Energy vampires, low energy men, low effort men. Exhausting, draining, parasites. Do you feel constantly drained after being around a man? Are you in a relationship with a low effort or low energy man who swears he's putting in maximum effort? How is this sort of man created and why does he find the basics of being an adult so difficult? How was he created?

Socialization – little boys are taught that housework = woman's work. There are no external rewards like money or gushing praise. Boys don't get the identity such as homemaker, houseproud, wife material. They feel no pride for doing a good job because they feel they were doing a woman's job. It's degrading and humiliating. They feel resentful for having to do it at all, or feel low social standing for not having a slave/wife to do it for them. They feel drained and demoralized when they do housework, and they feel superior, manly and energized when they own a woman who serves them. They can look around the house and feel proud of themselves because they have a good life. They have achieved all the manly milestones. Owning a home and a bangmaid. They didn't spend their own energy and they watch her spend hers. Men's leisure time is built on the backs of women's labor.

Porn is well known to create demotivated, low energy men. Nothing can compare to the dopamine boost they get when they fire up their laptop or start their habit of getting ready to look at porn. Looking around the house at the filth doesn't inspire them. Housework, decorating and repairs seem boring. The idea of taking a woman on a fun interesting date is too much effort. Seducing, listening, caring and interacting leeches his precious energy. When their partner starts declining their low-effort, selfish, masturbatory attempts at sex, he sullenly turns to porn which exhausts the rest of his sexual energy. They demand porn star performances from the woman, which exhausts her, and they give nothing back, because they have nothing to begin with. Women rarely orgasm so she's not even getting the relaxing ocytocin. Having sex with porn addict men is emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually and mentally draining. He feels great though. He had his imaginary pick of millions of beautiful women, and he successfully mated with them by cumming into a tissue.

Gaming isn't a hobby, it's time-wasting, dissociation and tiring, not energizing. They feel they can accomplish and achieve, be a man, be part of a hierarchy. They get adrenaline from harassing women and chasing them out of their virtual space. They feel ownership of this fake “men's space” and possession of these fake weapons, armor and in-game points. They can fight for rank and dominance without the risk of physical harm. Coming back to the real world, their dead end job, filthy house, and people they can't relate to or connect with is painful. Normal people won't tolerate their swearing, repetitive comments, juvenile interpersonal skills or normalized misogyny.

Diet – “real men” eat meat, no veggies. They have vitamin deficiencies. Men don't go to the doctor to check their health and learn the shameful news that their self-indulgent, lazy lifestyle has serious consequences. Men aren't going outside anymore and aren't creating vitamin D. This is linked to depression, lack of muscle tone and an overall soft, doughy, dull, low energy demeanour.

Lack of exercise. Walking reduces cortisol (the stress hormone) and men's body-building forums are allergic to cardio, apparently that's another “feminine” thing. They promote lifting or HIIT sprinting which is inflammatory. Yoga is for girls too so men never calm down on their own through exercise, so they seek oxytocin by touching women. A man who suggests a walk date is not a high energy man. Brisk walks for the purpose of lowering their cortisol is something he already does on his own time, or as a way to spend quality time together as a committed couple. First date strolls around the park and sitting on a bench is cheap, stingy, and not invigorating or stress-reducing.

Sleep. I haven't met a man who doesn't snore. Due to sleep apnea (their body isn't getting enough oxygen so they jerk awake multiple times a night), they're waking up with no energy. Combined with a shitty, energy draining job, gaming for excessive hours into the night and a diet that doesn't give them energy, the 4 hours of sleep a low energy man gets isn't refreshing either. Most men sleep soundly and much more relaxed with a woman next to them, while keeping the woman wide awake and sleep deprived. Weird because we're meant to be more relaxed with a protector near us? Yet they're using us as the alarm system.

Low energy men have no real friendships. Being around other energy vampire males is exhausting. Being roasted all day and jostling for the hierarchy. Having your guard up so you're not lowest man on the totem pole. Men are not refreshed, nourished, energized or rejuvenated by a boy's night out. They come home angry and drained and, you guessed it, seek comfort from a woman's touch. Greedy, selfish, draining touch. Or picking fights to re-establish their dominance by punching down.

Shitty job – does anyone like their job? They invented the grind. Either overworked in a physical job, or in a mind-numbing office job. They get their self-esteem from their job. But it's external validation and their identity. They're the breadwinner. They're a hardworking family man. But as we discovered during the pandemic and all throughout history, when men lose their job and it was their only identity and only source of esteem, they lose their minds. If the haven't been participating in child-rearing and housework, they start to abuse to get their manliness back. If they weren't “Dad” and “man who keeps his own living space in order” they dominate, control, micromanage and bark orders to keep their identity as “head of the house, man in charge”.

No creