmosphere is better with all the lights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 08:00 PM |
| 353 | Excellent reality check for older men who think they’re about to trade upI don’t know if I’ve ever seen a more accurate Twitter thread lmao. So she filed for divorce after a year of separation. 33 years man…you really have to be fed up to divorce after so long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 17 | Gut feelings: have you ever had a weird, but GOOD one?Nope. I would love one. But I’ve gotten plenty of bad gut feelings. I can pretty much place the exact moment I feel someone’s energy changes towards me, even if I’m not with them in that moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 03:33 AM |
| 17 | “Build a man” 🤡🤡🤡This comment ain’t it. She’s clearly very young, has codependency issues, and experienced her first heartbreak. Who knows what kind of childhood she had, but I bet probably no one taught her to not pour herself into one person and be so vulnerable. It sounds like she genuinely gave him her all and the rug pull out from under her feet. Why would you laugh at that? It’s not funny, it’s sad. She obviously doesn’t know about FDS. We should aim to encourage fellow women to rise up and learn from this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:17 AM |
| 3 | 🙄Exactly. Just like this woman is questioning her self-worth now and whole relationship. Twisting someone’s arm to be with you is not the answer. It’s very hard to do for a lot of us, but let them go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:50 PM |
| 55 | 🙄Never give ultimatums about progressing your relationships. I know people who have done this and it’s never ever gone well for them. Think about how he would be treating his dream woman - would he be passively letting her make all the decisions and be content keeping her a 4ever girlfriend? No, he’d lock that shit down so quick and do whatever it takes to make her happy because he wants her. So if he’s not treating you like that, it’s time to move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:52 PM |
| 139 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?I can count on both hands the number of HVM I’ve met in the last 30+ years; whether it’s friends, family members, or acquaintances. I’ve only briefly dated one seemingly HVM but I didn’t get to know him long enough so who really knows. The rest were all LV or NV. Sadly, you’re not alone. It seems as if most men do not care to be a better partner or better man. Thankfully I’ve met way more HVW and I cherish our friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:26 PM |
| 6 | Does seeking marriage decrease your chances of ending up with a man who's not serious about committing to you?It may vary by state and I’m not a lawyer, but while you are married, I don’t believe your partner is legally able to access your money. That could all change during a divorce, of course. I was talking more about how partners generally share bank accounts, finances, etc. Well for me, wanting marriage is a bare minimum requirement and from there, I ask why they want marriage if they don’t already give reasons. After that, it’s about time and consistency. I’m not married or in a relationship but I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:31 AM |
| 43 | Does seeking marriage decrease your chances of ending up with a man who's not serious about committing to you?I would say it does slightly decrease your chances of ending up with an f-boy. Marriage is not as expected in our society anymore and there are quite a few men out there who are honest about not wanting it. But I’ve found that usually that means they don’t want to marry you (read: you’re not their dream girl/unicorn) or they simply haven’t gotten being promiscuous/living the single life out of their system. I would say few men don’t actually want marriage or at least they want consistent commitm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:53 AM |
| 6 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Yes that’s what I thought of! Harry was intrigued with how Sally ordered - he loved that she knew exactly what she wanted and how she wanted it. I’m trying to rack my brain tho - which parts of the movies or characters were pick-mes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:27 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inPersonally, I don’t have a problem with it but I have a fake google voice number for those situations. Can I ask where you met him at? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:44 AM |
| 7 | What's a Killer Supposed to Look Like? Matthew Taylor Coleman confessed to murdering his two children, and, of course, reports of the crime have to insist he was an otherwise good guyTrue. It’s interesting that she said he wasn’t a threat to their children but there wasn’t even a car seat for the 10 month old - that’s enough to show even the police he was actively endangering their children. If someone took my kids, even the most trustworthy person in my life, and left with them before we were supposed to go on a camping trip (as was the case with this family), no car seat for my 10 month old, no answer from me calling or texting, I would call the police too. It’s devasting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 09:19 PM |
| 6 | What's a Killer Supposed to Look Like? Matthew Taylor Coleman confessed to murdering his two children, and, of course, reports of the crime have to insist he was an otherwise good guyShe aslo allegedly told police she didn’t believe her children were in danger with him or that he would harm them. I’m curious to see how this will unfold. Those poor children, Rest In Peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:22 PM |
| 5 | After being told by men more than once that my standards were "too high", last weekend I got given the proposal and ring of my dreams by a man who meets those standards!7 years is a bit of an age gap. But it depends on your life stages. I say once you both are in your thirties or he is in his late late twenties, you are more likely to be on the same page. I dated 8 years younger and I would never do that much of a gap again unless I’m in my late thirties maybe. My aunt is 6 years older than my uncle and she lucked out because he is a HVM. Personally, I don’t think I can date that much younger than me again anytime soon, but I am open to dating younger by maybe … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:20 AM |
| 26 | A surprise bouquet of flowers came today. Imagine my shock and disgust when it was NVX saying he "made the biggest mistake" of his life, blah blah blah. Anyway, here's an article that is keeping me sane.The only time my ex put so much thought into picking out flowers and having them delivered to me was after I ended things with him and started seeing someone else. Before that, I always dropped hints of how much I loved flowers and plants, yet only got them for me twice in our years together. Men who give you flowers, send you paragraphs, want to see you and take you out and buy you gifts or whatever, after you have ended things with them are not changed or regretful. Yes they regret losing you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:43 AM |
| 83 | Man arrested after threatening to rape and kill a woman in her home, caught on Ring cameraHe’s clearly psychotic and needs to stay off the streets. I have little faith in the justice system and no doubt he’ll be released. Thank God these people had a camera recording all of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 10:18 PM |
| 10 | Oh honey no, HE'S the a**hole...!!!!! Instant dumping offencePoor girl has such low self-esteem she won’t ever leave him. My mom was recently in the hospital for days and my dad (and myself and my siblings) was there as much as they would allow. He isn’t perfect, but he would never ever leave my mom in a hospital alone and would drop everything to be with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:11 AM |
| 17 | Exhausted from men at the gymYes. Men would stare or try and talk to me regularly. I switched to a women’s only gym and never looked back. Also, I noticed it was usually middle aged and older men being creepy. The younger ones or my age would occasionally talk to me but the older ones were alwsys creepieet. Go home to your wife and stop creeping, Bill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:37 AM |
| 3 | nVm SiGnS - but MY guy is green flags, story inside!!I like reading about the women on here who are with HVM and their traits and I’m happy for them. But what worries me is when they’ve only been dating a few months and they make a post about all the green flags. Ladies, engrave it in your brains that no one is nicer than a man who hasn’t fucked you yet. No one is nicer than a man you’ve barely met and who wants something from you. It takes time and trials to see who he really is. And even then, they can change or wear their mask for as long as th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 03:45 AM |
| 23 | I want to get your opinion on the characters Billie and Cooper on the Netflix show “Sex/Life”I only watched a few episodes. But I read up on what happened. They’re all toxic and low value with weak or no morals. Cooper seemed to be great on paper until he allowed his insecurities about everything Brad was and he wasn’t to take him over. All he had to do was be emotionally available and attentive to his wife and he couldn’t do that. And for his sex performance issues. He wouldn’t make himself better even tho he had everything going for him. But no, he’d rather Jack off to her sex diary a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 34 | Embarrassing. Don’t be like this! Focus on becoming a happier person not fixing scrotesIt’s so sad. She is a placeholder hoping for the impossible. It would be different if he had no interest in having children, wanted marriage and a future with her, and compatible lifestyles. But she’s wasting her time investing in a man that is basically guaranteed to be a loss. And she will be the one crying and left with the memories, while he finds someone younger to have his children and build a life with. Edit: also, I looked her up and she has posted him on social media. Imagine him readin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:29 PM |
| 30 | Blocked and deleted ex so he called from a different number.Them coming back is always about them. They want to clear their conscience or get your blessing for something or they want something else from you. They don’t care if it hurts you as long as they feel good. And yup they’ll climb mountains to get your attention after it’s over but where was that energy during the relationship? I’m glad you ended it and I know how things like this can shake you up. With time you won’t care what he does and that’s the best feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:05 AM |
| 163 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meWtf lol those are all good things! Now if she was in super debt that would be another story but it doesn’t sound like it. Imagine being this jealous of the woman you supposedly love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 10:00 AM |
| 31 | I refuse to believe this is real but if it is… Holy MolyI feel like this is more believable than the AITA about the rich dude making his gf pay 50/50 and starve on vacation while his family didn’t offer her anything. If it’s real, she should lawyer up. Or print naked pics of him and put them everywhere too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:11 AM |
| 98 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.How times have changed - now everyone wants bigger underwear (booty). I wear the most comfortable underwear I can find that covers my whole bottom and doesn’t ride up. Usually bikini or hipster style. Target has pretty good ones! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 08:01 PM |
| 9 | Focus on letting your personality shineYeah this comment ain’t it, OP. Seems like you are comparing yourself to them still. And that’s normal. We just can’t let comparison control our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | How to guide for detaching from a NVMI need to start journaling! Sometimes breaking up is a process - not everyone can go cold turkey and block and delete, especially in LTR. Like others mentioned, it’s sometimes best and easiest to detach while in a relationship. Robin Norwood, the author of “women who love too much,” recommends the same thing so we don’t go scrambling back and forth with this person feeling as if we made the wrong choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 41 | 5 years, 1 child, no marriage. The top comments give me lifeHere’s what’s gonna happen: he won’t propose. She’ll reach her breaking point and “leave.” Men get scared when we do that, not cus they truly realize what they lost, cus it’s a loss for them. They can’t stand their egos being bruised. So he will beg and beg for her back and propose and he’ll only do it so he’s not a loser. They’ll either never make it to the altar or they’ll be divorced in less than 3 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 19 | Ask Polly: Boyfriend telling her to break up with him if she wants anything better. Her parents wonder why she works so hard for this relationship. She seriously questioning whether or not to STAYTrauma bonding for sure. I hope she finds the strength to leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:42 AM |
| 12 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEDear God. I’ve never had anyone talk to me like that in my life. I was about to say if she doesn’t call the police I will do it for her. Thank God he’s in jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 11:31 PM |
| 110 | Weekly FDS Check-InI know a really sweet, kind woman. She had a few kids with her awful ex. He had cheated on her while she was pregnant, he’s lazy, deceitful, etc. They were still seeing each other and he proposed; she was shocked since she wasn’t sure if she could marry him since she knew she couldn’t trust him. She said yes, but then gave back the ring and ended things. I was so relieved to hear it. Last year, she met a guy who is all about her. He takes her on wonderful dates and always pays, consistent in com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:12 AM |
| 117 | Scrote wants pity for getting dumped after stringing ex along for 10 years.What sub is this on? I hope the commentators are going offff on him. He had 10 years, fuck off dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 24 | Three officers resign after arrest of 73-year-old with dementiaI noticed that right away when i was watching them talk shit! She was saying things like “I just don’t want you to think that I’m not a team player” or something along those lines. I was stunned hearing the way they talked. Thank God the video was released and now if his wife didn’t know be was a cheating piece of trash, she does now. Hope they all go to jail (jail, right away). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:48 PM |
| 6 | The Vetting Process: A List of Minimum QualificationsAgreed! I don’t have some of these things down but I have a list of things I’m going to learn and work on. Definitely took a few of these, especially home and car maintenance to add to my list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:29 AM |
| 4 | Women are the Most Sexual CreaturesYup. I’ve almost always been more sexual than my partners. I think my last partner became jealous that I could have multiple orgasms and can go multiple rounds. Meanwhile they bust a nut once and months of pursuing you and saying sweet things goes out the window. How pathetic. I’m generalizing but as mentioned above, many men don’t partake in sex as intimacy. Which is sad because it’s the most intimate act you can do with another person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Working with a sociopathic manI’m in a union. It’s so hard to fire someone protected by union. I’ve had coworkers be chronically late for months, throw things, and do many other things that would get them fired in an instant at any non-union job. But they’re still there. Or they’be moved departments. I would not be surprised if your boss has tried firing him but union steps in and stops it. My worry is if you bring in union reps and it comes to him getting fired, retaliation on his end or from his wife. He sounds insane, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 08:03 AM |
| 15 | Girl proposes to her boyfriend and gets humiliated...Same here, girl, same. We’ve learned our lesson tho! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Men struggle to give the right amount of attention because they struggle with valuing the emotional needs of a womanI don’t have any personal gain in knowing more about your situation, aside from further knowledge of exceptions in these kinds of situations. For me, it makes a difference if someone meets online vs in person. The general concensous of this sub is that meeting online is overwhelmingly a negative experience for women. I like to see positive success stories that are not necessarily by the handbook. That is why I asked more. I have not told you your boundaries and needs are wrong in any form by def… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:35 AM |
| 6 | Men struggle to give the right amount of attention because they struggle with valuing the emotional needs of a womanI’m not arguing with you by clarifying myself. I was asking a question and I interpreted your resonse differently. I’m also not a man - men are different with women in their intentions, questions, and motives. I’m on this sub to learn and be with other women. If you don’t want to answer more, that is perfectly fine. Edit: to answer you, I would respond differently to a man vs a woman based on what I said above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:18 AM |
| 8 | Men struggle to give the right amount of attention because they struggle with valuing the emotional needs of a womanYou have said this twice, not three times. I apologize, I took your comment as not wanting to disclose location. But be aware your profile history gives more information away, if you are concerned about lurkers. I’m not sure why you’re bringing up second chances again; I haven’t asked you more about that and only mentioned it once. My last reply was to you being curious about my thoughts on friendships turning into something more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:05 AM |
| 7 | Men struggle to give the right amount of attention because they struggle with valuing the emotional needs of a womanOf course. I dont mean an exact place of where you met; I mean did you meet online or in person? People who start off as friends or acquaintances and evolve into something more is definitely the most natural and desired way, I think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 10:42 PM |
| 239 | Girl proposes to her boyfriend and gets humiliated...I was just talking to someone about this in the weekly check in. I couldn’t even finish this show. Vanessa was was beautiful, smart, successful, assertive and she was a total pickme. I’ve been that woman (but never ever to the point of proposing) and I can only hope this reminds us we should not put up with something like this. After 4 years man. Daniel literally started a rebound romance with Noa the night that Vanessa proposed. What a shitty plot but I guess it is realistic in some way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:57 PM |
| 12 | Men struggle to give the right amount of attention because they struggle with valuing the emotional needs of a womanThank you for responding in so much detail! This is so helpful to me and other woman on here. It sounds as if your case is the exception not the rule: you started as friends, you were taking a break from marriage and not actively looking, mark was treating you very well and not showing any red flags. I’m glad you are observing because giving second chances are not the norm for HVW. But it also got me thinking of men who try to just be “friends” but still get boyfriend/relationship privileges. Or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:52 PM |
| 13 | Men struggle to give the right amount of attention because they struggle with valuing the emotional needs of a womanMaybe I missed it but can I ask why you dated only Mark for 8 months? And why you gave him a second chance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Opinions on surrogacy?Thanks for those links. I didn’t even know there were different types of surrogacy. Regardless of the type of surrogacy, I can’t imagine carrying someone’s child and not feeling the after effects of having to hand it over to someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:12 AM |
| 111 | ⚠️The audacity of these men...I’m beyond TIRED. I had to block him. I just can’t understand why they think this is okay...⚠️I could go my whole life without hearing the word vibe ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:05 PM |
| 96 | The real reason you shouldn’t date “frugal” (cheap) menWowww 😂 you handled it perfectly. He really thought that was the day he was gonna show women how men feel when they pay lmao. The audacity has no limits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inI just had it playing in he background but it was so cheesy and I wanted to scream at everyone lol. But Vanessa come on! Like she had it going on and couldn’t even see her worth because it was all tied up in a man and their future. And he and Noa were trash for jumping into something literally that same night. It’s a rebound, no matter how hollywood tries to spin it. And that storyline of noa and Vanessa being friends would be ideal! My kind of story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Opinions on surrogacy?I just googled and all the websites say in the United States, surrogacy moms do not have any rights to the child. All the cases I heard of a surrogate attempting to keep the bay have been overseas. Do you have any links? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:37 PM |
| 2 | “Just give him a week”It’s always “family issues” 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 07:17 PM |
| 7 | Opinions on surrogacy?What do you all think about women carrying a family member’s or friend’s child? I’ve read stories of grandmothers carrying their grand children and I think it’s so strange; I would never want my mother doing that. One of my friend’s sisters can’t have kids so the plan is for my friend to carry the baby for her. If I’m honest, I think that can get messy. My friend has baby fever and I can only imagine that she will feel the loss of handing the child over to the parents (her sister and brother in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:13 AM |
| 15 | Would this be considered a pick me mindset? I used to think this way when I was a pick me. When I stopped caring about or catering to the male gaze, I stopped wanting male attention all together. Especially while minding my business.At first glance I thought it meant like physically warm like she was stuck in the car with the windows rolled up lol. And no, never when I was in the car cus I have tinted windows and do not want to be bothered while driving. But when I’d be out shopping or at school, sure that thought would cross my mind. We are definitely conditioned to look and dress for male validation. It’s great when you don’t care about that anymore and dress for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:06 AM |
| 20 | “Just give him a week”Yes ladies, give him a week to figure out if he wants you or the other 4 girls he’s talking to /s I give them 48 hours after we match or meet to initiate conversation or reply. If we have been on 2 dates or more and talking consistently, I end things after 24 hours of no contact (unless previously discussed of course). Last guy, we dated for almost 3 months. I cut things off after not hearing from him for 36 hours, but he was active on social media. Nothing is a bigger flag in your face waving “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:46 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inHas anyone watched The Baker and the Beauty on Netflix? Vanessa is driving me crazy. She’s beautiful, smart, successful and she’s pining over her LV baker ex, I can’t stand it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:31 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-inWrite down specific qualities you’re looking for and especially deal breakers. Be very cautious (or mysterious lol), let them talk more than you do. Get a free Google voice number if you don’t already have one. Also, if you want a relationship, I recommend waiting longer for than what the handbook states. I would wait at least 4 months befie having sex or any sex acts. And wait until you’re in the relationship before having sex. Lastly, observe observe and stay detached. If the have social media… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:29 AM |
| 6 | How to tell if it’s genuine or if it’s lovebombing?You know the old saying: “no one is nicer than a guy who hasn’t fucked you yet.” If he’s complimenting you excessively, it’s a yellow flag. I was love bombed this way. He said he loved “everything” about me 2 months in. He planned dates, paid for everything, complimented me all the time, was consistent in talking to me. Until we had sex. So just be cautious, slow things down, do NOT have sex with him anytime soon. If he is love bombing, he will likely become more frustrated as things don’t go hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:22 AM |
| 3 | Sound advice 👏🏻 Pay attention to the holes in their walls, this is a good way to vet out violent men and men with low impulse control or anger issues.The hole was just above eye level when lying in bed and I saw it several times. It wasn’t freshly broken white Sheetrock, it was dusty and the white color was dull. So not days old, but months old is a possibility. I agree, he shouldve patched it up but then again, it’s a blessing I saw it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 07:57 PM |
| 37 | Sound advice 👏🏻 Pay attention to the holes in their walls, this is a good way to vet out violent men and men with low impulse control or anger issues.If I had to guess it would be a mixture of laziness and possibly a reminder of what happened and shouldn’t happen again. It wasn’t his house but he could have filled the hole at least. I’m definitely not defending him, just guessing. And he had plenty of other red flags that made me end things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 03:24 AM |
| 114 | Sound advice 👏🏻 Pay attention to the holes in their walls, this is a good way to vet out violent men and men with low impulse control or anger issues.I dated someone who had a hole in their wall right next to the bed. I asked him if he had punched it. He admitted he had, years ago (in his early twenties) during a fight of jealousy with his ex. He was ashamed of punching the wall and said he had come a long way since then. I never got any violent vibes from him but he did have some jealously issues. I alwsys wondered if he would ever do it again or worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 11:56 PM |
| 7 | I never thought I'd like Peggy Olson's mom that much before FDSOh wow, I wash not expecting that. Sounds like he’s one of those woke tools who treats people close to him terribly, behind closed doors. I used to think I’d move in with a boyfriend, even tho my parents are very conservative and would never accept that. Thank God I never did. After FDS I never will until I’m engaged, at the earliest. But I would prefer to wait until marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:22 PM |
| 17 | I never thought I'd like Peggy Olson's mom that much before FDSSo what happened? Did Peggy dump him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 07:31 AM |
| 94 | Just another Saturday morning on reddit. Yet more evidence that men are everything-diggers.Absolutely. Sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship is a business and/or sexual transaction; More than likely, the woman is sleeping with him and he gets the privilege of having her on his arm when they go out. I would never even think to woo multiple men, lead them on, and tell them each I had a different birthday so I could get gifts. Most women just don’t operate to intentionally deceive in such an extreme way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:35 PM |
| 203 | Just another Saturday morning on reddit. Yet more evidence that men are everything-diggers.https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.news18.com/amp/news/buzz/japanese-casanova-caught-having-35-girlfriends-so-he-could-get-birthday-gifts-from-all-3671051.html Here’s an article about him. He targeted older women who came into his workplace who seemed “vulnerable” and who wanted marriage, future faked them AND sold them showerheads. I cannot. Also, lol at the comments on the front page saying if it was the other way around, it would be a different story and women routinely do this. I don’t know of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:11 PM |
| 7 | The fact that a sizeable amount of men marry because they get too old to chase young women is GROSS.Yup. That’s why it’s important we end it first at the first red flag, which there will be plenty of those. Don’t give them time to line up a new girl before they decide to ghost you or dump you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 150 | The fact that a sizeable amount of men marry because they get too old to chase young women is GROSS.I’ve read this study before and I agree with most of it. Most men marry or are ready for marriage between 27-33. I’m in my early 30s and if I were to start dating again, I’d be open to dating ages 28-33. I don’t want to get stuck with someone who’s wasted their best years hoeing or wasting their time. The study also found that once a man hits 37, his chances of committing go down. No doubt this applies to bachelors who are comfortable in their ways. But in my experience, many single men 35+ reek… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:55 AM |
| 4 | He's 48, she's 19. They met when he was her tennis coach at 13 YEARS OLD. I'm disgusted and outraged for her and at him.Showing not available. Maybe she took it down from all the backlash? I hope any comments telling her how wrong and sick this relationship is plants a seed in her head to gtfo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:09 PM |
| 43 | OLD Red Flag Words & Phrases5’11 (or insert height) if that matters basic af. They know height matters to many women. The “if that matters” part is either a humble brag if they are 6’0 and above or they feel bitter about all the women who prefer taller men. Looking for someone laid back “looking for a cool chill girl. I don’t want to commit and want to have sex with you while having sex with as many other women as possible. Also, we will split the bill everytime.” 😍😍😍 “I’m so boring and lazy this is the best I can do to ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:50 PM |
| 344 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.When they list their red flags in their bio 😍🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:51 AM |
| 14 | And this is why we pay attention to when men text us. Block and delete!Lol even if a woman is lonely doesn’t mean she’s going to reply or even open the message. And even if she does respond, she’ll probably go back to not feeling lonely in the morning when reality, work, life hits and then no time to be lonely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:39 PM |
| 49 | Guys who have a problem with sex during your period are LVMI have to agree. I’ve had a few LVM make big talk about not caring if I’m on my period to have sex and then when the time came they backed out. Why not just say you don’t like it in the first place? Those same dudes didn’t go down on me either. But then I’m expected to suck your dick, swallow your cum and you can’t even handle some blood? No one is asking you to drink it. My most recent ex had no problem with period sex until his mom or someone told him it was unclean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:32 PM |
| 22 | The reasons behind the myth of short men having a “hard time” dating is other men, their own insecurities and how vicious they are to a taller woman who dares to show any interest.I have never encountered a height issue until recently. This guy was 5’11-6’0. I’m 5’9. He became uncomfortable when I wore short heels and asked what my tallest heels were. He said he’d feel “vulnerable” if i wore 4 inch heels lol. He also said if he has kids, his sons better not be taller than him. What. I ended things with him. He mentioned one of the girls he dated in the past was 5’1 and he was bitter she didn’t want him. Maybe she could sense your insecurities bro. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:40 PM |
| 23 | Oh Look, Another Murderous Rapist Radicalized on The Reddit ManosphereAbsolute insanity. Not only do they let him out on bail after he was charged for molesting a child, but let’s remove his ankle monitor as well for good behavior. No shit he was on good behavior while he was wearing a fucking tracking monitor! Now look, 3 innocent dead after this filth is let loose. Throw the judge who authorized the monitor to be removed into jail as well and whoever still allowed him supervised visits of his son. Everyone knows molesters, rapists, and many criminals are repeat … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 02:41 AM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InRed flag, girl. It’s almost always a red flag when they want to be official right away (but then it’s also a red flag when they beat around the bush about committing). You don’t know him, yet. Take your time getting to know him ans observe. A HVM will understand and be patient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 11:28 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InEven LVM will ask - “closed mouths don’t get fed.” He shouldn’t be asking, is my point. The whole wifing you up is all talk; he’s talking like that to try and get you to let your guard down and trust him. don’t trust him. A HVM will not talk like that - he will show you through his actions he is serious and then bring up marriage at an appropriate time. See my recent post history. This guy is more than likely future faking you. Once he has sex with you, he will fall way back and all that sweet t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 11:01 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InTime - time and their actions, consistency, and effort is the only way you’ll know. How long have you been talking to him for? And absolutely do not let him stay the night or go stay overnight anywhere with him!!! The fact that he is escalating this is already a red flag; it’s screaming he just wants to fuck. Tell him no. I think you should dump him but you could say no and give him a time of day that works for you but you have to leave by a certain time. If he whines or keeps asking why not aft… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 10:04 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InSis I hoped you blocked him 🥴he wouldn’t even pay a $10 bill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:50 PM |
| 24 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.I feel like it always starts with “I was just joking” men will say some shut to test your boundaries and then if you react “negatively”, slap the joke label on it. The fact that they think this is ok and negates what they said is crazy. Do not fall for the “joke” cop out. Imagine if we joked about performing sexual acts in bed and didn’t deliver, they would lose their minds. That and “you’re overrthinking.” Nah, I’m not cus 2+2 is not adding up. They know what they’re doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:35 PM |
| 11 | Men scientifically conclude porn doesn’t affect their perception of women 🤡Same as the police: “We’ve investigated ourselves and in conclusion, found we are not guilty😉😬” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:24 PM |
| 95 | Fat lvm hitting on fit womenYour boss is tripping. Cus this man is clearly not in a place to date. His ducks are not all in a row. Even tho he used to be fit he’s not anymore and who knows if he ever will be again. We can’t keep dating potential. Also guaranteed he would NOT date a woman who looked like him, even if she fell on hard times he wouldn’t give af and he wouldn’t give her a chance. I frequently had out of shape and fat men like me on OLD and in real life. I was stunned that they would think there was a chance th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:16 PM |
| 5 | Weird Red Flags?Agreed. Consistent communication is key. I also prefer to talk throughout the day if I am dating someone. Doesn’t have to be 10 times a day and some days are busier than others, but if a man is truly interested in you and likes you, he will reply quickly and reach out often. I can’t stand it when I see them on social media and they haven’t opened my message or reached out. I ended it with the last guy I was seeing because he decided it was more important to be on social media than to respond to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:11 AM |
| 26 | Do men use filters on their faces for their pictures on OLD apps??I’ve seen quite a few men use filters on OLD and I just have to laugh; it’s so blatant and not tasteful. When I was online dating, I never used pictures with filters. I don’t use filters on social media, either. So if I see a man using them in every picture, it screams insecure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:18 AM |
| 9 | I am sexually liberated.That makes sense, thanks you for clarifying. I am wondering, when you have sex again, what will you do differently to avoid the pressure of having regular sex with a partner? I’m not currently sleeping with anyone and have thought about what I’ll be doing in the future when I have sex with someone again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:21 AM |
| 4 | I am sexually liberated.I want to be like this. How? Do only do one night stands if no partners? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 03:06 AM |
| 7 | Wow. Just... Wow 😑What in the world. I know so many attractive women, myself included, who are single. There are so many reasons to be single: don’t desire a relationship for whatever reason focusing on school taking a break after previous relationship many guys who approach us are not serious many men are low effort working on self-improvement (financial, health, etc) don’t want to settle maybe she’s enjoying single life, casually dating etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 05:53 AM |
| 5 | Let's talk birth controlI’m so sorry you had to go through that and I’m glad you stood your ground about getting it removed! The fact that they mentioned insurance prefers you to get “full use” out of it 🤢fuck that I’ve heard so many horror stories about iuds, I refuse to ever get one. I chose the nexplanon implant and thankfully, no side effects for me aside for longer periods. And never had a pregnancy scare. I’m limited in my birth control options tho. Can’t wait until male birth control becomes available. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 08:23 PM |
| 7 | All very trueNever experienced the second one until recently. He didn’t say those words tho, he said he was just soooo bush with school (community college) and could we try again once school was over? I left him on read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:15 AM |
| 3 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".Sick. I couldn’t be with someone who traveled for work for that reason; it’s too easy for them to cheat. I’m also paranoid of anyone being married or in a relationship while pursuing me. I always check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:52 AM |
| 34 | Is not asking for a ‘got home safe’ text a bad sign?Yes, it’s a bad sign. Even worse if he stopped. However, I’ve dated LVM who always made sure I got home ok. It’s really a bare minimum requirement for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 02:06 AM |
| 13 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".Went on a ski trip with my girlfriends not long ago. Met some guys (older, overweight, unattractive, sloppy drinkers) who started taking shots with us. They were fun for the moment but one of them just would not leave me alone. Tried flashing his money at me, told me about all his success, owns multiple houses, boats, lavish vacations. He told me he never found the time to settle down and have children. He was an unattractive man but arrogant and was clearly not used to being told no. I was unim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:32 PM |
| 135 | "I look like a goblin but I want a thin princess" smh 😂😂😂30-45...what in the age range is this?? 15 years! Notice how he’s 46 but can’t even be with someone his own age. This man is delusional. He is no looker, but demands a queen. When I was OLD, I would get many guys who look like this trying to match with me. A pure shot in the dark because I would never match with them. He needs a reality check but at 46 years old, I doubt that will happen. Good luck, king. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 04:07 AM |
| 4 | Never settle for less. If he really loves you, he will go to the ends of the earth for you. Stop giving your energy to guys who are just going to leave you in read for two weeksOof I’m glad you ended it. At least you both are young, I’ve had men in their late twenties and early thirties try this with me. “It’s really bad timing, can we pick back up when I’m done with school or when work slows down?” Lmao clearly out of their minds. They say this type of thing to string you along in case they can’t find anyone by a certain time frame. Don’t ever fall for this, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:48 AM |
| 5 | ❗️LVM manipulation tactics❗️Thank you so much for all this info! And yes, that’s been my expeience as well. I’m raising sex up to a 6 month wait. I don’t know if any acquaintances but I’m not dating at the moment, anyway. Perhaps when things open up more. Focusing on leveling myself up, I’m trying to be like you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 28 | ❗️LVM manipulation tactics❗️That is goals. Where did you find these men? Is this all from one man or from multiple men? Do you wait 3 months to sleep with them or do you not sleep with them at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:03 AM |
| 16 | Very important watch that sums up sad reality of dating in London. I'm really scared to make men wait for sex because there's such a high risk he's willing to run the marathon and leave afterward. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZf60RAN3q/?igshid=vpdkcxkma87hHe sounds like a needle in a hay stack. It sounds like your sister and brother in law have the upmost love and respect for one another. I won’t settle for less than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 09:23 AM |
| 29 | Very important watch that sums up sad reality of dating in London. I'm really scared to make men wait for sex because there's such a high risk he's willing to run the marathon and leave afterward. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZf60RAN3q/?igshid=vpdkcxkma87hI’ve had men spend money on me and still not me serious. It was too appease me and either get into my pants or stay in my good graces so they could stay in my pants. Spending money on dates is bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 06:00 AM |
| 17 | Very important watch that sums up sad reality of dating in London. I'm really scared to make men wait for sex because there's such a high risk he's willing to run the marathon and leave afterward. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZf60RAN3q/?igshid=vpdkcxkma87hI don’t got that kind of time lol. But I’m here for it!! Can I ask how old they were when they got together? She was never worried about him cheating during that time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:59 AM |
| 78 | Very important watch that sums up sad reality of dating in London. I'm really scared to make men wait for sex because there's such a high risk he's willing to run the marathon and leave afterward. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CFZf60RAN3q/?igshid=vpdkcxkma87hMen in the US are not much better lol. The 3 month rule is not foolproof but it’s a good start. I’m personally waiting longer, from now on. And you just have to keep vetting. Social media is a good indicator, meeting his friends and family (whether you do), the little things he lets slip out when he’s drinking or when he feels comfortable, any sexual talk will tell you what you need to know. The mask will slip, eventually. There’s no foolproof guarantee. Curious if anyone has made someone wait l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:27 AM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inWe talked a little about our exes. And he told me straight up he’s never dated a woman who looks like me. He told me what kind of women he’s been with in the past and they were all pretty much the same type (and opposite of me). Yeah he was attracted to me, sexually. But anything more serious? Not likely. So usually they will just outright say it (“I’ve never been with anyone who has a booty as big as yours!” Or whatever comment about your appearance that’s different than what they are used to) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:10 AM |
| 38 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI’m taking a break from dating for at least 3 months, possibly longer. I’ve started therapy and ended things with the last man I was dating (see my previous comments). I made a list of all the pros and cons with him and the cons outweighed the pros by so much 😖 A couple glaring red flags I chose to ignore : I wasn’t his usual type in terms of ethnicity, height, body type. I should have ended it at this one since it’s been my expeience that men who stray out of their usual types are just “samplin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Listing all the red flags of the LVM I briefly dated in order to not make the same mistakes again.I’m so glad it’s over between you two. You will know how they really feel about after sex. Always. I’ve made the mistake (or now I see it as a blessing) of having sex before the 3 month rule (now I’ll wait until 4 months minimum) and every time, they’ve changed after. Because they didn’t really want us - they wanted the thrill or the chase and then some sex. Now then can tell their friends they still “hit.” Now I’ve had girlfriends who slept with their man the first date or very early on and the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 08:34 PM |
| 2 | No man should ever be overweight or obese!I usually date thinner, built guys. My ex had a 6 pack without trying and he ate a lot. I recently dated someone, younger than me, who kind of had a dad bod going on. No moobs, but he has a soft flabby belly and love handles. It didn’t bother me much since I really liked him and gyms started opening up again and we were gonna go together. But he used to be really thin and then gained a lot of weight in the gym to look swole. I’ve worked out at home this whole time while gyms were closed so there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:54 PM |
| 4 | Oh hey, another shining example of how a LVM will destroy your life and sanity and how engrained gender roles make women think this is somehow okay.Good lord. Thank God he doesn’t have access to her money. The fact that he doesn’t even save his money and asks her for spending money 🥴🥴🥴 he’s not a father, he’s just another child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:48 PM |
| 5 | I love being tall. There I said it.5’9 gang here and I love it! I’ve only dated men taller than me but recently dated someone who’s between 5’11-6’0. I didn’t have a problem with this at all but he was bothered by me wearing even the slightest heel and asked me what my tallest heels were (4.5 inches sir). What a turnoff. We met online and my height was clearly stated, why tf did you even match with me? He told me tallest he’d dated was 5’5 😒 if you’re gonna be insecure about me being taller than you with heels then leave me be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:02 PM |
| 26 | Thoughts on "Dream Home Makeover" Couple from NetflixHer husband is closet gay. That aside, he’s useless. He just gets in her way and doesn’t contribute to the design or process in anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 07:12 PM |
| 1 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.Thank you for the breakdown. I had my suspicions but this confirmed it. And I’m definitely going to check out that book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:51 PM |
| 4 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.It was a huge turn off and I left pretty soon after. I’m not flattered I’m at 85 points at all lmao. I’m not trying to compete for his approval, it should be the other way around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:16 PM |
| 2 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.Why do you say redpiller? He also asked me if I loved him after the first time we had sex which shocked me - and no I don’t, we hadn’t known each other that long so that was very weird to ask. And that same night he told me “I love you” as I was leaving. I got out of my car so quick and asked why he would say that. He said he was “joking” but I’ve never had someone joke about that. He blamed it on drinking when I brought it up later on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:15 PM |
| 5 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.I’m sorry you had to go thru it too. Yes, it is. It’s easier than telling someone you’re not interested anymore or that you met someone else but it still sucks. Just don’t let him try and creep back to you in a couple of months cus you know he’ll probably try it lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:10 PM |
| 41 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.Thank you. I just have to file it under anothe life lesson and do better at establishing and enforcing my boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:12 AM |
| 59 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.Thanks girl. What’s funny is he did and said the exact same things other fuck boys have said to me in the past. What he did different was bounced back a lot quicker than the rest. He wants to stay having sex - he didn’t say that but it’s implied since he kept bringing up sexual talk. It’s disappointing to have another experience like this but it’s my own fault for allowing it. I’m taking a break from dating to make sure my boundaries are stronger so people like this cannot enter my life. Also, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:11 AM |
| 239 | The first time a new guy takes 24H+ to text, call, or reach out in any form? Don't bother acting chill, move on.I needed this slap in the face. I started seeing someone at the beginning of this year who was persistent, consistent and a gentleman (or so I thought). Our first couple of dates were great, he asked what I wanted to eat, picked out the restaurants, waited to see me when I had to reschedule and was out of town, etc. He did so much more than my ex did and the physical attraction was there so I let my guard down. Once things turned sexual he amped it up and I got caught up too. Once we had sex, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 10:34 PM |
| 10 | In the UK, carrying Pepper spray has a max 10 year prison sentence. So if you get caught using it on an attacker, you lose 10 years of your life as opposed to all of them.https://www.amazon.com/SABRE-Red-Pepper-Gel-Deployment/dp/B0739VVWBJ Not sure why my comment was flagged but here is the one I have. And yes Walmart, sporting goods stores, Etc sell them in-store. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 09:00 AM |
| 230 | In the UK, carrying Pepper spray has a max 10 year prison sentence. So if you get caught using it on an attacker, you lose 10 years of your life as opposed to all of them.This is insane. I always have pepper spray attached to my keys (I’m in the US). How did these laws pass over there?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?Yes from 3/8 men I’ve slept with. I only started cumming from piv with my last ex. I don’t knew what it was (he did have a big dick) but one day I just came while he was inside me. It was amazing. Since then, as long as the guy is a good size and is willing to finger me (fingering makes me cum like crazy), I can cum multiple times. Probably also has to do with the size/shape of their dick and if they know to hit the g-spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!I’ve had this happen more times than I care to admit. For some women, they want to have sex early on so they judge if the sex is good or not and then see how he acts; it takes a pretty tough personality to handle that. I personally can’t do it but I wish I could be so detached. I’ve sworn now to only have sex once we’re in an established relationship. Nothing worse than going from being doted on and adored to slow fading or complete ghosting after sex. Stay diligent, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | neckbeard brags about how much his wife does while he doesn’t do sh*t, even mentions how daughter “wasn’t even supposed to be alive 8 years ago”Wtffff. His wife needs to get help and he should be ashamed for “bragging” about her clearly obsessive compulsive behavior. But instead he loves to have to not lift a finger. I’m sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 16 | Cell Phone Tango part 6!Hmm I have no idea. I wouldn’t be surprised tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:53 AM |
| 197 | Cell Phone Tango part 6!Love these! And never forget that shady ass Instagram stopped us from seeing what other people liked, commented, and who they started following. And you know it had to be men complaining that their girl is seeing them like 10 ass and tittie pics in a row. You also used to be able to see who they followed chronologically without a desktop. Again, males at IG headquarters no doubt complained. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:23 AM |
| 19 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!Who are these hoe men? I wanna watch this whole video | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:18 AM |
| 89 | Field ReportThank you for this breakdown from your perspective. I’m 31, I workout, I consider myself attractive, funny, intelligent. I have hobbies and I work while going to school. I’ve been online dating on and off since last summer. I get numerous likes, messages, etc and rarely accept or swipe right for numerous reasons: ugly, out of shape men, red flags in bio, only like my picture or match with me on tinder and never message me or expect me to message first. I laughed when I heard men run out of swipe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 11:48 PM |
| 4 | Insecure men will always find a pickme so they can feel better about their non-existent effortsYou’re right, probably the low level scrotes downvoting. But obviously we are generalizing about blue collar jobs but the point still stands that most male dominated work spaces are full of misogyny and sexism and it’s accepted. No thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Insecure men will always find a pickme so they can feel better about their non-existent effortsI’m agreeing with you, not sure why i’m being downvoted. And I’m generalizing as well about male dominated workplaces. But we know it happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:35 PM |
| 10 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.Definitely. I feel for them and wish they would/could leave those situations. I would like marriage and a family one day but the more I see how selfish and inconsiderate and evil many men are, I’m turned off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Insecure men will always find a pickme so they can feel better about their non-existent effortsThey really just want a sex slave/maid/mommy. They don’t want real love because that requires effort and they would rather not make any effort, unless it’s for themselves. You know what, you have a point about many low level workers being like this. I looked at this dude’s account and looks like he works in an auto shop. Low level jobs are generally full of mostly men and uneducated men at that. A lot of sexism, stupid and perverted “manly” talk happens in places like these so I’m not surprised.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 08:59 PM |
| 57 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.Whenever I feel sad and lonely, I visit that sub. I am thankful for my independence everyday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:41 AM |
| 139 | Insecure men will always find a pickme so they can feel better about their non-existent effortsImagine being called insecure for wanting to be treated lovingly lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 10:10 PM |
| 162 | Stop talking to him at the very first sign of disinterest/lazinessNext time they ask for separate checks or to split. Say “Oh! I thought this was a date. Nvm lol.” Pay your part and then leave right after and don’t speak to them again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 08:08 PM |
| 3 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡Girl same. I’m shocked on how many men use that line just so they don’t show their significant others they care. It’s so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Boundaries are not just about peopleMe too girl. It was painless going in and it did it’s job. The only thing for me is the long periods. I have a friend who doesn’t get her period on it. I’m limited in which bc I can take but this for me was worth it. OP I’m sorry you went thru that. I can’t tell you what to do but I hope you get it taken out and get something else if you must. It doesn’t seem worth it at all with IUD’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:37 PM |
| 6 | I was blocked for this? They just can’t stand that a woman doesn’t want to sleep around. Can’t let those FDS ideas get out!! 🙄I have never kissed or had sex on a first date (now I’ve done straight booty calls lol but never have on dates). You don’t have to do it, ladies. That’s why fds says you don’t go to their homes, you meet in public, avoid excessive alcohol, and vet. I don’t even give them a chance now. You get a hug and thankyou this was really nice and dip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 11:44 PM |
| 12 | Reminder to check your security: Former ADT employee pleads guilty after spying on hundreds of customersThank you. So basically do what I’m doing - keep them out of private areas. Or build your own system, which sounds rather complicated - have you done this? It doesn’t sound easy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 11:24 PM |
| 20 | Reminder to check your security: Former ADT employee pleads guilty after spying on hundreds of customersWe just got ring because of an attempted break in. But because of the horror stories I’ve heard, we put cameras only outside all around the house. Any other recommendations? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | Divorced Women of FDSI see. Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you found a healthy relationship now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Divorced Women of FDSGenuinely curious - did you both decide to never do anything together in the 15 years you were together or did you grow apart, or one person wanted it that way? And why take separate flights on that trip? I’m sorry for all the questions I’m just kind of stunned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 12:08 PM |
| 51 | Do not discuss your finances/nest egg with men you are dating!!! I’ve dated two guys who would talk about “our money” when referring to my money (interestingly they never referred to to their own money as “our money” lol). And I used to think that was a good thing, like they were thinking about a future with me. Nope, they just wanted me to fund their lifestyle. Keep your finances private. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:31 AM |
| 12 | He didn’t wanna get a giftI don’t have tik tok - does anyone know what happened? Don’t beg for anyone like him to stay in your life, little sis. She’s so young, she’ll be ok and look back and say what was I thinking. And her ex literally has “playa” in his profile 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 02:33 AM |
| 5 | Run far away from “Marriage Helper” queens!Ooh got it. And thanks girl, moving forward is all I can do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 02:07 AM |
| 64 | I’m adopting a rescue dog whose been hurt by scrotes on the streets 🥺I’ve never seen a dog afraid of women. I’m sure they exist but so much rarer. My dog was never abused but to this day is more aggressive toward men who are not in my immiedtae family. It’s like they know lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 12:19 AM |
| 60 | Ah yes, the "good old days" of the 1950s. A time where if a man cheated on his wife, it's HER fault for having an unbleached vagina.Good lord. But what did they advertise for men to clean their dicks and balls with? I bet nothing. Dicks are perfect and clean and can never be tainted by our dirty vaginas they want so badly to penetrate. I can’t believe women give birth to men and women who grow up to become such awful humans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 12:17 AM |
| 32 | Run far away from “Marriage Helper” queens!I don’t get the last sentence - are they implying to push your cheating husband away so he’ll push back to come back? The biggest lie fed to women is that “something is missing in the relationship if he cheated.” We all know women who gave our all (myself included) to men and they still cheated. I saw an article of a woman who had sex with her husband every single day and he still cheated lol. Poly people cheat, men in open relationships cheat while they’re cheating. It’s their own selfish desir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 12:12 AM |
| 3 | I need the power and wisdom of this group.I hope you have blocked his number and any other number he calls from. It’s beyond selfish what he’s doing to you and to his wife. These types of men don’t care about people who care about them, they care about themselves and that’s it. They may say they “care” about you but think of that definition as in the same way they care for a cute pet - they can give it away. It might be hard and they’ll miss us but it’s harder for us. The care they have for themselves is not the same care they give to u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Bumble’s Response to Removing Political BadgesWhy are you all still using bumble tho? Isn’t that the app where women message men first? That’s nothing but a huge ego boost for men. At the very least men should be messaging you first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:09 AM |
| 7 | Love bombing vs making future plans and changing their minds later onYou were young. I bet at times he would feel he would want to be with you longterm but it was all based on how he falls and feelings don’t last. I’ve dated very wishy washy males like him. We take their words to heart and when they switch up it hurts. Do not ever believe words that are not backed by action. I’m glad you guys broke up. You’re still very young, don’t sweat him. Enjoy your life and never date a guy like him again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:06 AM |
| 5 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?I understand what it’s like to feel ugly with other women. We compare and compete and can be so cruel to one another. No shame whether you choose to or not ans I hope you’ll find peace and happiness with whatever route you choose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?If that happened, I know I would still want to look good and take care of myself as long as society was still functioning. I don’t know if it’s nature or nurture or a combination of both, but we usually want to impress (to a certain degree) or stand out in a good way around others. But agreed, investing in looks would probably plummet. At the end of the day, you have to feel good with yourself. Edit: not sure why I’m being downvoted. What I said is true in every society. You can look at the reas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 09:34 PM |
| 11 | Woman explains how men ruined My Little Pony for children (mostly girls) by making it hypersexual and catered towards a masculine aestheticI’m gonna have to watch the whole video later but omg I’m so glad she did this video. I grew up with my little pony, my parents even have some of our ponies in storage. It was an innocent toy and movies. When I first heard about bronies and the way men took to it and became obsessed with it, it made me feel sick. Because I don’t care what anyone says, it’s not right. It’s an obsessed fetishization of what was once an innocence for children. I read articles of seemingly average men becoming obses… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 11 | Can we talk about Botox and lip fillers and plastic surgery?No one is injecting themselves with silicone - at least I hope not; that’s very dangerous and can cause lasting damage. Botox is a toxin and the effects last only a few weeks. Filler is made of hyaludonic acid and other ingredients but can last for years. You have a point. I think for myself, the reason I’ve had filler was because of pressure from society to look good and prove women don’t hit the wall. I’ve had my hollow under eyes filled and 1 ml of lip filler. I don’t regret it and feel happy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:00 PM |
| 35 | "He's leaving her anyway, I don't mind. Should I give it a try and ignore that I'm an active participant in cheating?"Enjoy being that rebound, sis. He may even stick with you for a while. My ex is on 8 months with his rebound. You never know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:05 AM |
| 5 | CAn wE JUst DO SoMEthINg NiCE FOr MEn 🤪Thanks girl, he really didn’t. But yes this will be a nice Valentine’s Day for me. I’m spoiling myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:06 PM |
| 18 | Woman writes to advice columnist about her husband’s inability to parent and gets told that she is the problem.If they’re reasonable friends and family who have heard her vent about it then they’ll understand she’s just fed up. I would straight up say “my husband did their hair and dressed them. He thinks theirs nothing wrong with giving them junk food and dressing them like that. I’m tired of nagging him so go complain to him.” And sit back and drink my wine. Also stop doing shit for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:04 PM |
| 16 | CAn wE JUst DO SoMEthINg NiCE FOr MEn 🤪No. Last Valentine’s Day was the first Valentine’s Day for me and my ex where we could say I love you (he only admitted he loved me 6 months prior and we had already been on and off for 2 years by then. I know but I know better now). I didn’t think after all this time I would have to tell him to get me something. I got him computer parts he needed/wanted, his favorite wine and snacks and wrote a beautiful heartfelt card. He was so surprised. He got me nothing except a last minute, half-assed dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:27 PM |
| 59 | Woman writes to advice columnist about her husband’s inability to parent and gets told that she is the problem.We all know many men often are lazy about basic tasks and do them poorly on purpose so their wives will just do it. I’m sure this man loves his kids but he’d rather get the fun times with them and let the wife be the maid/bad guy. I don’t know what the remedy to this is but maybe just let him dress them badly and do their hair badly and “encourage” friends and family, especially other men to comment on it. Guaranteed he will listen to another man before he listens to his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Breaking news! Cheating Hillsong Pastor Carl Lentz is “depressed”!I wish she would divorce him. I can only think that she doesn’t want to break up the family and/or she still loves him. He didn’t have just one, one time affair. He had multiple for years. Fuck him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:56 AM |
| 2 | I blocked him after I broke up with him. 5 months LDR never met. I thought I got the message from one of his friends so I was planning on telling them to tell him to stop. But he actually just used an app to get through to me. After 3 letters through the mail. No = Try Harder?I’m glad you shut him down quick but I’m just gonna say it: sis, you weren’t in a relationship if you’ve never met. You were dating, at best, but I would just say more like pen pals and getting to know you stage, regardless of what you two agreed. I would caution anyone to avoid any long distance or giving any energy to someone you’ve never met. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 09:17 AM |
| 16 | LORI HARVEY is me . I am Lori Harvey , cause one thing about it I’m gone move on and get a new fella QUICK and a better one at thatWhat do you all think of their 10 year age difference tho | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:25 AM |
| 7 | After reading Armie Hammer's DMs, I never want to date or live near a man ever again. Anyone else feel that way?Aside from what he said 🤮🤮🤮 the way he words things... I believe there’s a strong demonic presence in Hollywood and he’s part of it. I’m so glad his wife divorced. He should not have unsupervised custody of his kids whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:16 AM |
| 7 | What’s the worst neg you got?I’ve heard multiple times how “rare” it is for me to have curves while being tall and white. One guy even told me it was rare to be this way if a woman is over 5’8 lmao. I didn’t realize different body types were limited to shorter women and it’s a one size fits all after 5’8. Who knew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 77 | She explains it perfectlyAll of the above. And every man can contribute something. My ex was “broke” but spent $12k fixing up his cars last year (and they were not necessary fixes - it was modifications for fun). I can count on one hand the number of times he paid for my nails or bought me clothes or anything that contributed towards my well being. Or don’t date broke dudes. They should be getting their money up and preparing to be kings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 11:42 PM |
| 18 | I need to ask a silly question...I’m the same way. I had to learn to do way less than I had a desire to do. Like others have mentioned, do not do any more than they do. People invest in things/people they see a future with. He needs to be the leading the nurturing of you and your relationship. If he’s not doing that then he’s not serious. Many men take advantage of womens’ kindness and natural inclination to nurture so don’t do it - It will only end in tears and regret. You can show you care without nurturing a grown ass man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Being in you 20’s should be about self development, your eduction and to lay the foundation for financial independenceI’m not talking about loving yourself or whatsver you’re definition of real is. If you’re dating someone, the dynamic is different and it is a different experience, especially if you’ve never dated or been in a relationship. We can disagree, but you can’t say being in a relationship doesn’t give any type of experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Being in you 20’s should be about self development, your eduction and to lay the foundation for financial independenceBeing in a relationship or dating is a whole different ball game than having relationships with friends and family. It absolutely gives you a different experience than friend or family relationships do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 8 | Being in you 20’s should be about self development, your eduction and to lay the foundation for financial independenceAgreed. I didn’t have a serious boyfriend until my late twenties. Looking back, I wish I would have also started dating in my early twenties for the experience, if anything. I think it would have made me tougher and choosier because it wasn’t fun going thru the pain and learning experiences at 28. Dating is self-development; you learn emotional control (hopefully), what you’re looking for long term, the kind of games men like to play, what kind of insecurities you have and what you can improve o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:01 AM |
| 16 | Repost from another sub, good reminder for ex-religious ladies. I know it’s hard to move past all of the ingrained sexism and misogyny sometimes but I’m here to tell you; You’re not wrong, THEY are.Interesting, I never knew this! I always had a feeling tho, since it never sat right with me even as a child the way women in religion are pushed to be submissive and modest. I don’t want to cater to weak men who would be tempted at the sight of bare shoulders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:00 AM |
| 23 | Repost from another sub, good reminder for ex-religious ladies. I know it’s hard to move past all of the ingrained sexism and misogyny sometimes but I’m here to tell you; You’re not wrong, THEY are.I agree and I grew up religious as well. My question is if that tweet is arguing they women are not naturally submissive, it’s a manipulation tactic created by men for their benefit, what can we say about sermons and messages directed towards faithfulness in marriages? Can we argue that men are not naturally faithful and they have to be nurtured to become so? We all know men, probably multiple men, who have cheated or are hoes or ethically non monagamous or whatever bullshit. I am monagamous my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:55 AM |
| 5 | Repost from another sub, good reminder for ex-religious ladies. I know it’s hard to move past all of the ingrained sexism and misogyny sometimes but I’m here to tell you; You’re not wrong, THEY are.I do not believe women should “submit” to their husbands. I’m just curious what the argument is for men and woman who argue it’s not natural to be monagamous. I always see posts, tweets, articles how humans are not meant to be monagamous, I’m sure many have seen the same. I disagree because I am monagamous by nature and nurture and I know plenty of people who are the same. But there exists an opposite to everything in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:44 AM |
| 36 | Repost from another sub, good reminder for ex-religious ladies. I know it’s hard to move past all of the ingrained sexism and misogyny sometimes but I’m here to tell you; You’re not wrong, THEY are.Lol But what I’m saying is, if the argument is that women are not naturally submissive since we have thousands of sermons and messages reminding us to submit, wouldn’t the same hold true for all the reminders given to men to stay faithful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:18 AM |
| 6 | Where are the hot men?I feel you. I’m also 5’9 and attractive and I’ve been with 4 men (all 6’3 or taller) who were crazy attractive. All were shit lol but I can still look back and be like damn no wonder I held on for so long 😩 don’t do it ladies. But now I’m wondering if I will ever find anyone who is both attractive, tall, and a good man. The odds are so slim. It is what it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:05 AM |
| 8 | We need to discuss Iggy and why the only person we should feel for is the baby. Being a pick-me doesn't pay ladies.Agreed with everything. Idk what she was expecting having a baby with that man 🥴she hasn’t leveled up like Ciara did, she stays bitter and airing it out online. I understand her bitterness because he just doesn’t care and that doesn’t feel good. But you gotta know when to just move on and it’s been time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:57 AM |
| 149 | Repost from another sub, good reminder for ex-religious ladies. I know it’s hard to move past all of the ingrained sexism and misogyny sometimes but I’m here to tell you; You’re not wrong, THEY are.I agree. But what about all the sermons and books and messages reminding men to stay faithful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020I just read the book for the first time and I could relate to so much. Reading it was actually the final slap I needed to get over my ex fully and damn was it effective. I don’t agree everything in the book; it’s too much work for me to behave in ways she recommends in order to have the power with men. And the type of men you have to behave that way with are probably not the type of men I want to be with. But overall I think the book is extremely useful for keeping your power and dignity. And wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.I’m glad you realized it before getting married. Can I ask how long you we’re together before getting engaged? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 05:13 AM |
| 25 | Guess which comment was written by a man...nobody takes 10 years to decide whether they want to marry someone. Absolutely nobody.Nope, I’ve noticed this too and have mentioned it to family and friends. I know a couple of people like this in real life but have seen where it happens to quite a few celebrities. Most recently Miley Cyrus. Like some have mentioned, it’s probably because it’s the next logical step in the relationship but then one or both of them realize the other person didn’t change like they thought they would or they aren’t the person they thought they were or wanted them to be. Also I bet the girlfriend had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Don’t buy matching Christmas sweaters or beg him to take you to see the lights. Go with your girlfriends instead and actually have a good time.Thanks girl and yes! Do all those things for yourself and with loved ones and enjoy 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 11:18 PM |
| 85 | ALWAYS leave your cheating spouse! Every time a woman forgives a cheating man, she is spitting on the grave of all the women who suffered under patriarchy before us. Staying with a cheater is degrading to yourself and to all women.If you’re just dating and he sleeps with someone else or is texting someone’s else, etc it’s cheating too. Don’t forgive him and rationalize that you just started dating and you caught feelings and you can’t just end something that barely started. Yes you can. He disrespected you already and it won’t stop. He may behave for a while but watch 6 months, a year, a couple of years, he will step out and cheat again guaranteed. If someone is dating you for about 4 months or longer and still hasn’t com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 7 | Don’t buy matching Christmas sweaters or beg him to take you to see the lights. Go with your girlfriends instead and actually have a good time.Shit does that kind of man exist? I’ve never had a man suggest doing any holiday activities. I had to ask my ex to go to the pumpkin patch together or see Christmas lights or watch Christmas movies together. Did it ever happen? Of course not. He didn’t wanna do the things that I enjoyed even tho I always did things he enjoyed. I was left sad and unfulfilled. This holiday season I’m single and decorating the house and going to see lights with friends 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 03:03 AM |
| 5 | The invisible labour of women and why you should pay attention to how he livesMan this is so true. How many single women have their living spaces decorated for the holiday vs men? And if they’re married, almost guaranteed the house and traditions are kept alive because of their wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 06:50 AM |
| 29 | Never advance a relationship of you have not confirmed what is on his phone.wHaT hApPeNed tO tRuStiNg yOuR pARtNeR?? Any tips for how to approach looking at someone’s phone? Most people have passcodes and don’t usually voluntarily offer their phone to be searched | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:03 PM |
| 21 | I noticed a new narrative on reddit: "Most women dont care if a guy is short...it's TALL WOMEN that were the true lepers all along."Yes I’ve notice that too! I wanted to be 5’11 fifteen years ago. Now everyone wants to be shorter than 5’5. Good points about music influencing that. Beauty standards for women change so much and I’m sick of it. First we gotta be model thin, then thicc, then big boobs are in then little boobs then little booties then big booties. Fuck all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:27 PM |
| 19 | I noticed a new narrative on reddit: "Most women dont care if a guy is short...it's TALL WOMEN that were the true lepers all along."Same. I’m 5’9 and men of every height approach me. I always date taller than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:24 PM |
| 35 | Mr.SituationshipThere’s levels to this. After my most recent ex and I broke up, we started sleeping together soon after and ended up in a situationship. He would have been happy to just have sex with me and have sex with other girls at the same time. I wouldn’t allow that. He said he wouldn’t mind if I slept with other guys. So when I finally did sleep with someone else, I told him I did and we couldn’t see each other anymore. he broke down completely and finally told me he loved me. He begged for me back after… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:20 AM |
| 9 | Sunk Cost Fallacy in full effectSame girl. I didn’t necessarily seek out broken men but I thought if I gave them all my love and did sweet things for them, there’s no way they would cheat on me or hurt me. It was a bitter awakening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:01 AM |
| 10 | Sunk Cost Fallacy in full effectAs women, our nature (or more likely we’re nurtured to be this way) is to forgive, fix things, compromise, or accept things to make it work. That’s why many cheating men stayed married even if their wives know about it. She ended up accepting his behavior and attempted to rationalize it to make herself feel better. I’ve done that with men too (not the porn stuff but other things) because I based my happiness on being with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 28 | Sunk Cost Fallacy in full effectI’ve never been divorced but yes it can be. For most people, especially women, your whole life is based on living it with someone else. You’ve invested so much in this person, you want to make it work (which is why we shouldn’t invest in men like that, they need to invest in us). The fear of being alone, of failure, of never finding anyone again is real. So it all comes down to self-respect and choosing ourselves and our own peace over trying to turn a hoe into a husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 194 | Pretty much the exact response I expected. That’s a no from me, dawg.“That’s great news” lol. I avoid anyone who comments about wanting to be fed or expect cooking. “The key to my heart is thru my stomach lol if you can cook I’ll love you” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:14 AM |
| 11 | My heart is breaking for this woman.Agreed. I wouldn’t even ever let anyone stick anything in me besides fingers or a sex toy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:16 AM |
| 102 | My heart is breaking for this woman.I read her comment in the thread. He started living with her when his ex kicked him out after he became and amputee. So she’s his nurse and mommy. She also says he was sexually assaulted and lost his sex drive after becoming an amputee. I don’t blame him but it sounds like they’ve been at therapy for a while. It sounds like he had this problem before they got married. I wouldn’t be able to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:47 AM |
| 21 | Just no 😑Phew facts. Thankfully I was never taught or heard that vaginas are weird/gross. But it drives me nuts that sucking dick is the norm but eating us out is not. Also I hate how society calls someone who is weak a pussy and tells people to grow some balls, implying strength that. It’s literally the other way around. Balls are weak and sensitive but we can push a whole human out of our vaginas. Men definitely coined that to feel better about themselves. Ladies, take a mirror and examine your vagina.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Being a woman in today’s day and age is SO depressing... men will always stick up for their kind no matter what kind of stupid shit is in question. Women are either wrong or equally to blame- Remember ladies it’s rarely ever the man’s fault.I agree it’s not feasible in the long run, especially when it’s not the same to salt to things like patties afterwards - those are much easier to make separately salted and unsalted compared to a crockpot of chili which is very easy to add salt to and why her bf was totally inconsiderate to add salt to. It’s possible she or he will have to make two batches of some meals in their future together. That’s extra work and I have a feeling she’s willing to do it but he wouldn’t be. I wouldn’t be tho l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:16 PM |
| 17 | Being a woman in today’s day and age is SO depressing... men will always stick up for their kind no matter what kind of stupid shit is in question. Women are either wrong or equally to blame- Remember ladies it’s rarely ever the man’s fault.Nah for your suggestion to the second story. She made it in a crockpot and most people only have one crock pot lying around. Also no one is gonna make two pots of chili just to add salt to one lmao. And he knows she sensitive to the taste. He knows. And she’s the one who made it and he still added salt to the whole batch wtf! Nah fuck him. Adding salt to your chili bowl is the easiest thing you can do. He’s just a selfish asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 65 | WHAT?! This is such BS.31 here. Never have cheated. And I rage when I see males (and pickmes) claiming women cheat more then men. We all know that’s not true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 334 | She quit faking orgasms, now husband refuses to even TRY sexIt’s so funny to me men think about sex 24/7, sexualize women daily, jack off daily, but won’t even put in the work to get better at sex and please their partner. Like the one thing you all live for and you aren’t even good at it. This woman is literally telling him what he can do to please her and instead of doing that, his ego can’t handle it so he does nothing and sulks like a little kid. And he had pills for ED but they don’t help? Time to try another kind or up the dose or stop jacking off … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:58 AM |
| 14 | One of my love languages is receiving gifts..First date in Puerto Rico?? Did he fly you out there and how did you meet? And I agree with everyone here. I own like one designer thing because it’s not something I need right now but do I want a designer bag? Of course. Am I smart with my money and expect my man to be? Obviously. But like also mentioned, everything shouldn’t have to be about business all the time. I love giving nice gifts to people I love. I’ve never had a man be so thoughtful back (except family members). It’s like when you s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:55 PM |
| 8 | How can you tell if a man’s relationship with his mom is healthy versus a man who has “mommy-itis”??Those hashtags are a huge red flag. Basically anything out of the “ordinary” is a red flag. If he says he’s Putting his mother or parents or family before you then run. One thing my parents did right is treat me and my siblings the same; we never questioned if our parents love one of us more or if they have favorites cus they don’t. My brothers all have a great, normal relationship with our mom. They love her, get her gifts for Mother’s Day, her birthday, etc. but she doesn’t know all about thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:57 AM |
| 5 | That’s a pretty low bar for ‘relationship goals’. And they say women are gold diggers.Right. He did post her I think twice but that won’t stop pickmes and it’s still way less than she posted him. Edit: to me, I see vulnerable written all over her and I feel like this guy sees it too. I also read her ex cheated on her but I don’t think she’s confirmed that. To jump into another relationship right after isn’t healthy generally speaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 09:39 PM |
| 17 | That’s a pretty low bar for ‘relationship goals’. And they say women are gold diggers.I didn’t even know she had a new boyfriend, I thought she was with that other gymnast guy? Oh no I don’t like the vibe from this new guy at all. She seems like the sweetest girl wanting to give him everything to show him how much she loves him and he looks like he don’t give af. She even posted him first and has posted him more times than he has 🤦🏻♀️ Someone please tell this amazing Olympic world champion this ain’t it. Edit: just looked thru the comments of her most recent post and someone com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 4 | TLC made a reality show called "I Love a Mama's Boy"Yes, the girlfriend’s mother was the only one who made any sense. The rest all need major therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:48 AM |
| 45 | TLC made a reality show called "I Love a Mama's Boy"Lord. If there’s anything I hate more than a mama’s boy, it’s the mothers themselves who coddle their sons and use them as surrogate husband which fucks up society with these useless man children and mothers who cannot let go of their sons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:18 PM |
| 2 | I believe there is some truth to it for sure. Any thoughts ?I did this. Never again. She will learn the hard way 😓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Just broke it off with him. I feel like he was playing me but I’m not certain.Nooo I mean I’ve told her that the way he’s acting is not trustworthy. She doesn’t want to ask questions or look into things for herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Just broke it off with him. I feel like he was playing me but I’m not certain.I’ve told her, girl. I’ve even sent her links from here. She doesn’t want to hear it. I don’t think she can bear to find out anything like that. It’s hard but I’d rather know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 07:30 PM |
| 8 | Just broke it off with him. I feel like he was playing me but I’m not certain.I have a friend and I’m pretty sure her boyfriend has cheated on her. I just feel it. He never posts her on social media, has routinely gone MIA on her, doesn’t take her on regular dates or see he regularly, treats her more like a booty call (she said this), and follows lots of girls on IG. When I questioned my friend about who he’s following she said he has a lot of girl friends (from different parts of the country? Ok). They’ve been together for a year and it feels like they’re in a long dista… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:45 PM |
| 8 | Look at this beautiful 65 years old woman but these red pillers say women hit the wall at 30. It's not true. Women are very attractive older too and women need to embrace their unique beauty and love themselves from inside out. Don't listen to those idiots. Love yourself at any age.You are beautifulOr even before 30. I remember being attracted to several good looking guys in high school who wouldn’t look twice at me. At my 10 year high school reunion, more than half of those men were overweight, haggard looming and balding. I look the same but I glowed up in my late 20s. They were shook. I wouldn’t look twice at them now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:32 PM |
| 37 | I bet Clint’s WIFE doesn’t even know she’s in a non-monogamous relationship.If I see one more guys talking about being “ethically non-monagamous” I’m gonna lose my shit. Wtf does that even mean?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:13 PM |
| 6 | An epiphany I had about my dad who was raised by a single motherI love to hear this. It sounds like your grandmother did not tolerate bs and instilled strength, love, and good work ethic into her children. This is the definition of a good parent, passing down those qualities. Unfortunately, I’ve come across many LVM who were raised by single mothers. We’ve talked about this before on here but when mothers (and not necessarily single mothers) baby their boys, they end up being LV more often than not. Spoiling them, using them as a surrogate husband, not teach… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:28 PM |
| 35 | Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.Exactly. No matter how good a guy is if I’m not physically attracted, I can’t do it. And I’m not often physically attracted that often. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:16 AM |
| 52 | Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.Oh man how depressingly true. I’ve noticed this for so long. I rarely swipe right or let someone match with me. Strictly speaking looks-wise, women are just so much more attractive. I’m not attracted to women, unfortunately. My ex, with all his issues and low value ness is so handsome. I’m still physically attracted to him. I held onto him for so long because I was afraid of never finding anyone I’m so intensely attracted to. I still am afraid, or more depressed that I will never find such attra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:32 PM |
| 17 | “I didn’t know what you meant”Right same! I am not about to transfer a huge pot of soup I made at 11pm into a bunch of smaller containers tf. Put that whole pot in the fridge and when you’re about 1/2 or more done, then you transfer it into a smaller container. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Quick Survey - How Did You All Find FDS?None of the above - it was one of those recommended subs or subs I might like after subscribing to other dating subs. Best recommendation in my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:46 AM |
| 16 | What is the most pointless lie that a LVM has told you?obligatory lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Married scrote can't sleep without teddy bear that plays a recording of his dead exI thought I’d read it all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 12:25 AM |
| 46 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.My ex too! He straight up told me after we broke that he loves being babied/mothered. I’m 8 years older. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 09:00 AM |
| 49 | Jason Mamoa is a true HVMI just looked up his comment: “As far as sci-fi and fantasy, I love that genre because there are so many things you can do, like rip someone’s tongue out of their throat and get away with it and rape beautiful women,” said the actor to some crowd laughter about his barbarian warrior character Khal Drogo.’ He apologized of course, but I believe he was being totally honest in what he said and what many other men fantasize about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 08:37 PM |
| 43 | Jason Mamoa is a true HVMI’m kind of torn on this one. One one hand he seems like a great guy and smitten with her and their family. On the other hand, he basically idolized (and stalked, his words) her before he met her which I imagine made him project what he thought she would be like. Like he had to have her no matter what cus she was his childhood crush. But I guess it worked? And she is 12 years older which is a pretty big age gap. Seems like it’s working and he did the pursuing. But I wonder if that will change do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 08:22 PM |
| 69 | maybe its considered creepy because this man is 11 years older than her ? if he is so successful & in his prime (🤣) why don't you shoot your shot limpdick?He for sure ain’t in his prime, he is in decline lol. Those emojis are the creepy-men-choice-cuts. All that’s missing is 👀💦😋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:58 PM |
| 16 | OLD is so effin grimHahaha he was on easy 😩 I understand wanting that common ground. Do you work with anyone in your professional field or know anyone? Other than that, I would say venture away from it since it sounds like it’s not working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:26 AM |
| 58 | OLD is so effin grimDamn girl you ain’t no typical gamer, you’re an expert. Most of these scrotes just play all day. They are not worthy of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 09:12 AM |
| 28 | OLD is so effin grimIt is pretty bad. It sounds like you’re a gamer? And into other gamers? Have you noticed that most gamer males are NV or LV? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 08:13 AM |
| 11 | out in the wild...couldn’t be me 🤮🤮Bish what??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:50 AM |
| 8 | "New in town"My sister has come across our friend’s former fiancé who is “new in town” lol. He was born and raised here, just cus you moved 15 min away from your parent’s house does not qualify you as “new in town” Patrick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:37 PM |
| 53 | Men: “Just give us a signal you’re open to being approached!” Women: “Ok, how?” Men: “Ask us out”I downloaded tinder because I was bored. The amount of average and ugly men who say they like to be messaged first or don’t message first is astounding. You’re a 3 sir - who is gonna message you first??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:32 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Because online dating is mostly full of males who can’t get dates in real life. Meanwhile, most quality women turn to online dating because they are fed up being approached by scrotes in bars. Males will like and/or comment and 100 pictures hoping at least 10 respond. And then they will be choosy over the ones who do lol. It’s trash. If you’re gonna do it don’t do bumble. If you do a site like hinge, don’t waste your time with guys who just like a pic or answer you gave. Those are the ones who a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:03 PM |
| 25 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020End it. Even if you’re not looking for a relationship, you may end up having feelings for him and that will only make it harder to end things. Also, he’s for sure still in love or whatever with her and why would you wanna settle for being second choice to him? Even if you’re just going on dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 14 | I love when she says “low effort might work at the first stages of the relationship, but I guarantee you that you will be pissed in a few years, when he puts in 0 effort into doing anything for you...don’t set yourself up for failure like that, be firm in what you want”Yup, it won’t get you love or respect. But many women would rather put up with shit rather than be alone or start again. It’s hard, and considering the terrible quality of men out there, I understand why. As much as it gets lonely sometimes, it’s better to be unbothered and finding happiness within. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:19 PM |
| 75 | I love when she says “low effort might work at the first stages of the relationship, but I guarantee you that you will be pissed in a few years, when he puts in 0 effort into doing anything for you...don’t set yourself up for failure like that, be firm in what you want”Agreed. But of course the root of wanting to be thecool girl and not wanting to come across as a bitch comes from wanting to be loved and fear of being alone. Those are probably the top reasons why we put up with so much. Definitely the reasons I stayed so long with guys where I put in most of the work in relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:59 AM |
| 8 | Liar, Cheater, Abusive, Insecure, Porn, Narccissist, No morals or values, Uses women for ego boosts and Sex, Thinks he's god cos he works out, Apparent ladies man, C*m sock, Fakes mental illness, Listens to sexist rappers who he wishes he was, Looks up to toxic men, Thinks he's something he's not.That emoji tho 😂😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:55 PM |
| 7 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeI’m glad you left and I’m sorry for the trauma he caused and I hope you’re doing well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 07:14 PM |
| 7 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeGood lord. You just can’t trust anyone. Please tell me he got the full punishment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:48 PM |
| 21 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeI believe in God but I do agree that many ultra religious people commit adultery and that being HV doesn’t come from fear of punishment from God. Many NV/LV men use religion as a veil to hide who they are and for control. Some of my morals have come from religion, some have come from my own experience and nature. I don’t do good things because I’ll be rewarded for it and I don’t do bad things because I fear punishment. I do and don’t do because it’s the right thing to do. Because I have dignity … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:45 PM |
| 24 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeRight? Yet you see pictures of him out wearing the trendiest clothes he could find, working out, hanging out with the ol’ celebs. “When you lead out of an empty place...” 🙄Yeah an empty place of vanity, selfishness, greed, and being a hoe. He thought he was just too cool. I hope he’s wife divorces him. But she won’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:37 PM |
| 11 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeI don’t blame you. I don’t like many church folk either which is why I rarely go to church. I didn’t like this particular pastor the moment I laid eyes on him because I could tell he wasn’t the real deal. Edit: I misread what you said. I thought you said “nobody likes them churchfolks” I mean both are probably true lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:33 PM |
| 16 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeOooh this is a different pastor tho but lmao. Megachurches and celebrity pastors are a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 174 | Carl Lentz, [former] pastor of Megachurch Hillsong, fired for cheating on wifeMan where do I begin. I was raised Christian but don’t really attend church anymore and “pastors” like him are a big reason why. Preaching one thing, but then disrespecting their wives and God behind the scenes. Do a quick google search on him and you can tell how he loved being a celebrity pastor and rubbing shoulders with the elite. Take a look at his most Instagram post, with his lame PR apology, and all those people commenting as if he is a victim. A pastor, more so than anyone, knows right … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 09:27 AM |
| 45 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesWait a minute 😂😂😭now I need to know did he try and get in touch after that or did you block right away? Did he end up raising his baby with the girl? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:06 PM |
| 177 | Calls his wife a “total bitch” 2 months postpartum and almost no one is calling out the disrespectThis is exactly why you don’t have kids with a broke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:32 AM |
| 4 | For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving.Oh no sis not the green card. I’m glad you are leaving tho! Bay what is this hidden app?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 02:43 AM |
| 60 | No 50/50 birthdayHe makes 6 figures but can’t even drop a few hundred on your birthday? I live in a high COL area and make below average wage since I’m also in school. Yet I spent almost $200 on a dinner for a friend’s birthday last week. Your bf is cheap and stingy and cares more about his wallet than you. He doesn’t see you as a long term investment, otherwise he would be doing all this plus more without you asking. And I’m just gonna say it, you won’t leave him OP. I know exactly how you feel cus I was in lov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 11:08 PM |
| 2 | I can practically guarantee this is because of porn.This male needs to see a therapist ASAP. But aside from everything else he said, this is the second post in 2 days I’ve seen a male use lack of social skills as an excuse for never approaching women. What does growing up “sheltered” mean? Because social skills can be learned so I find it funny that he writes himself off solely because of that (obviously he’s gay or confused and using that as an excuse but still). He’s also in his early 20s, takes care of himself, and naturally into sports - I’d … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 12:27 PM |
| 17 | LVM out here “cooking” dog food and frozen broccoli on “dates.” I’d literally rather go to the field.I can’t 😂😂😂 He didn’t even clean off the damn table | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020This is what I’ve been thinking for some time. I don’t invite her to mutual gatherings or trips and I couldn’t 100% put my finger on why I was holding back from inviting her or seeing her more often. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Agreed. I would never do that to a real friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I probably wouldn’t tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 09:06 PM |
| 3 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗Lol he can stay jealous. He shoulda stepped up and set the tone for dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 101 | I don't even know what to say at this pointGood. I wish more incels thought more like this and stayed to themselves. I’m all for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Of course. I don’t accept her behavior or make excuses for her but I acknowledge how it has shaped her. I have kept her at an arms distance for some time now and this is a big reason why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:40 AM |
| -1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020She’s a great person otherwise. But she’s had a hard childhood, neglected by her parents and her brother was favored over her. So I can see where it stems from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 10:38 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020So one of my girl friends is “friends” with a guy I dated last year. We all met at the same time. He and I dated for a couple of months. Right after we all met, I noticed she followed him on Instagram. He followed back and liked way more of her posts and commented compared to mine. It bothered me a lot, I brought it up to him then and he laughed it off. Fast forward, he and I end, she then tells me in a kind of bragging way how he had liked a bunch of her pictures and commented on them. I told h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗Oh man I’m sorry. He ain’t shit. Classic “she’s just a friend babe” 🙄🙄I’m glad you took the watch back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:04 PM |
| 10 | paultrick over here is full of red flags 🚩🚩Da fuck. This guy really thinks this shit will work? He sounds hideous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:44 AM |
| 3 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗Aw I’m sorry girl. I’m sure that felt so terrible. You are kind and thoughtful and don’t forget it! Now you have the choice to either continue doing those types of things to those friends and never expect anything back, or just pull back and match their energy. Tbh I don’t even remember if this particular friend wished me a happy birthday this year and she has never gotten me a gift. But we have had a relationship where sometimes we are closer and sometimes we aren’t as close so I don’t expect g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:32 AM |
| 3 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗No but I wish 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 08:12 AM |
| 3 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗I already gave it to her so I didn’t check but right on the front It says “grown and crafted in California” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:53 AM |
| 45 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗Always. My friends always have my back, are always ready to help and listen and show me they care. It’s a sisterhood I’m so thankful for. Girl, facts. I was so wonderful to my most recent ex. Got him thoughtful gifts (even when we weren’t officially together), wrapped everything nicely, poured my heart out into writing a card, bought him random things I knew he’d like, showed him real affection, love, and loyalty. What does he do to show his appreciation? He had a threesome, gave me an std (cura… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 11:35 PM |
| 102 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗According to your username, you’re already my friend lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 11:05 PM |
| 147 | It’s my friend’s birthday. I got her some little gifts and I’m taking her out to a nice restaurant (that I found and picked and I will pay for our meal) She’s an amazing person and I want to make her feel special on her day 💗I asked her what kind of food she wanted and she told me and I found the restaurant via yelp (see, it’s not hard lazy ass men). She is so thoughtful and caring and I want her to just enjoy herself. I try and treat all my close friends well for their birthdays because they deserve it. Most of my friends and I have been mistreated by men so I want to show them what it feels like to be loved and appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 1 | John Gray in his ted talk explains that studies showed than women’s stress level is higher than those of men in a relationship (4x more at home to be exact). This is insane. If your relationship brings you stress, stay single ! No one In Nature is able to survive to long term stress .I will but I wanted to send that specific quote to someone. Can you link the video and when he says that quote? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:58 PM |
| 56 | Maybe because he isn’t the right guy for them 🤷🏻♀️It’s like when “nice” guys complain about girls saying they want a nice guy to them. Doesn’t mean they want you just cus you’re “nice” sir. I know plenty of nice, good guys and I’m not attracted to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:36 AM |
| 17 | John Gray in his ted talk explains that studies showed than women’s stress level is higher than those of men in a relationship (4x more at home to be exact). This is insane. If your relationship brings you stress, stay single ! No one In Nature is able to survive to long term stress .Can someone link the Ted talk and the time he mentions this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 61 | They will ALWAYS find a way to blame women for their misogyny.People are so crazy. My friend is tall, especially for a Vietnamese woman (5’7) and her mom would make her wear hats all the time because it was supposed to make her stop growing lmfao. She’s now happily married to a man taller than her. Be proud, girl. I’m 5’9 and love it tho I didn’t used to. Thankfully my family loves tall women and never put me and my other tall sister down for it (who is also married to someone taller than her). Just the other day at work, a sweet, short, old man told me “w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:11 AM |
| 7 | A word about Insta-voyeurs.Woah now you’re asking for too much /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Listen to your brain, listen to body. Remove all stressful elements from your life.Thank you, I needed this. I wondered why I would try so hard with my hot and cold ex after all the pain he cussed me and this explains it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 10:04 PM |
| 55 | A word about Insta-voyeurs.I’m convinced Instagram removed the see what others have liked and commented on tab because so many men got in trouble from it. It’s pathetic. And I don’t know about your Instagram, but mine has changed where others followers and following is scrambled up so it’s not longer in order from most recent. Again, I’m convinced they did it so men don’t get in trouble from their girlfriend or wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:55 PM |
| 13 | "Spoiled" is really just normal love like it should beWow your man is on it and that’s how it should be ❤️This type of love coming from someone else is so foreign to me. I am the gift giver amongst my friends and family (scalded back over time and I’m not the only one In my family but I was the consistent one for a while) and I did spoil my ex. I’ve never had a man be so thoughtful towards me. I hope I can experience someone showing me they care this much for me one day! If not, back to spoiling/loving myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 07:09 AM |
| 9 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceThar is so sad. I wish she would have said something. How is it fair for him as a lawyer to have a full team of lawyers behind him while she has none? What about her family helping her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 11:13 PM |
| 4 | RiChArD’s small scrote brain can’t comprehend women working for a body that doesn’t please himI have to idea who this man is but I just looked up his twitter and Instagram and 🤢🤢🥴🤣🤣🤣 He’s a gross wannabe alpha bitter divorcee. I’m attractive, I’ve got lips, hips, a booty and cute small tits and I wouldn’t touch this gross old chauvinist with 10 foot pole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 09:13 PM |
| 8 | Sad we need to train our girls to be women at such a young age to prepare them for a world of depravity. Credit for video: @frugaltraciThat makes sense and it is terribly sad. But their daughters love them and would most likely be there for their mothers much more than their sons. Why wouldn’t you want your daughter by your side as much as possible? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:43 PM |
| 4 | QueenShe seems lovely, but she’s 47 and her last boyfriend was 23. Before that, another was 25. Her daughter is 21. Edit: I was waiting for the downvotes since I saw someone previously came to her defense cus “if men can do it so can we.” I don’t agree especially since we get on men all the time for doing this shit. In just another thread, everyone was going against another woman for doing the same thing as kate is doing. I’ve dated younger myself but never with that extreme age difference - I stand … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:15 PM |
| 22 | Sad we need to train our girls to be women at such a young age to prepare them for a world of depravity. Credit for video: @frugaltraciFacts on facts on facts. I don’t understand this mentality of coddling your sons - why? What good does it do when as a mother, you know that women and mothers are the backbone of society and are not valued for it and mistreated by men? You know what a cruel world it is out there if you kick your daughter out as a teen forcing her to grow up too soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 02:06 PM |
| 27 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceGood lord I’m mad. I don’t know the legal proceedings in a case like this but wasn’t a judge involved? Is she not in a 50/50 state? Why doesn’t he have to pay spousal/child support? I know it takes a lot for a mom to lose their kids and this just shocks me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020That’s great to hear about your parents instilling that confidence in you. That’s where the foundation starts. I grew up in a large family, which I did enjoy, but I never got that doting attention from my parents or other family members as they had their hands full all the time. One on one time with my parents or other family members was rare and my father was never the type to have heart-to-heart open conversations with his children. I was also a naturally, good child and eager to please, so I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 01:46 PM |
| 60 | Man proposes to girlfriend of 45 years on flight...“I’ve finally realized that I won’t ever find anyone else (tho God knows I’ve tried) and you’re the one for me” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:52 PM |
| 67 | Man proposes to girlfriend of 45 years on flight...Lmfaoooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:50 PM |
| 80 | Man proposes to girlfriend of 45 years on flight...Idk if this is real or not (a friend saw it on Facebook and sent it to me) but I hope it’s not. 45 years together and you’re gonna finally propose and on the floor or a dirty ass plane aisle? this is the only information I could find on it and I just hope it’s satire. “As she was on her way to the bathroom” 😭 If it’s real, I hope she said no and left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:07 PM |
| 5 | Never going to date a cheap man ever againUgh that makes me sick. What culture were they? Religion? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:11 PM |
| 10 | From advice, at least they feel bad but who the hell is this deranged to do this?Lol an ex military guy I met once(long story short: he was security at a bar and took my phone out of my hand and added himself on Snapchat, Instagram, and put his phone number in and I was too tipsy to care) who was trying to talk to me once sent me a dick pic out of the blue. When I called him out on it, he lied and said he was drunk. He was already bad vibes and acting stalkerish so I blocked him. He texted me from his work phone angry about it I blocked him and then eventually messaged me on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 54 | Never going to date a cheap man ever againNah that man was not cheap if he wore expensive suits to work and probably had a nice coat? Unlike his poor wife. If he was actually cheap, he would be wearing a tattered coat as well. He’s an abusive pos. I feel so sorry for that woman and I hope she left him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I love to hear this. I was very insecure as a child and can’t relate to what you’re saying until I was in my mid twenties and even now in my early 30s I’m not quite on that level. But I’m close. Did you have anyone in your life who taught you to think this way or inspired to be HV? or was it just your natural intuition? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 05:42 AM |
| 28 | “If he wanted to, he would”... what matters is he didn’t! Who cares! Keep doing you!!This is what we should be saying instead of “if he wanted to he would.” Desire is only a small part, the rest is actions. I had an ex who would literally tell me he “thought” about taking me to this restaurant or this type of date, etc and he never did. Like the “thought” of him doing that should make me happy or some shit. I don’t agree with “it’s the thought that counts” at all. If you don’t take actions to show your desire then bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 10:36 PM |
| 36 | We need to stop with the myth that dating is sooo hard for all men and that men will treasure you because your attention is rare. 🗣 THEY’RE PLAYING ALL OF US AND THIS IS HOW!I don’t get it either. I’ve been told I’m the best they’ve ever had multiple times. Sure it could be a line but I know I have skills but so do many other women and good pussy is not rare (unlike good dick). Yet they still left trying to fuck other women lol. It’s not about the quality for them, it’s the quantity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 10:26 PM |
| 22 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.Like everyone said, nothing you could have done differently (like you said, it felt like you were under a microscope) and this dude is crazy. Who tf ruins a trip by telling you a thing like this mid hike?? But it’s ok cus he still wants to keep seeing you lol. I hope you have blocked him on everything. Thankfully it’s only been two months so you didn’t lose anything. I’d also advise you and anyone else not to go on any trips with someone so soon, especially when you’re not in a relationship yet.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:29 PM |
| 59 | The movie trailer for Promising Young Women is what LVM think this sub is about, and I am there for it!!This looks amazing. And I’m kinda amazed Hollywood put out a movie like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:13 AM |
| 123 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.I’m sorry girl. So he said this after spending the night with you...Was this the first time? How long have you been seeing him? Without knowing the full details, it sounds like he got what he wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:06 AM |
| 16 | Women asks if she should kick her 21 yr old daughter out because her 52 yr old husband cant cOnTroL hImSeLf🤢🤢🤢Kick him out!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:50 AM |
| 2 | Super grateful for learning how not to beg from FDS. He kissed me Sunday and told me he chose another girl over me on Thursday. Bye.This just happened to me last week. I told my friends about it and some asked why we wouldn’t be friends lol. He doesn’t wanna be friends, he wants me to be the backup for when it doesn’t work out with the other girl. Perhaps if two people mutely decide there’s no romance or interest on dating one another, friendship is possible. Not in cases like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Super grateful for learning how not to beg from FDS. He kissed me Sunday and told me he chose another girl over me on Thursday. Bye.How so? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 09:44 AM |
| 3 | How to love yourself over/over. - Tonya TkoThis was great. I knew of the 5 ways she listed to love yourself. But she broke it down further and made me believe that I am worthy of love and loving myself if the best love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 04:05 AM |
| 6 | Mr. Right vs Mr. Wrong. Feel free to add more points in the commentsI want to add to the Mr. Wrong list since there are many more subtle qualities that we may not see as abusive or just overall low-effort. lazy - doesn’t plan things, doesn’t show he cares, doesn’t get you little gifts or so thoughtful things you wish he would do, forgets important dates or doesn’t do anything for you on your birthday or holidays. inconsistent - one minute he wants to be in a relationship and go to Greece with you, the next he’s not sure anymore and needs time to “figure it out”.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 11:00 PM |
| 13 | Online dating be like....He’s making fun of the shit show that is online dating. We can all relate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 01:43 AM |
| 12 | We should be wooed and we’re not made to woo-ShakespeareI just checked out her Instagram. She has “predator” listed in her bio. It’s a no. I couldn’t ever be with someone half my age or with someone I’m old enough to be their mother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 11:57 PM |
| 6 | We should be wooed and we’re not made to woo-ShakespeareHalf her age?? How old is she? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020For sure! It doesn’t even have to be online dating, I can tell when a guy’s energy changes towards me almost right away. The first step is always lessened communication. It can be so subtle, maybe taking longer to reply by even hour (vs 5 minutes in the beginning). I trust my intuition and I’ve never been wrong yet. Also he was too eager for our date and rather excessive compliments, I noticed. I’ll check out your post! And right, I’m glad he told me rather than take me out on a date cus he felt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I don’t remember if it was out of the blue or not but it was definitely odd enough to mention that I took notice. Usually a guy who brags about that isn’t loyal. He was “out of town” same time as I was so I didn’t think much into it. He postponed the date by one day because of him being out of town, which did bother me but I would have been tired after flying home and then going out with him that same bight. If he didn’t actually go out of town, I suspect he was just trying to buy more time to d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:39 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Not at all. You are absolutely right and I wasn’t offended 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:53 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Yup as soon as the texting and/or calls subside, you know what’s up. I can tell right away when the energy has changed and it sucks. In this case I wasn’t tripping at all since we hadn’t even met. Just another one in the ol disappointed but not surprised bucket. Oh girl that’s so funny he had to reach out on Instagram. Like ok I already know that sir, that’s why I blocked you lol. Move along. Also that guy I was talking to deactivated his hinge as well. I assumed it was for me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:05 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I take myself out and treat myself often 💅 I just wanted to go on a nice date with someone else. Since I started hinge on and off in May, I’ve had two dates. One was good, one was ok. Just wanted to get more dating experiences and this guy ~seemed~ like a decent one. Meh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 07:01 AM |
| 13 | Age gapsI dated someone younger than me and he was actually the one who took advantage of my love for him. His behavior turned me into a person I didn’t like. I have a hard time still forgiving him for what he’s done; I don’t know if it’s just because he didn’t know better (even tho we had so many conversations about our boundaries, etc) or because he is just not a good person and that won’t change at 25 or 30. So yeah, age gaps are tough. I’ll still date younger but only by a few years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:54 AM |
| 19 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Lol right! It was his way of trying to keep his options open with me in case it doesn’t work out with the girl he’s “trying.” I said nah. Also he made it sound like he was not talking to or dating anyone else so I don’t wanna hear about how loyal he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:11 PM |
| 36 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I finally matched with someone on hinge who looked promising. Tall, attractive, good job (same field as I’ll be in once I graduate!), Christian. We face timed twice and it was great conversation. He asked me out for a date quickly. I was going to be out of town for that weekend but we made a date a week later. He was great about texting me pretty consistently, hyping me up, saying he was excited for our date, etc. he also mentioned he can’t date multiple people at once, that he’s loyal, which to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:57 PM |
| 11 | We know, they know, doctors know. Why are they still getting away with it?I work in pharmacy. So many men don’t know their wive’s, kid’s, or mother’s birthday or what medication they’re taking. It’s hard not to shame them but I sometimes do, subtly, by repeating back “oh you don’t know your wife’s birthday or what medication you’re picking up for her or if she’s had it before even tho she gets it EVERY MONTH???” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:12 PM |
| 7 | Woman gets a ticket she could barely afford to be with a dude she never met. He blocks her number while she's on the flight.I agree. Flying to meet someone is bad enough but paying for your own ticket, not even having met the person, no address, no response from him the day of, all while having a child to take care of? Last thing I would’ve done is get on social media. I’m sorry she got played but the signs were there. She needs FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 08:57 AM |
| 27 | Which one of you ladies did this? 😂She’s lucky to be with him?? Oh nah! I am proud of her! I can’t stand how some males become stupider (or show their true colors) around their friends. I hope she sticks to her guns and does not take him back. Also, love the majority of comments in that sub supporting her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 06:43 PM |
| 19 | Woman gets a ticket she could barely afford to be with a dude she never met. He blocks her number while she's on the flight.I saw this on twitter. I believe she’s a mom too. What’s sad is her name is plastered all over the internet for this incident. She shouldn’t have gone in the first place, but especially after he didn’t follow up when she asked if she should still come. And they never FaceTimed oh man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:41 PM |
| 30 | Taking too long to call/see youAgreed with everyone. And I’m just gonna say it; generally speaking, professional athlete men are straight up h*es. Women flock to them whether they’re good looking or not cus professional athlete. It’s part of the accepted lifestyle, unfortunately. Men like Stephen Curry are the extreme exception. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:17 AM |
| 13 | Explaining your standards to men?I don’t blame you because I think of if I have kids, I don’t want them to be giants suffering for their height. 6’0-6’3 is my ideal but it’s not a dealbreaker if they are taller cus I may never have kids. I’ve dated up to 6’6. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:09 AM |
| 50 | Explaining your standards to men?It’s not wrong. He doesn’t exercise but of course wants a fit woman. Don’t make an exception if you don’t want to. I’m your height and don’t date below 6’0 🤷🏻♀️ Also lol at “maybe 5’9” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 12:59 AM |
| 16 | NOPESure honey, just go for it - what could go wrong by watching the man you love have sex with another woman? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 12:05 AM |
| 15 | Is marriage really worth it ? Are men even worth the trouble ?Reading this is depressing af 😔 But the older I get, the more experiences I have, and the more I see the low quality of men everywhere, I doubt I will get married. I want to because I am loving, affectionate, and know I could be happily married IF the man was as steady as me. But they’re not. No man has ever been as constant as I’ve been so i don’t see it happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Reason 1 out of 30,000Omg lmaooo I’ve seen dozens of profiles just like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:02 AM |
| 1 | This is why you don't marry after 10 years togetherWow. This hits home for so many of us. We still love them, hope they will change after hurting us and embarrassing us. I pray she didn’t get back with him. 10 years she loved him and this is how he treats her? What is wrong with these males? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:00 AM |
| 12 | The Worst Disorder of Them All 🙏Really? I’ve been looking into this, I think it would help me a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:18 PM |
| 9 | Do you ever think back on a past relationship in disbelief at the things you went through?All the time. It hurts thinking about all the thoughtful things I did for him just to see him happy. I neglected my own happiness because the thoughtfulness was not reciprocated. The same love I gave was not returned. I still haven’t forgiven myself. Working on that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 06:04 AM |
| 31 | Even more evidence for not settling for casual relationships. The woman nearly always want to develop the relationship further. I predict he’ll reject her and ghost her swiftly after this.Happened to me twice (although we were dating exclusively, acting like bf/gf but NOT in a official relationship), happened to friends, happened to almost every girl I know. Oh girl, you about to get hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:22 PM |
| 12 | Next time they talk about women "hItTiNg ThE WaLl" direct them to exhibit A: Gerard "Ridden Hard and Put Away Wet" Butler. Like an old ass Billy ChristensonNo I used to have a huge crush on him too lol. But he looks like he drinks daily with that face | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:13 PM |
| 4 | Is it me?I was about to say this. Not saying you’re overweight but sounds like you’re not the average girl over there. In the US, being thicc is in. I’m tall and curvy (5’9 and about 175 lbs with a booty and hips) and I would absolutely be considered overweight in many parts of Europe. My family is from Eastern Europe and to them I’m a fat ass lol. I love how I look tho so it doesn’t bother me. I get much more male attention since I’ve gained weight; not why I gained weight tho, I gained since I was unde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:09 PM |
| 6 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?Can I ask how tall you are? I’m asking because of that amount of calories | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:00 PM |
| 3 | ladies, what do you think about giving an ex another shot?Agreed with the comments here. It’s different since you ended it since you were the one not ready. Were there ever any red flags before? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:56 PM |
| -2 | Don’t post screenshots of texts to men UNLESS...Agreed. I have zero attachment to males on OLD but I will absolutely clap back and then block. No, it’s not to teach them anything, it’s for my own enjoyment. Edi: not sure why I’m being downvoted lol. I don’t see why you can’t hit them with their own medicine or make a quick reply before blocking but to each their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:20 AM |
| 6 | Men who complain about girls using filtersI love that sub lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:33 AM |
| 18 | Men who complain about girls using filtersYou know how many men I’ve come across OLD using filters lmaooo. I don’t use any filters on my pictures and it’s a huge turnoff to see a guy using Facetune to make his skin perfectly poreless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Learning how to control your emotional response and attachment to men is POWER.I haven’t read any directly on that subject but a quick google search pulls up a lot of books. I’m going to read some and get back to you all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Learning how to control your emotional response and attachment to men is POWER.I’m not a professional and I haven’t had professional counseling but I’m sure there are structural ways to do this. I practice in my daily life. Taking a pause to think before I speak, writing in my journal, exercising and I’m going to start mediating. I still have moments of weakness but I’m much better than I was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:30 AM |
| 19 | What turned me over to FDSSo many of us have been where you are. I was the same for 2.5 years. The main thing is you woke up and took your self-respect back. Pour all the energy you poured into him into yourself and people who actually care and love you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:12 AM |
| 28 | Older women sending these messages are a big reason why girls grow up with such poor boundaries and become PickmeishasI never turned my ex down for sex , sucked his dick like a porn star, rode that dick, and he still went and had a threesome while we were dating and gave me chlamydia 😂😂😂 Sit down Gail, he’s probably cheating on you too 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:55 PM |
| 117 | Learning how to control your emotional response and attachment to men is POWER.Real talk. Ladies, please do everything you can to learn emotional discipline (read books, manifest or, pray, write in a journal, see a therapist, etc). It is your greatest power. Generally, we aren’t taught how to control emotions and self-soothe ourselves. For some it comes more naturally than others. Practice. And make it your priority in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:39 PM |
| 29 | Don’t fall for the representative, it’s usually a performance at first.This is a great tip for us ladies: ask them about themselves. Be interested, listen, and let them talk more than you. They usually will always tell on themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:50 PM |
| 18 | Scrotes be like: Don’t come back when you hit the wall 😏🤪 Asian Grannies: bitch where is the wall?Queens 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:55 PM |
| 86 | This has to be a joke, can’t believe this is real 😂😂😂Maaaannn 😂😂those heavy dark circles under his eyes from staying up late nights cus his buddies really need him for call of duty black ops or whatever shit they play | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:17 PM |
| 18 | Guy treats his GF like shit because he thought she’d never leave. She leaves him and is gone for good. THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!Exactly what I think. She was encouraged to write again after all. If this is therapeutic for her, I’m glad. I’m glad she finally realized everything and left for good (hopefully). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:04 PM |
| 12 | “wish ALL girls would do this tbh”Facts. I’ve first hand heard lazy males saying they love when girls make the first move or initiate anything with them. Duh, your lazy ass gets to just sit there and enjoy the nice dates she’s planned. Like a little dumb kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:21 AM |
| 16 | Has anyone else ever tried to warn their ex’s new partner?From what I’ve seen, it’s very rare for a woman to leave a man even when another woman warns her of the truth. Just like in your experience OP, they can’t or won’t believe that the same thing will happen to them. Or if it is happening, they still won’t leave. I haven’t sent any screenshots to my exe’s new girl for that reason. She knows he and I slept together while they were dating (he didn’t tell me he was dating anyone until after sex) and she still took him back. That tells me she’s a pickme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 11:51 PM |
| 12 | FDS in MotionReading about employees standing up to abusive customers is like porn to me lol. Tell them queen 👏👏👏 My job is unionized too and I definitely take more liberties in what I say back to customers. I’ve definitely embarrassed some the way you did and man that shit is like a drug lol. Try me, I got all day 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on dating younger men? Current thoughts: they always want someone younger and it puts you at risk of waiting for him to grow up/supporting him/always unsure if he is secretly pining for a younger woman...Change my mind.Depends on so many things, how big the age gap, lifestyle, etc. My most recent ex was younger by 8 years. I don’t recommend. I look back now and know I had to be crazy to have dated him. He is more mature in some ways compared to males his own age but then worse in so many other ways. He wasn’t on the same level as me, still isn’t and took advantage of my love for him. He started dating his friend, who’s a year younger than him, a month after he broke up with me 🤷🏻♀️ On the other hand, my uncle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:43 PM |
| 1 | When things fall apart (book)I remember reading this in high school. Great quote, I’ll have to re-read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 26 | 😂A guy off hinge recently offered to take me on a walk in the hills. I missed my chance to tell him this ain’t The Sound of Music. But I have a feeling he wouldn’t have known about that movie anyway lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:40 AM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020Today I dropped off a box at my exe’s house of all the things he ever gave me during our time together. He wasn’t home, he’s out of state visiting his new girlfriend. But even if he was home, I have no desire to see him anymore. This was a big step for me because I wouldn’t have been able to get rid of all his gifts even a month ago. I dropped it at his house so he can see and know I’m done and don’t want him in my life in any way ever again. Also, he now has the responsibility to deal with the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:14 AM |
| 3 | I used to be one of these PickMes. And then I did the best thing I could’ve ever done for myself and subscribed to this subreddit 💕Yes, you need to treat yourself like the prize you are sis. Start with little things. Your well- being comes first. I’m glad you can say that. I wish I could. I did so much for my ex who didn’t even love me. If I could go back in time and change my choices, I would. Live and learn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:32 AM |
| 8 | I used to be one of these PickMes. And then I did the best thing I could’ve ever done for myself and subscribed to this subreddit 💕The effort is the most important part. But I would like someone to get me an expensive gift for once. It shows me you value me, you want the best for me. Not asking someone to go broke over me, but an expensive gift for my birthday, Valentine’s Day and/or Christmas is something that every man should do for the woman they love. You can plan a vacation for us, or take me to a luxury spa, get me a designer item that you know I’ll like, meaningful jewelry. I’m tired of dusty ass men that can’t even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:20 AM |
| 31 | human scum justifies cheating on fiancee because she is unsexy pregnant“He told me this would only last until the baby arrives” am I interpreting this right - he’s telling her his affair will only last until the baby arrives??! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:47 PM |
| 12 | Learning to ask "and what is he bringing to the table?"Isn’t it so sad most of us have had this experience with males. But we all know so many terrible men who have been treated like kings by their ex or whatever. We need to continue to come together and not tolerate this anymore. Tell your sisters, mother, girlfriends, coworkers. We aren’t putting up with this shit anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:40 PM |
| 33 | I used to be one of these PickMes. And then I did the best thing I could’ve ever done for myself and subscribed to this subreddit 💕This used to be me lol but I never blasted it on social media. Where was this sub in my life 2.5 year ago 😩 I coulda saved myself a lot of heartache. I want nice gifts. I give nice and thoughtful gifts to people I love for their birthday or sometimes randomly. If I’m the girl you love, you should want to and get me nice, thoughtful gifts cus I deserve it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:37 PM |
| 1 | This guy was on a dating advice sub asking why he only matches with overweight women, and that he’s not particularly attracted to ‘large’ women. THE AUDACITY!! 😂😂He is a smart and a very lucky man then. He knows he has to put in the work and has worked hard to make himself a success. He knows what he has and values that. Vs many unattractive men who think they don’t have to put in work once they get an attractive woman. I’ve seen it happen many times. And then they start to neg their own beautiful partner so that person won’t have the self esteem to leave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:27 PM |
| 12 | This guy was on a dating advice sub asking why he only matches with overweight women, and that he’s not particularly attracted to ‘large’ women. THE AUDACITY!! 😂😂So many ugly men don’t stay in their lane. I was venting to my sister about this, the fact that a very unattractive man would even try to get with a much more attractive woman is crazy. My sister was defending the ugly men, asking me what’s wrong with them trying? I said cus they’re out of touch with reality. Looks are somewhat subjective but most of us can agree about certain people being either attractive or not. The unattractive men consistently try to get much better looking women (who have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 1 | He told me he is frugal, was I wrong for ending it?Hmm could be. They probably just have low standards and resent you for your high ones. I used to try and get friends or family members with high standards to give chances, etc. Never doing that again, now I’m trying to get all my friends to raise theirs lol One of my girlfriends, who has been high value for a while, was trying to convince me to give another guy a chance. we had a great first date, he asked me when I was free again, I told him but then we had to postpone. Then he followed up agai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 01:11 AM |
| 7 | He told me he is frugal, was I wrong for ending it?Nope, he didn’t meet your standards and lifestyle and you would have been miserable if you’d continued. I’ve noticed that now that my standards are raised, my friends have chided me for not being lenient with low effort males. Never apologize for that queen, glad you got rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:14 PM |
| 1 | One of the reasons I left a sexist religion/cultNope what? I’m agreeing with your post but this is the history people use to justify it. Also I don’t see your post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:18 PM |
| 2 | One of the reasons I left a sexist religion/cultGrowing up in church, I remember being quite young and bothered by the submission agenda pushed down on women. We couldn’t wear pants or shorts to summer camp, we had to wear baggy culottes, dresses or skirts at the knee or below. It drove me crazy cus we were just kids trying to have fun. Pants are more appropriate too! I always saw girls being chastised for how they dressed or how they were supposed to act but I didn’t see boys addressed to be in control of themselves on nearly the same level.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Think about it from his perspective“iTs nOt eVeN LiKe tHaT” sir if you don’t shut your lying ass up. My favorite line from them lol. Many males are so pathetic, they’ll quickly balk and say it was a joke or they didn’t mean it once you call them out. I’ve never had to lie and say something was a joke, actually never have heard a woman say that. I hope you blocked him sis. Keep your guard you and block them like it’s the easiest thing for you to do until it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 09:55 PM |
| 4 | Freeing myself, and the aftermathI’m really sorry. You are already feeling grief over a loved one. Please focus on getting thru that. Please block him everywhere - you will drive yourself crazy waiting for him to reply or apologize or say what you want him to say to show he’s fighting for you. He’s clearly not and even if he says what you want to hear, it’s just words. Don’t make the same mistake as me. I regret not doing this sooner in the past because it kept me with low value men for much longer than needed. Once I block I f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 07:46 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Thank you for that confirmation! The more I think of it, the more I’m grossed out, especially by that “poor me” response he gave to when I said to keep it professional. He ruined the dynamic of us being classmates and part of a club organization. If he was that desperate to tell me he liked me, he could have asked to hang out or tell me he thinks I’m great cus of whatever reason. Bear in mind I gave ZERO indication of being attracted to him cus I’m not. So he thought by telling me he’s being cre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 07:25 AM |
| 35 | Prime example of the type we don't give our valuable presence to. A date with a woman is worth far more than $18.75. He had the audacity to call himself a "gentleman" after all that! 😂He reeks of low value. I can’t stand anything about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Wall? What wall?!You’re welcome! Yes do your research. My sister got her ears done by a hack and it’s haunted her for years. I wish she would have asked me to research the doctor with her first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Wall? What wall?!Definitely, it’s the same with any review site. But I’ve also seen lots of negative negative reviews on here and I read thru those mostly. Researching a specific doctor thru multiple channels is the best way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:52 AM |
| 7 | Wall? What wall?!Yes. You never want to overfill anything ever. Any good, experienced doctor will know this. I don’t know where you are in the world but under eye (or tear trough) is usually 0.25-0.5ml under each eye. Lips standard is 1 ml. Look up the consultant clinic if you want to see good filler work. That’s where I got my lips done, they look amazing, just a slightly bigger version of my previous ones. Also got under eye filler done there once but I have a doctor closer to me who does good under eye work. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:14 PM |
| 4 | They always come back. Always. They might be nasty to you, make you feel obsolete. But they come back, always.I just realized I’ve never gone back (gone back first I mean lol - made the mistake of taking someone back once and huge regret). And I also never want to go back once I get over them. They didn’t get away from me, I got away from them. And you didn’t deserve me, enjoy those memories cus I’m grossed out now 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:09 PM |
| 65 | Guy plans a fun day for his wife’s bday for her and their friends. Asks them to send a short vid saying Happy Bday. This isn’t asking for much and actually sounds like a fun day for everyone, but scrote is mad that any effort at all is being put into her bday and would rather play video games aloneMen like this are why we can’t have nice things. Stfu sir, go marry your gainz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:03 PM |
| 11 | Wall? What wall?!I got under eye filler and I have no regrets. My under eyes began hollowing out once I turned 29. It’s not cheap but it’s way less than what you might spend at idk Starbucks in a year. Mine lasted for 1.5 years and I got a small touch up (half the filler amount this time) just last week. I probably won’t see my doctor for another year. I also got my lips injected 1.5 years ago and they still look amazing. I’ll probably go again next year for a small touch up. Fillers are different than Botox btw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:59 PM |
| 15 | Always do your researchDamn what a creep. I’m so tired of men like this. Have you guys ever met a woman who lies about their age and height? I haven’t. But I’m just glad you found out now sooner than later. And yes, if possible, always sift thru their Instagram and see who they’re following and what they’re liking. I have never a met a good man who follows Instagram models and likes pictures of women like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:49 PM |
| 9 | Frida Kahlo, genius and QueenThis gets posted a lot. Did she actually write/say this to her husband? Cus they were both bisexual and had an open marriage. Not FDS at all. But her words here are true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 46 | To my Black FDS women, we really need to start watching after ourselves because it’s clear that our communities don’t care for us. To non-FDS women, please be there to support and believe us when no one else will. We really need to have each other’s back in the men-centered world.Every publication and media outlet should be taking this approach. Anyone defending this small man’s actions and questioning the situation can stick with this misogynist’s downfall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:09 PM |
| 4 | How I never had a bad first date! (Except one)I see. lol It was an example since men can and literally will approach you anywhere. With covid, have you had to adjust that strategy or have you just not dated? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:03 PM |
| 2 | TRIGGER WARNING - This is so disgusting! Men will exploit and abuse anything they perceive as “weaker.”I want to cry. Males like this must have no souls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:30 PM |
| 1 | 🤡*Circus music slowly gets louder*🤡I see pickme being used all over Twitter, especially when it comes to CardB’s defense. So I don’t think they get what it actually means lol. Yes she got a ring from Offset and he gives her lavish gifts but CardiB is/was a pickme for cheating ass offset. Heard she’s getting divorced now; even she realized she didn’t need to put up with his cheating, lying ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 6 | How I never had a bad first date! (Except one)How do you talk to someone who is approaching you let’s say in the grocery store for an hour? What if you have perishables or have fo be somewhere? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:21 PM |
| 18 | Told "too intimidating"Report him. And also I reply with “thank you” anytime someone calls me intimidating; I hope I fucking am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:52 AM |
| 7 | Dammit I just realized I’ve been played by a fuckboy. I’ve been out of the dating game a while and am over 30. So I’m new to some things.He doesn’t know what he wants. Him saying he wants to marry you is either him feeling high in the moment and regretting saying that or future faking. The fact that he is so quick to end things makes me think he says things he doesn’t mean when he’s feeling “high” which is a true sign of immaturity. Saying you “killed it” is just an excuse or shifting the blame onto you so he won’t feel bad about his fuckboyery. I’m sorry girl. And the whole thing with his ex is so wrong and inappropriate and I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 79 | ✨Y’all heard?✨Facts! But who is she lip synching to? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:31 PM |
| 4 | Second dateYes I definitely have met great men I wasn’t into at all. Nothing we can do about it. But you say you’re never attracted to anyone? Have you had crushes or been in a relationship before? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:16 PM |
| 5 | It's not about if you love each other, it's about how he makes you feel. There is no love that is worth crying yourself to sleep every night. Choose you, sis.Nah I don’t want him in my heart either. I get how this is better than having someone who caused you pain in your actual life. But please actively work on letting them go. So if they try to reach out in a couple of years (like in that post recently where the ex left his first wife for his high school gf, had babies with her, then realized she didn’t want him like that, to only try to go back to the first wife and she was actually considering it) you can laugh and block block block and not even b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 09:36 PM |
| 36 | Just got asked my full name after less than an hour of matching and chatting.Nope thank God. Sounds like a bullet dodged. Someone after one date did ask me for my last name. I told him I don’t give that out to people I’m not familiar with. My name is very unique so I’d preferred if people I just met don’t know my last name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:56 AM |
| 13 | conditioning the pickmes to set their bar undergroundI hope they are just high school kids hanging out. Then that’s fine cus they’re kids. But this type of minimal effort can’t continue into adulthood as you grow, your mindset and effort needs to grow. Sadly I know grown ass men who think this is a fine date night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:55 AM |
| 53 | Very true 😂Broke/cheap mentality is a way of life for these dudes. I’m all the way good staying away from someone with that mindset for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:50 AM |
| 12 | This Queen is my new spirit animalI’m sorry but I laughed out loud cus “you don’t even make fire!” Why are males like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:49 AM |
| 110 | Reframing of the Pickme PhenomenonYou put into words exactly how I’ve acted and felt. My own ex boyfriend commented how he thought I was desperate once because I loved him so much and showed him this. I wasn’t desperate, I curved other men left and right. I just loved him so much that I wanted to show him. I didn’t know any better. I poured my love into him and, because he was the wrong man, it left me empty. I was never the type to chase males or just be in a relationship with just anyone. But I have been a pickme for men I’ve … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:42 AM |
| 84 | Guy who didn't like cats can't stop rescuing them nowWe love to see it 😭 He has a purpose in life and you can see how it truly fulfills him ❤️ Many people who don’t like cats have never owned one or been close to one. They’re so funny, loving, intelligent and independent. They can be sneaky so maybe the reason why some men don’t like them is they remind them of them lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:36 AM |
| 136 | Have your boyfriends been “straight”? Depends on your definition...I feel sick. Also, look it up, the majority of men who are sexually assaulted are assaulted by other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:30 AM |
| 6 | Same pal, same.My dog has never been abused but he always has been more aggressive towards men. Maybe cus he’s more attached to me and my mom. Or maybe he just senses the aggression in men in general. He loves my dad and brothers tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:50 AM |
| 8 | We made it! FDS has 100,000 members!My favorite community 💕💞💓 I’ve stopped taking shit and have raised my standards and my life is for the better. So happy I found this sub, literally changed my life. I saw a thread that I since think has been deleted asking how this sub came about? Was it one person who started this or a group? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020I remember that. I forgot her name but she played no games, which I respected. But she did come off as cold and unlikable. How has it been staying friends with him? I’m not friends with any of my exes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020So I’ve known this classmate since I started school a couple of years ago. We aren’t close or anything but we’ve taken several classes together and he’s a nice guy. He asked me if I wanted to be an officer in his club so I said sure. We talk several times a week now, it’s been 95% school and club related. He followed me on IG and I followed back. I am not attracted to him, never given any indication that I’m attracted to him ever. Yesterday he texts me saying, “btw I’ve been stalking your IG👀” a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:39 PM |
| 12 | This poor woman’s boyfriend spends all day jerking off to deep fakes of her own friends and using VR and a pocket pussy for hours so naturally she asks Reddit for their quality adviceImagine devoting hours to editing women’s faces onto your favorite porn clips and then jacking off for hours to that. And of course that’s not enough, he wants the virtual reality feeling of actually fucking her friends. But you know, it gets cold and lonely in Northern Europe in the winter and they’re long distance. He won’t be satisfied. He’s either been physically cheating this whole time or it’s only a matter of time before he does. He won’t change. People don’t change unless they want to. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:38 PM |
| 48 | ‘.... some occasional hole’ 🤮🤮🤮🤮This had to have been made by a woman scorned lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:26 PM |
| 11 | A small appreciation post for the hvm in my lifeWhat a true gentleman ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:40 AM |
| 47 | Jesus Christ men are SICK. I know that the op is a sex worker but its still terrifying! What those men are even thinking? Shes literally getting assaultedOmg I can’t even imagine. I pray she can leave that lifestyle cus these men are vile and God forbid someone actually kills her one day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:34 AM |
| 3 | I know he fuckin’ lyin’ 😂😂😂😂Absolutely and I hold Christian men to a higher standard. Of course plenty are wolves in sheep’s clothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:31 AM |
| 2 | My mother husband did the sweetest thing, get you a HVM like this....Wow that’s so sweet. I’ve never personally seen a man be thoughtful when it comes to gift giving and showing someone their love. This makes me happy 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:30 AM |
| 11 | I made you all a guide to the PERFECT walking date outfit - just to keep it nice and "casual" for him 😉😂😂Throw in some walking sticks and it’s a date lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:25 AM |
| 3 | What does it mean when a guy says "I like myself when I'm with you"?The ol hot and cold method. He’s inconsistent but if he’s in the mood, you can be the one to make him feel good. Drop him like radioactive waste. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:24 AM |
| 5 | God forbid the man has to *gasp* keep a conversation going. Give me a break.I think we’ve all done this to some degree so don’t feel bad. Totally, you shouldn’t have to be the one to always initiate or carry a conversation. Women are naturally more caring. I like having good conversations but I would make such an effort only to get a bunch of “wyd” back 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:20 AM |
| 20 | God forbid the man has to *gasp* keep a conversation going. Give me a break.Same. I used to match with guys and try to initiate a good conversation opener. Now I don’t like any guy’s profile (remember, the sperm swims to the egg) and they can start the conversation. If you’re not gonna put in the effort to get to know me then I won’t either. I’m tired of carrying conversations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:15 AM |
| 20 | I know he fuckin’ lyin’ 😂😂😂😂Proverbs 18:22 says He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Never in the Bible does it say it’s a good thing when a woman finds a husband. Also in Genesis, God said it is not good for man to be alone. Men need us and yet they demand us to be their personal submissive perfect maid. Ultra religious males cling to misogyny in the Old Testament. If they could, they’d all have multiple wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 01:18 AM |
| 4 | I Don’t Want To Date An American GuyI’ve never dated a European man before. I have family in Europe and while European men can appear more sophisticated, many are not serious and don’t desire marriage or kids. This is obviously from my family’s perspective. However, you can look up how European birth rates have been in decline so there is some truth. But also should take into account that many women may not want marriage and kids either. My experience with: American men: political, loud, dumb, rudely opinionated, cheap ass dates. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 11:53 PM |
| 5 | High value men in movies/tv?Aw shoot 😭 I forgot all this. It’s been a minute since I saw this show. You’re right. Basically the way he always adored Lois and their passion is the part I want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Thank you! Because I had lost weight and was underweight in the before pic, once I started eating more calories, I gained the weight plus more (on purpose) pretty smoothly. I had always had a booty but it definitely shrank with weight loss. And I just worked out consistently and added more butt /leg variations. I never have lifted super heavy but I hope to be able eventually, once gyms open in my area. Yes, you will feel better! I used to hate working out, now it’s a form of mediation for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:08 AM |
| 17 | High value men in movies/tv?Hal from Malcolm in the Middle. If my man is not this crazy about me I don’t want him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 01:35 AM |
| 8 | Makes me 😤 to see a gorgeous queen put in effort for date night while her man does the absolute leastIt wouldn’t be bad at all if he tucked in the shirt, put a belt on, and got some different shoes on. Also linen wrinkles easily no matter what. But yeah they aren’t matching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Sephora and ulta carry them now. I used a coupon at ulta and got them for dumb cheap. Also, the sexism website gives you tons of tips on which ingredients to avoid mixing, benefits of ingredients, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:44 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Looking thru old pictures and damn I’ve glowed up. Me April of 2018 on left & me in October of 2018 I look the same as picture on the right still. On the left I was anxious and stressed because of my LVM bf. I had lost 20 lbs in several months because Anxiety over him caused me to lose my appetite and I lost all energy to workout. I made myself drink high calorie smoothies, eventually gained my appetite back, and worked out regularly. I love how I look and feel. I’m strong, confident, single, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020High calorie smoothies. Search them on reddit or google. Lots of different variations but usually include: protein powder, oil (either olive or avocado and ko you can’t taste it at all. 1tbsp of these oils had 120+ calories), nut butters, fruits and/or vegetables, milk or milk substitute, dried rolled oats blended to a powder (do this before adding any other ingredients). I’m about to post a picture of my glow up and weight gain on here. Drinking high calorie smoothies when j and no appetite to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020I’ve done the same. All that worked was letting the damaged part grow out. I have an electric nail file and I’ve used a very fine file to smooth them out and then buffed them out. It helped a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:27 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 18 2020Yes girl! 👏If you haven’t already, check out the ordinary products. They’re a sub company of Deciem, and this particular line is cheap for very basic, common skin ingredients. I highly recommend, I’ve used them for years. I’ve tried some of their more expensive skincare lines and I love those as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Women Describe What Happened When They Took Their Husbands Back After They Were Separated because he got a new girlfriend. So much FDS Motivational Fuel.Same. Finally professed his love to me after I left, said he was ready to commit and grow, and when i took him back, he gave me chlamydia and wasted my time for 7 months of us just dating cus now he didn’t know if he was ready to be in a relationship again. This is the same guy who started dating his friend a month after leaving me and is on the road to being in a relationship with her. Don’t give second chances ever. Ever. And this wasn’t even the second chance it was like the 5th lol 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 11 | [Positive] After his wife passed away from cancer, a widower planted a 400 acres of sunflowers and now sells harvested seed for cancer research - all in her honour.The sweetest thing. You can see the tear stains on the letter he was reading. I’m sure it was from both of them 😭❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 09:34 PM |
| 12 | I am tired of libfem financial adviceYou know what’s funny. 2 men I dated in the past referred to my money as “our money.” My former pickme self was so happy when I heard that cus yay that means they’re serious about me/us! Nah but you know what they were serious about? My money lmaoooo. Fuck that. I never referred to their money (albeit little lol) as mine or ours. I should have. And you don’t get to touch my money, sir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:47 AM |
| 12 | The Sick, Sad, Story of Jared Fogle and how Subway Helped Cover Up his Raging Pedophilia for 8 YearsI am pro death penalty in certain cases i.e people like him. There is no cure for his sickness. He’s still doing perverted shit from jail and will 100% engage in raping or attempting to rape if let out of jail. He doesn’t deserve to be safely kept alive in prison. Someone posted an article about how porn changes your brain. Jared has been watching porn for decades, had raped numerous children, engaged in immoral and sickening sex acts - his brain and soul is rotten to the core. It’s been proven … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:41 AM |
| 1 | Already on the road to making this happen 💗Thanks for that perspective and I’m somewhat aware of the law of attraction. But I don’t know if I believe all of that. I have put out into the universe things I want, only positive things and I still got bad things my way or didn’t get what I put out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Already on the road to making this happen 💗Thank you! 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Already on the road to making this happen 💗Thanks! I used the photoshop express app. Its free except for in-app purchases they try to push. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 11:59 PM |
| 30 | The Sick, Sad, Story of Jared Fogle and how Subway Helped Cover Up his Raging Pedophilia for 8 YearsI feel sick. He was only sentenced to 15 years??! There is no cure for someone like him. If he’s released, he will go back to raping children. He cannot be released. I am pro death penalty for him and Russell Taylor 100%. Rochelle Herman-Walrond is a hero. The fact that she had to put in the work for 5 years to get enough evidence for The FBI to take it seriously...the system is a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Already on the road to making this happen 💗Hell yeah 🙌 thank you! Yes I know we can make all this happen! 💰💸 I was thinking of adding a pic of a high value man in there, but that’s out of my control. Leveling up is my priority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:03 PM |
| 6 | Already on the road to making this happen 💗Model Christie Brinkley! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:22 PM |
| 19 | Already on the road to making this happen 💗I’ve been able to travel a decent amount but I can’t wait to travel more once Covid is over. When I graduate next year, Bali is where I wanna go. Can’t wait to own my own dream house outright. I’ve worked with many wonderful women and have built great friendships - I hope to work with primarily women in the future. One day, I’m gonna be a “rich man” like Cher Traveling and enjoying life with my girlfriends 4life peace is the goal. Constantly working on bettering myself. I have debt from poor fin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 06:10 AM |
| 1 | My ex was broke, lazy, selfish, thoughtless but he still had all the audacityYup. He repeatedly would ask me (I know 🤢and I was a big pickme for him) and I pretty much was, with all I did for him. After we broke up, he posted on Twitter multiple times about wanting a sugar mama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 04:13 AM |
| 1 | There's a difference.I refer to all men in general as males now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Yes ladies! We need to start reciprocating!👏🏾Literally my ex!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:48 PM |
| 28 | How are women so brainwashed that when a man actually steps up and changes his life we see him as sick??That’s what I was thinking too. It’s possible she had to feel and be the better one in a relationship. That’s crazy to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:42 AM |
| 25 | Never let a man put your life in danger. This is not cute, it’s dangerous and toxic.You can see they aren’t moving lol. I don’t know about this couple’s personal relationship, but I’ve seen them pop up on Instagram and they’re one of those trying to get famous by posting stereotypical couple videos. My ex would drive dangerously fast and wild just because “I like to go fast.” Twice I cried and screamed at him because I was afraid we’d crash and die or hurt someone. We had also been in an accident previously where my car flipped 3 times. At least he never did it when he was angr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:30 AM |
| 118 | How are women so brainwashed that when a man actually steps up and changes his life we see him as sick??I get that it can be shocking for someone to change overnight but damn two years and he’s going strong 👏 If I was her, I’d just count my blessings that a trip made him turn his life around for the better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 24 | um... I’m hoping this is a jokeWhat a waste. I’ve never had that much spent on me at one time ever. But I’ve spent close to that on one person in one time back in my pickme days 🥴 Lol they’re either broke or too busy spending their money on themselves and not their girl. But they still want their girl to get it for them. It’s really gross. Twitter, Instagram, etc, all I see is men being proud of asking their girls to get them one. They should be ashamed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:08 PM |
| 97 | um... I’m hoping this is a jokeIf I see one more comment from men about expecting a ps5 from their girl... I’ve seen so many of these. It’s not funny cus most of these cheap dusty ass men are trying to persuade their girl to get them one. It costs like what, $500? You must be out of your damn mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 06:03 PM |
| 8 | I was disgusted when I saw this, not gonna lie 🤢Same. Mine even had the audacity to send me his wishlist (nothing under $300 on there) after we had been broken up and he already was dating someone else lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:14 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020Agreed, but if you look thru my history, you’ll see how I know. He is now completely blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | A real winner here 🤢Absolutely. Older men do not necessarily learn or become better with age. It’s really sad and why I stay away from much older men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 09:01 PM |
| 14 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsProbably mad cus he fit the description lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020That’s true. But I have screenshots of emails and messages, not just my word against his. Of course, she would be free to act as she will but then she can’t say she doesn’t know. I probably won’t reach out but I have been debating it heavily lately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:42 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020Should I reach out to the girl my ex is “exclusively dating”, to let her know he tried not once but twice, to sleep with me and get nudes from me since getting together with her? If it were me, I would absolutely want to know. I don’t care how this would affect him but I care about her well-being and don’t want her to go thru what I did. I’d like to show her this sub, especially since she still stayed dating him after finding out he slept with me while dating her (I had no idea he was dating any… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:01 PM |
| 26 | Why Good Women Are Losing On Dating AppsThis article was depressing af. Everything is so easy for men now. So easy to have sex with multiple women - even average, short men who still live with their mom pump and dump easily. Thank God for this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 06:38 PM |
| 4 | If you're not married, you are SINGLE. Point blank.I know I’m not married til I’m married but to me, single means no involvement or agreement with anyone and no relationship. When you’re in an exclusive, committed relationship, then that’s obviously not “single.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 04:27 AM |
| 7 | If you're not married, you are SINGLE. Point blank.Well sure. But if we are in an established relationship and there are clear steps taken by him towards marriage in my time frame, I can’t say I’m single. Yes, I would leave at any sign of a red flag or dragging of feet (thanks now to this sub). But to say I’m single in a relationship that is progressing towards marriage isn’t what I’d say. If I’m ever in another relationship, he will know that I can and will leave at any moment, married or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:00 AM |
| 6 | My LVM sent me this mestoday after weeks of no contact. 4 years on and off, lived together, and I moved out a few months ago after I grew tired of playing wife and not getting my needs met. Leave these LVM the fuck behind sis, it’ll have him questioning his whole existence.Shit this is almost exactly what my ex said 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:50 AM |
| 2 | A real winner here 🤢There’s a huge difference between men who are pushing 40 and single and women pushing 40 and single. Men pushing 40 either won’t grow up so no woman will put up with them for long. Or they’re so caught up in a f-boy lifestyle they won’t stop (or both). Single Women pushing 40 are generally educated, constantly improving themselves, want to get married but won’t settle for a loser like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:49 AM |
| 117 | If you're not married, you are SINGLE. Point blank.Can someone explain to me how you rationalize this? I’m not disagreeing necessarily, but if I’m in a relationship I respect that and don’t consider myself single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:40 AM |
| 11 | The Accuracy. This blew me away.Even misogynists know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 08:50 PM |
| 3 | I guess true love really can existThis lady is a writer? I’m confused af. Who posted a picture while she was in the Philippines? Joshua? And he ghosts her? And who did she reach out to in the end? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:26 AM |
| 56 | When a Pitbull Approaches a Man and His Young Daughter, The Father Jumps on the Hood of a Car and Lets His Daughter Fend For HerselfIf i was this girl’s mother, I could never trust him with my kids again. I don’t even have kids but I would protect any child before myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 12:49 AM |
| 5 | It's only dusty men who complain! My own father is a dusty! (I'll NEVER marry a man like him 🤮) He always makes fun of my mom when she wears make up! "You look like a drag..." So she stopped! She is now a Plain Jane! As a kid I was clueless! Now I know why!I wish I had thick hair! Having thin, frizzy hair, I can only add to it and can’t do anything with it unless I have extensions in. It’s been a game changer. But yeah, men don’t get it we do their stuff for ourselves. I wouldn’t care if my future man preferred me without extensions, I’m still gonna wear them for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 12:09 AM |
| 2 | I have no single girlfriendsHow old are you? Most of my friends are single, actually. But I used to be a pickme too and wasted my time (and sex) with several NV and LVM. You could always nudge them to check out this subreddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:24 PM |
| 26 | It's only dusty men who complain! My own father is a dusty! (I'll NEVER marry a man like him 🤮) He always makes fun of my mom when she wears make up! "You look like a drag..." So she stopped! She is now a Plain Jane! As a kid I was clueless! Now I know why!My mom looks amazing without makeup and rarely wears it. My dad compliments her either way but he makes sure to compliment her appearance more when she puts in the effort to get dressed up, do her hair, makeup. My most recent ex was LVM but he always complemented my appearance, with or without makeup, whether I dressed up or not. I have thin hair and got extensions while I was with him and he didn’t mind me either way. That’s how it should be. But obviously that’s not all you need for a man to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 3 | OMG All that for $20?? 😩🤮Lmao the audacity! Cheap, lazy, and the way he types 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:55 AM |
| 27 | AmenLol yeah she is a pickme for him. The way she talks about him, sings songs about him, she “jokingly” told him to marry her on IG live but I have a feeling she’s nagged him about marriage for a while now. And who gets a tattoo of a guy’s face?? He doesn’t even have a tattoo of her. she’s the type who would help him hide a body 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 3 | Having a male gynecologist is a bad idea. 👎🏾Even when I was a pickme, I never went to see a male gyno. All my primary doctors have been women as well. It never sat right with me that a man who is not my significant other can look and feel into my vagina. Women understand women and we can empathize with one another. Granted there are some bad women doctors who lack empathy and down great male doctors who at every empathetic. I still say choose a women gyno and google your doctor every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 10:13 AM |
| 3 | My former Pickme Self Nudes .. a question? I can’t be alone in this...You could try. But like you mentioned, he could easily make copies or just lie. I told a guy I was seeing to delete my nudes once I saw signs of him getting back with his ex. He could be lying of course, but he responded respectfully saying he did delete them. That made me feel better. You only have so much control over this since they’re on his phone so don’t dwell on it too much. I have nudes of my ex as leverage in case anything ever leaks lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 09:35 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 10 2020I talked to my exe’s brother yesterday. I’ve mentioned once before but my exe’s younger brother is only 21 and already more high value than my ex. He’s hard working, smart, treats his girlfriend great, communicates and listens well, thoughtful. Just so different than my ex. He told me he was upset at me for getting back with his brother last year because he knew I deserved better and shouldn’t have come back after all his brother had put me through. And he was so right. He and my exe’s best frie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 07:34 AM |
| 2 | Actions > wordsI wouldn’t feel bad for him girl, he’s trying to make himself seem like he’s a good guy cus he said he “thought” about giving you the next series. We should play their games and say we thought about sucking their soul out like a pornstar and then don’t do it; watch how well that sits with them. I didn’t feel bad for my ex, to clarify. I felt bad/sad for me because he thought about doing nice things for me but rarely did. You know it’s time to leave when they make you feel like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 3 | Actions > wordslol wow look at him trying to guilt/manipulate you into giving him another chance or to just make you feel bad. And this is the lowest effort on his part, because like it’s been stated, he could have come over with the next book in the series. Is there a word for this? Where they kind of cast the line out to see if you’ll bite? My ex would do this multiple times. He would tell me, “I thought about taking you to this nice restaurant and planning a date, but instead I went out with my friends or s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 07:31 PM |
| 8 | Why to never let a LVM back into your lifeGirl this was me. It’s so hard. We know they’re bad for us but we still love them and it’s a curse. You have to break it by blocking. I still have thoughts and feelings for my ex since blocking but I know it would be worse had I let myself stay in touch. Don’t unblock or accept any form of commutation. If he emails, block. Don’t engage. You got this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 04:19 AM |
| 6 | Peak Pickmeism 🤪🤪Oh I thought she was posting this as in like lmao I was so dumb to do this. But she’s actually proud of it? I used to do the same shit, he’s still gonna leave you sis. Take yourself out on a date or go with your girlfriends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 09:45 PM |
| 45 | She bought her fiancé a house and he wouldn't move with her, nor would he look for a better-paying job... this is why a proposal doesn't necessarily mean a happy endingI’m gonna watch this full thing later but wait a minute, she’s so pretty and her boyfriend is not even cute dear lord. I’m gonna rate him like men like to rate us and he gets a 2.5/10. Child, you will look back and be like I can’t believe I cried over his ugly ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 09:29 PM |
| 29 | Finally ready to date ... but dating sucks right nowIMO your early 20s aren’t even your best years so don’t worry. I had way more fun in my late 20s and now enjoying my early 30s. I’ll still go out to clubs and bars with my girlfriends because we can - I’m not looking for attention from men, just wanna dress up and have fun with my girls. There’s nothing you can do about the pandemic and places being closed. Get a vibrator or use the shower head (better than a vibrator, personally). Learn new things, get some hobbies or keep up with your hobbies … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 09:21 PM |
| 6 | How would you feel if you find out that your boyfriend is attracted to moms?Many guys will tell you “I was just joking” when you call them out on their shit. It’s not a joke, you just made them uncomfortable by calling them out. Make a list of pros and cons - is your boyfriend really all that? Does he treat you well, is he hard working, is he even THAT good looking? I doubt it. I hope you find the strength to leave him and see you deserve more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 02:18 PM |
| 14 | How to Get Past Anger and Fear? Sorry for the novel.I don’t have any insight for you except I’m so glad you are out of both of those situations and doing well ❤️ The more I read these types of stories, the more I’m tempted to just stay single for the rest of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 02:27 AM |
| 6 | Ladies I need your advice on thisAgreed with everyone. Don’t keep your schedule open for anyone who hasn’t shown you they are serious (and even then, don’t be readily available). Just leave him be. Go on other dates, if you’d like. I had a great date with someone a few weeks ago. We talked for hours. He messaged me as soon as he got home asking when I’m free again. I gave him a day or two for the following week I would be free. He said ok. He didn’t follow up, and then casually messaged me something like “so Thursday?” This sea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Thanks for this, girl. He’s young and I spent most of our relationship playing Bob the Builder. So many good things in his life because of me. Now, his new girl will enjoy what he’s become; that is if he’s actually changed. I don’t want to come between him and his new girl. They can have each other. Good luck to them tho, when he’s still in love with me and missing me. I don’t know what he’s thinking but that’s on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 01:16 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020I made a mistake. I let my ex reach out and entertained a conversation with him. He is not rotten to the core, and he does feel bad about what happened but he should have thought of that before he made so many choices that hurt me. And the only reason he even reached out was to attempt to rid his conscious of guilt. He wants to stay friends but we can’t hang out cus he’s dating someone else. I said then that’s not friends and I’m not interested in being pen pals. He says he’s changed but I don’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 12:13 AM |
| 10 | Insecure about my age30 is not the end in anyway. Take care of yourself - get your skincare routine going or keep it strong (look into retinol), exercise, vacation, enjoy yourself. And like everyone said, a HVM will not be going for girls 15 years younger than him. My ex is 8 years younger than me. Granted we were both each other’s first serious relationship and are not on the same level. If I could go back, I wouldn’t put myself thru the pain. But he was always attracted to me and still is. Still wants me in his li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 09:36 PM |
| 13 | Gee, who could resist a murderous stalker?The fact that he said “playing it safe” makes me think otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:42 PM |
| 16 | Cracks me up EVERY time.My girlfriends and I were just talking about this. We’ve come across so many duds on hinge who look way older than their listed age. So either they’re lying about their age, or they just don’t take care of their skin. Me and my girlfriends all take care of our skin. Even my younger brother who I would say is a HVM doesn’t take care of his skin like he should. Since he’s my younger brother, I get on his case about it and help him pick out skincare so his future gf or wife won’t have to train him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:20 PM |
| 11 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menWhy is it trashy and ungracious to celebrate and post picture of your divorce but not of your wedding? Lol. It’s because we associate divorce with failure and negativity. It’s completely high value for her to publicly announce she’s happily divorced. She chose herself and no shame in having a sash and cake made for herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:27 PM |
| 12 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menBecause she wants to. Period. It’s a victory for her. And good for you, that’s your own way of celebrating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:05 PM |
| 17 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menI know. When I say let let her, I don’t mean you are telling her not to, I mean no need for criticizing her ways of expressing her joy. This isn’t a case of her writing paragraphs bashing her ex husband. She’s just celebrating and posting some pics, geez Louise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:02 PM |
| 11 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menI probably wouldn’t put it on social media either but I can’t fault her at all for putting this out there. I’m sure she was happier on this day than on her wedding day and wanted to share that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:38 PM |
| 30 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menI disagree. Especially if you are breaking away from a completely nvm. She got her freedom, let her celebrate how she wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:29 PM |
| 132 | Normalize divorcing ain’t sh*t menI say normalize because in my culture and religion (Christian), divorce is very taboo. I’ve seen countless women stay with their awful husbands because divorce is one of the worst sins to commit. I say enough is enough. People can change after marriage, men can scheme and manipulate you into marrying them. You are not the problem, they are. Divorce. You deserve good things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Has it always been this way?Even when I was a pick me, I remember telling my girlfriends how every culture has beautiful women but not every culture has good looking men. Obviously that’s a sweeping generalization but shit it’s true. I see beautiful women daily but rarely see beautiful men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:38 PM |
| 68 | Keep those expectations high!No one told me this. I thought it was good to be selfless and put in effort as a woman. Like I was somehow better than high maintenance women. I had no idea men suck so bad that they won’t match your efforts, they’ll take advantage and do bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:25 PM |
| 19 | About a month ago I posted about a first date where the guy insisted that I pay for myself. This weekend I went on one of the most extravagantly lovely dates I've ever had with another manHe sounds amazing...too amazing. I’m not trying to spoil your mood but I agree with everyone saying be cautious. This should be the norm but it’s far from it so I’m alway on guard of someone being so much so soon. What kind of silver necklace was it? Was it an expensive brand? What do you know about his background? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 08:20 PM |
| 15 | Met a guy I thought was an HVM. We really hit it off. He wasn’t really texting me after the fact but we’d already made future plans. Trusted my gut, did some digging, and found his wife and 3 kids. Last kid born in May. This was part of our communication after I found out.Bruh all the audacity. I hope his wife reads your messages and kicks his ass to the curb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:13 PM |
| 3 | When was the last time a man you didn't know helped you with your groceries/lift something heavy/held the door for you/ complimented you on something OTHER than your looks?Men holding doors open for me happens daily. I’ll also hold the door for anyone. I’ve had men offer to help me load my groceries a few times and that’s a big no; I’m able-bodied and don’t want strangers to hit on me, expect a tip, or steal my stuff. At work, there are several guys who offer or lift the heavy stuff. One in particular will do it for all the women, regardless of age or looks which I find quite nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Would this tattoo make you feel confident?So sad. This is how low she values herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:58 PM |
| 14 | I better get my clown makeup on 🤡Ma’am please stop now. Cut him off and end it. I used to be a dumb b and gave my ex money and did so much for him too much (see my post history). No man is gonna love you more for doing all this stuff for them, they will only love what you do for them. That ain’t it. He’s giving you red flags left and right: asking you to be his gf within a week of meeting you, asking for money/accepting money from you, saying you’re too good for him and that you do too much, watching his dog for free wtf!! You … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Looking for adviseThanks girl and you too! I’ve come to realize that even if I don’t find a good man, I’ll be be happy. I’m pretty happy now and life is only getting better. You’re gonna be a doctor so you have a lot going for you! Find fulfillment in yourself, surround yourself with good family and friends, and do things for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Looking for adviseI see. And I feel you, we all feel you. It’s very hard to find a good man. Meanwhile, you should definitely read the FDS handbook and look up anxious attachment styles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Looking for adviseRight, I never said you wanted to date casually. I thought you wanted a relationship but then you said you just want a baby. Well, for one you’d be a single mother by choice. You will have no help from the father and if he doesn’t want to contribute financially to the child, you’ll be fighting with his lawyers to get that more than likely. That’s in itself is a huge drain. Second, it’s not gonna be easy raising a child by yourself. And third, it sounds as if you already have attachment sensitivi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Looking for adviseI’m confused - you say you don’t want a guy in your life, but you also said you don’t date casually. And you are also on dating apps. And you want a baby with someone who is the same culture as you and speaks the same language, which is fine, but if you only want a baby and not a relationship, why does it matter if he even speaks the same language? Whatever happens, be very careful. You’ve already caught feelings for this guy before you’ve even met in person. This tells me you will more than lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:36 AM |
| 5 | Looking for adviseNoooo. I know you’re attached but better to break it off now than get hurt more later which you undoubtedly will be if you give in. If you lose your virginity to this man, I guarantee you will feel 100x worse than you do now because your attachment will Intensify and he won’t stick around and be your man like you want. You’ll get over it with time. I understand you want someone with the same culture and language but why does it have to be another doctor? Just because it’s a common thing to do? Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:46 PM |
| 13 | Being a Tall woman5’9 here. Yup Sounds like insecurity on their part. How tall were your exes? There’s someone for everyone. My height has never been a problem in dating - at least I’ve never had a man insult my height. Also, I don’t want to date anyone my height or shorter and never have. You don’t have to settle if you’re not comfortable with shorter men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:39 PM |
| 16 | His true colors have been revealedSounds like he did you a favor. Clearly he’s hurt but this ain’t the way. Also y’all are LDR and he’s military 🥴🥴 And imo, taking a break is a bad idea almost always. I see why you did it in your case since he’ll be gone for a long period of time, but you are leaving the door open for more pain down the road if you find someone else and he wants to get back together or vice versa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:34 PM |
| 36 | A message for lurkers....you're not the centre of our worldsI wish I could move on quick like that. I can if it was short lived and physical attraction faded. But long term relationships where I still love and am attracted to the person, that’s been much harder for me to move on from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 05:24 PM |
| 9 | This is so adorableHow tall are you? I’m 5’9 and my 6’3 ex and 6’6 have all picked me up and carried me. One even took me to bed when I fell asleep on the couch and that’s was really sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 09:05 PM |
| 76 | 25f, I'm feeling insecure, that I will nEveR bE gOoD eNOuGh because I am not as fit and attractive as I could be. I feel like I am wasting the pEaK oF My yOuTh and BeAutY because I'm not iNsTaWoRthY. Fears of losing value as I age. Help me change this silly attitude and replace these shit beliefsWhy would you want to compete with 18 year olds? There will always be someone smarter, more successful, fitter, more beautiful than you. That can either be the most overwhelming thought or freedom. Time doesn’t stop for anyone and You are working towards your goals, getting stronger. Maybe you’re not where you want to be but you’re getting there. The only competition you have is you. Keep growing and learning and nobody can tell you nothing. And just try to find joy in the journey. (I think I ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 23 | I read this, and I don’t doubt this in the slightest bit. I’ve been in similar shoes like this.Yup. My ex was Nigerian. When we first got together, everyone kept telling me he’d treat me like a queen. How wrong they were. I let myself suffer all the times he broke my heart. Meanwhile I treated him like a king. He wasn’t as bad as this guy, he tried in his own way but it wasn’t enough and his ego won in the end. His brother, on the other hand is high value through and through. He’s also not a momma’s boy, like my ex is. Watch out for momma’s boys, I’ve only had negative experiences with th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 09:31 PM |
| 20 | 9 months in and I still get weekly flowersSo simple yet so beautiful and it means so much. I remember dropping hints to my ex I loved flowers, even telling him straight up, and I only got 3 bouquets in our 2.5 years together (and one of their times I went with him to Whole Foods to get one for my birthday smh). You can find beautiful bouquets for around $10, yet he was buying himself expensive car parts. Never again will I settle for that, I deserve a whole damn garden. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:41 PM |
| 12 | This man around my age. Enough said.Stupid men always tell on themselves. Trash trash trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:35 PM |
| 43 | I'm not yours boo. I belong to myselfI couldn’t stand his character. Lazy writer with a sugar mama who falls for the younger, free-spirited girl. And then pulls this line. And then she still ends up with him 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 02:37 AM |
| 14 | How They Treat You...This can be true in some cases. But I’ve had incredibly low self-esteem in my life and have always treated people well. I’m not a psychologist or anything but I imagine that some people project their own insecurities onto other people, while others acknowledge their negative feelings/thoughts/perceptions about themselves and never want others to feel that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:37 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020I forgot to block my ex on email and he reached out asking if we could talk. I made the mistake of entertaining it. But I will say this, I was blunt and to the point and lied and said I don’t have feelings for him anymore. Mind you, he literally just got back from seeing his new girl (former friend) out of state; I think he hit me up the day he was on his way back home from seeing her cus having sex with her made his conscious guilty. Should’ve thought of that before you jumped into something ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Stop constantly trying to prove your worth thinking it will get a LVM to change their actions. They are hoping to devalue you so you don't realize how valuable you really are. If you want to fly higher, you are going to have to give up what is weighing you down so you arrive to your chosen path. <3Agreed with all you said except I’ve definitely changed since 25 (for the better) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:32 AM |
| 6 | They always come back! Dropped me the day before Christmas after hooking up with me= I blocked him. Reached out in Tinder Story in commentsLmaooo boy bye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:25 AM |
| 8 | Hope someone picks you sis.Could be rosacea or hyperpigmentation. Or makeup lol. I have hyperpigmentation on some parts of my body without even going in the sun but clearly this isn’t the case here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 08:12 PM |
| 44 | Hope someone picks you sis.Phew definitely sun damage or tanning bed. And the hair color is only accentuating that fact | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 6 | The magical brick wall that women hit when they hit 30 that makes them suddenly unattractive lol 😂 even if you hit the gym in the regular and get that Botox. Meanwhile men got limp dick and a receding hairline. So tired of their shit.Lol! I’d love to see how he looks. I’m 31 and look better than in my 20s. I glowed up big time and take care of myself and get hit on/asked out regularly. There are so many beautiful, wonderful women who are single bruh. We’re tired of all your bullshit, males. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:08 AM |
| 6 | MEN KNOW: Sarah Michelle Gellar/Freddie Prinze Jr editionLove them. hope I can one day have someone be about me/us the way he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 02:03 AM |
| 17 | Men get mad when women date younger menLol they can stay mad. Older men generally look awful, set in their ways, and try to be controlling. You can’t teach an old dog new tricks is a saying for a reason. I’ll only date men a few years older than me at most but I prefer my age or younger. There’s a reason he’s older and not married, ladies. Women can be very happy and content being single but men cannot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Please share your list of deal-breakers and must haves in terms of values, career, physical, etc.I’m inclined to agree with you. I wasn’t ever able to cum from penetration until my ex and his big ol dick came along. My fear is meeting a really amazing man and waiting at least 3 months to sleep with him, and finding out his dick is below average. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 05:50 PM |
| 13 | Why do guys get back with their ex?Because they’re invested in their ex. Time, emotions, money. She probably still loves him and wants him back. Watch out if he says they’ve been on and off for a long period of time. Many guys will break up with their girl in order to sleep with other girls so it’s not considered cheating, and then go back to her when they’re ready. Or the other person broke up with them and them and now they want them back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:24 PM |
| 2 | Please share your list of deal-breakers and must haves in terms of values, career, physical, etc.I’m tall too! But I don’t wanna date shorter guys lol. What’s a small dick size for you? My ex was 8+ inches when he was hard and after we broke up, I slept with a guy who was probably 4 or 5 inches and he could not make me cum from penetration. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:14 PM |
| 5 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?Yeah, I realized I get attached easily and ignore the red flags if the physical attraction is there. I did love my ex tho but love is not enough. Now I’m taking a break from men, dating and working on my attachment and emotional issues, etc. I am definitely in a far better place compared to last year and even last month so it’s progress! Thanks girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:53 AM |
| 4 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?With my ex it was physical attraction attraction at first. We were friends at school for a few months and all my friends said he was interested in me. He showed interest, replied super fast, and talked about taking me out. But tbh there wasn’t much else. When I asked what he wanted his reply was “whatever you want.” Smh. I locked us down into a relationship before we had sex because I wasn’t about to be hit and quit again. My emotions for him came hard and fast and then after I was very attached… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Step 1: Try to sound smart while not actually saying anything. Step 2: Make it known that you don’t know how to plan dates. Step 3: Get blocked.lol idk...I’ve met dudes in the late 20s and 30s who are just as bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:59 AM |
| 2 | What happens to the “cool girls”.Definitely. I don’t believe anything physical happened, but they have the same friend group so they’d talk daily probably. They went on vacations together I believe won’t their friend group and I couldn’t go with them because my ex wouldn’t let me join. They went out to clubs and bars more than he and I did. She joined him and his friends at the gym and running at the lake and when I asked him why he didn’t invite me he said it’s cus I didn’t like waking up early on my days off. But I would have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 06:57 AM |
| 7 | Step 1: Try to sound smart while not actually saying anything. Step 2: Make it known that you don’t know how to plan dates. Step 3: Get blocked.Omg lol. How old is he?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:18 PM |
| 29 | What happens to the “cool girls”.I feel her, I used to be dumb like that too. My ex left me for a friend who I had questioned in the past. He’ll adamantly tell you he didn’t leave me for her, but considering they started getting close a month after he ended us, I don’t believe shit. Especially since he had previously told me he had crushed on her in the past and they called each other husband and wife while they were friends lmao (and yes we did fight about it and he assured me it’s nothing hah). Now they’re exclusively dating … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:17 PM |
| 27 | If I could slap my past pick me self...Better in your diary than sending someone a message lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | I Need HelpThanks, I’ll look into it! I hope I can see someone in person due to the virus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:26 AM |
| 2 | I Need HelpDid you learn on your own or you saw a professional? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Their fetishes and shallow preferences more important than who You are as a person?!Right! Men are dumb like that lol. Girl, always check out their social media. If you see any red flags there you can drop them faster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 08:04 PM |
| 29 | Their fetishes and shallow preferences more important than who You are as a person?!I check the Instagram of everyone I’ve been with. The guy I was last fucking with followed/follows mainly petite Asian and Latina girls. I’m white, tall, and thicc. He’d be very into me when we had sex but I’m fairly sure I was just something different he wanted to check off his list. So yeah, trust what you see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:12 AM |
| 13 | Never, and I mean NEVER, allow a man to disrespect your body like this.Lesson learned for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Found some more clownery on insta. Most of the comments chewed him out except for the ones I circled.Those comments tho 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 12:25 AM |
| 12 | I’m lost for words at this point 🤦🏼♀️I stopped reading after “we both like video games” This has to be the same OP from a couple of weeks ago complaining about her dumb gamer bf. Someone else posted their last issue here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 12:19 AM |
| 27 | Never, and I mean NEVER, allow a man to disrespect your body like this.Not defending the age gap but I’ve dated a couple of younger guys who pushed the boundaries like this. They knew I liked them and I’m a nice person and they took advantage of that. Edit: the guys were younger than me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 12:16 AM |
| 12 | She has sex every single day with her husband for 10 years. He still cheated.Sex will never keep a man. Ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Had a horrible week so one of my closest girlfriends who lives a hundred miles from me had these vegan treats sent to me as a surprise (all paid for by her) along with a letter. IF a girlfriend can do it, then men can absolutely do more than just the bare minimum.Love it! My girlfriends and I have done more for each other than any dudes have done for us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Why is it that we just ignore the fact that almost everything wrong in the world has one thing in common?I think about this often. Men commit overwhelmingly more violent crimes than women. Overwhelmingly. I believe it’s a mixture of both nature and nurture. If parents were given “how to raise respectful sons” classes and if school implemented teachings of respecting women and human decency, while not tolerating any type of violence or hate towards women in any form, the world would be a better place. Also, men have completely trashed the earth for their own egos and power struggles. Good times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Once again, men freely telling the Internet how broke they are!I have to laugh at him physically insulting all the women disagreeing with him. Meanwhile, he’s 5’9 (average male height) acting like he’s 6’3 lmao. He ain’t cute at all either, no one wants to pay your rent fuggo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:06 PM |
| 7 | Worst thing I’ve read all day...I feel for her, she’s young. He sounds like my ex. He would boldly ask me or tell me to give him money after the first couple of times I helped him out. And I never once asked him for money. Don’t do it, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:53 PM |
| 53 | Once again, men freely telling the Internet how broke they are!That man’s Twitter is gross af. He really thinks he’s the shit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:02 AM |
| 6 | Once again proof that HVM behavior does not have to be expensive and also needs to be maintained over timeThese are the types of things I wanted my ex to do. I would always be listening to what he was saying and surprise him, do nice things for him. I can count on one hand the number of times he surprised me or did something sweet to make me feel better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:23 PM |
| 9 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Omg I have been with 2 cancers and both of them are just as you describe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:20 PM |
| 23 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupGirl yes! I know that face ugh. I think I am also just so turned off because of all the disgusting, negative behavior I’ve witnessed personally and in the news. It’s not exclusive to white men but the majority is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:32 AM |
| 16 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupDo you mean you don’t date white men or black men? I mostly attract outside of my race too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:28 AM |
| 95 | Beware of men who date ONLY outside of their own cultural/ethnic groupI’m a white woman and rarely date white men. I’ve had bad experiences with them and am open to any race but avoid white dudes, generally. What does that make me? Edit: thanks to the white scrote who dm’d me to tell me I’m trashy for preferring not to date white men. You’re the reason baby 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:55 AM |
| 5 | If he doesn't cook and clean, he puts you at net negative.Maaan you can’t trust no one smh. I’ve known people to end the engagement stage because of skeletons in the closet coming out during living together stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:51 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Thank you so much for clarifying! I agree. I just have to make sure I don’t put in my all, like I have in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 7 | I don’t believe this man has ever had sexSomeone like him, who is so careful in his appearance sets my alarms off. His smugness reeks thru his cashmere sweater. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:35 PM |
| 5 | BLACK PILL PPD TRUTH SERUM TIDBITS ON HOW MEN DISTINGUISH BETWEEN GF/WIFE & FWB MATERIAL...EYE ROLL. NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A SO-CALLED "NICE /GOOD /LOYAL WOMAN"Absolutely. The guy I was sleeping with most recently told me about how he cheated on his ex multiple times, didn’t appreciate her or treat her right for a long time. And she knows and still wants to be with him. My experience is that men like that can “change” and be better for a short time before they start to fall back to their old ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:32 PM |
| 7 | I don’t believe this man has ever had sexHe reminds me of an old friend/acquaintance who would dress somewhat similar and brag about all the pussy he got. Which shocked me because he’s not very masculine at all (same with the guy in the video), and he’s not a guy girls would fall over for. He does make decent money and he would tell me somewhat similar stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:23 PM |
| 3 | I don’t believe this man has ever had sexI saw that too. Disgusting. He’s real bold to make multiple videos explaining/bragging about his technique. The internet needs to take him down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:17 PM |
| 6 | “Ask your other peers what they make — especially your male ones.”What do you do, if you don’t mind me asking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 06:46 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020Yes, you are thank you so much! I have overshared before and there are some things I simply don’t feel the need to discuss or ever share. Do you think it’s possible to only be 65% vulnerable with a man in a marriage? Assuming you are under the same roof, have children together, etc. I want to be smart but I don’t want to feel as if I have to have my guard up throughout my marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:07 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020That makes sense, especially during the beginning stages. I think my problem is I’m very honest and I can’t imagine not being honest and sharing with someone I love or with my husband. What about them? Do we assume they are always withholding information? Or should we try getting more information out of them? I don’t want to feel as if I’m living with a stranger either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 03:33 AM |
| 37 | I hate these lines.“We just vibing” is my favorite lmao. Don’t forget: “I don’t know what I want”, “let’s chill,” “let’s just go with the flow/see what happens” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:10 AM |
| 64 | BLACK PILL PPD TRUTH SERUM TIDBITS ON HOW MEN DISTINGUISH BETWEEN GF/WIFE & FWB MATERIAL...EYE ROLL. NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING A SO-CALLED "NICE /GOOD /LOYAL WOMAN"Lol ugh this is definitely true with many men I’ve encountered. However, I’ve been just a booty call with a couple of men who went back to their less attractive ex. Most likely I was part of their hit list before they were ready to fully commit to their ex or a different girl. So it’s more than looks, when it comes to a girlfriend/ex. it’s connection, history, guilt, future outlook, what they consider good wife-material, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 11:15 PM |
| 7 | What made you realize you needed FDS?FDS was a suggested sub after I joined dating and datingover30 after my last relationship with a LVM ended this year, and after I had slept with a guy I liked, who is a player but still back and forth with his ex. So When I first browsed thru this thread I was like damn these girls really hate men lol. But I joined anyway and kept reading posts and was just stunned (in a good eye opening neat). It was like reading things I knew but didn’t know. I knew men should chase women, should pay, but let … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 07:52 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 30 2020So I’ve read a few comments saying you should never give/show your vulnerability, emotions, etc fully to a man. I wish I could find the post but was it was something like only show 10% when first dating, 30% during established relationship, and 65% during marriage. I don’t know if the numbers are correct and this may be in the handbook, which I will continue reading after finals. I guess my question is why? I know it’s to protect ourselves in case of the man betraying us or using us. But what do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.That’s what I meant by receipts lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:58 AM |
| 25 | If he doesn't cook and clean, he puts you at net negative.Facts. I don’t think I would move in with anyone until we are engaged. I need to see how he lives on his own first and if he switches up once we live together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Fear of “glowing up”?Not me. I wear glasses almost always and still get hit on. Sometimes more cus they like that “librarian look” 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:55 PM |
| 8 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?Girl I got credit card debt from my ex too. The guy I was describing wasn’t even my ex, we were just dating May God forgive my dumbass. This whole time I didn’t realize that it doesn’t matter how much you invest in them cus they’ll still leave you. So let them invest in you and chase you. So thankful I found this subreddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:04 PM |
| 13 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.So most men will cheat. And if we don’t tolerate it, we have to also accept we’ll be getting divorced sometime in our lifetime. Honestly I don’t even know if I ever want to get married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 06:13 PM |
| 4 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.So would a HVW divorce if she found he was cheating? Or just compensate herself with luxury goods and accept it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:22 PM |
| 19 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?Yup!! I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than ever be that dumb ever again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:29 AM |
| 112 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?Paid for so much stuff, dates, bills. Offered to buy them shit. In one incredibly embarrassing instance: paid for my own plane ticket to go see him, bought him groceries and some Kitchen-ware, cooked for him, and helped him move 😂😂😭He ghosted me for a girl he met soon after. They just broke up and he decided to slide into my dms like nothing happened lmao. I left him on seen. I don’t follow him but he follows me and he can stay watching my stories. So yeah, never again. I cringe at who I used to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:14 AM |
| 35 | Scrote wants his girlfriend to fulfill his perverted fantasy but gets upset at the thought of her wanting him to change 🤦🏻♀️what I thought of lol Don’t date gamers and don’t date anime-freaks. I like some anime every now but it doesn’t consume my life in any way. When people obsess over non-reality it’s a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:01 AM |
| 3 | Every time you feel like a regretful idiot for keeping NV/LV mates and friends in your life for too long, remember that Beyoncé is still married to Jay-ZI feel like their marriage is a business transaction | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | someone pls pick herI treated my ex like a king and he did not treat me back like a queen lmfaoooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | I'm curious how life is for other women dating childfree! Please share your stories/goals/dreams with meI think I want children someday but I love being 31 and not having kids. I love being able to sleep in, travel on a whim (or at all), hang out with friends, basically do what I want. I still am in school (almost done!) and work but I just love not having kids rn. I also consistently get told I look much younger than I am. I don’t have any wrinkles yet (definitely due to having no kids and few relationships under my belt). I have nephews I adore but I don’t feel my biological clock really ticking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:20 AM |
| 7 | How do you forgive yourself for past pickme behavior?No one taught me anything about men and dating. No one taught me men will put on sheep’s clothes to lure you to get what they want from you. Church taught me that sex before marriage is one of the worst things a woman could do. And a woman’s role is basically to be a man’s support in every way (except financially maybe). My parents met young and have little or no previous dating experience. Everything I learned was thru experience and friend’s experience. And I was so scared and indoctrinated in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:39 PM |
| 7 | Imagine being so insecure you can’t event hold a conversationLmfaooo please tell me she responded with a bunch of laughing emojis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 08:07 PM |
| 8 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.Agreed. However, sometimes I prefer texting for 2 reasons: so I can think about what I want to say. Sometimes in person when tension or pressure is high I forget everything I want to say or get distracted by questions, etc. Second, having something in writing let’s me and/or the other person reflect over what has been said. Also receipts lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 07:37 PM |
| 10 | And this, ladies, is why education is fundamental, and porn is not educational.“Video games” say less 🥴 I swear an overwhelming amount of gamers I’ve met or heard about are lazy, perverted, misogynists. Not saying you can’t enjoy video games but if you call yourself a gamer I’m immediately turned off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:06 PM |
| 15 | Keep re-reading this until it sinks in.I have only done that to people I am/have been in a relationship with. I don’t bother with doing that with anyone I’m fucking or dating. But I shouldn’t have even bothered with my exes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Feeling lonely todayI’m sorry girl. It’s still very fresh for you. It will get better, but it will come in waves. Do you have anyone else you can talk to? If not, writing it out helps. I keep an album of truths on Instagram I’ll save and scan thru to remind myself that I made the right choice. It’s hard when we have good hearts and loved/cared for that person and they were just not worthy of us. Put yourself first and put the energy you put into him into yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 05:05 AM |
| 12 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsYup. But I crave more than just the actual dick and fucking. I love intimacy: kissing, touching, feeling physically close to someone, watching them be turned on. I have a vibrator and I used it and I still crave sex. Also if you don’t have a vibrator, the shower head or faucet is amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:55 AM |
| 8 | LVM using CashApp to get my attention after I blocked him everywhere else. I accepted the ONE DOLLAR, then blocked him on CashApp too :)My ex just did this recently. But He would reach out via another method after I blocked his number. I made the mistake of engaging in conversation after he sent money on cash app. Now he’s blocked there and everywhere I’ve interacted with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 09:08 PM |
| 2 | What it is about women-only spaces that energize me and calm me at the same time? I've come to believe that it's finally feeling heard by someone who understands. I want a lifetime membership to this gym!Wow I’m so sorry you experienced this. We need to do better and support each other as women. I’ve been to two women’s gyms where I live. One was larger and a little more crowded. I would have stayed at that one but the distance was a little too much. The second one I currently go to is much smaller but it’s closer and I love it. Everyone is nice. There isn’t a dress code as far as I’ve seen. And It’s 24 hours access. The times I go, there’s barely anyone there. I love working out in peace even w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020Thank you. Yes I’m reading the handbook. And yes, you’re right. I’m working on letting go of what may have been and also all the pain that happened. I have to forgive myself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:18 PM |
| 14 | Nobody follows your instagram stories as closely as the boy you rejectedI have guys who I’ve slept with a couple of times be some of the first to watch. And sometimes they were the ones who rejected me lol. It’s partly them and part instagram’s algorithm. I believe the quicker you are to watch someone’s story, the more likely it will be one of the first in line to watch. Probably interaction too such as dms, liking pics, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 07:51 PM |
| 2 | On January 2nd I gave up dating and instead focused on my net worthYes girl! I have been way better off financially as well since being single too! I have two more semesters before I get my degree and I have credit card debt, car loan, student debt. I am working on paying off credit card debt first since my student loans don’t collect interest til later (tho I’m still paying a small monthly amount towards them). I work and pay for all my bills. Can’t wait to have more money in my bank. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 12:30 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 23 2020Just need to vent for a min. My LVM ex and I broke up end of April. A bit of back story. We have been on and off for about 2.5 years. It has been very hard. I have been so so good to him even when I knew I was doing too much and he wasn’t stepping up. He’s younger than me so I alway tried to teach him - I know, big mistake. Last year I left him because he never had told me he loved me. Not once. Once I told him I was sleeping with someone else (we were not dating at the time, just having sex and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 09:28 PM |
| 25 | Went on a date that went well, he got back with his ex after.Happened to me too. But he lead me on for months and then switched up as soon as we had sex. Realized he wanted to be with her. But guess who came back trying to get into my life a year later when they broke up lollll. And blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 11:57 PM |
| 3 | This pickme is traveling across the country for a man and wants to dress so she can get laid. Shes wanted him "forever" and seems like they only met once before. Do NOT chase a man and do not rush into sex! She is lowering the bar for him!Maaan I once did this. Not the dumb post shit but I bought my own plane ticket to see a guy I met once. Cooked for him, helped him move. What happened? He met someone else and ghosted me lmao. Never again. I was soooo dumb. And the best part, he recently broke up with the girl he met and ghosted me for, and hit me up on Instagram like nothing ever happened lol. I left him on “seen.” Enjoy watching my stories bro. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:00 AM |
| 41 | Is it just me or are there barely attractive men out there?Exactly. The good looking ones are almost always fuck boys. They can get any girl and they know it. Most of my exes have been really good looking and most were fuck boys at heart. And yeah I see guys my age (31) looking haggard af. These men better start taking care of their skin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 11:55 PM |
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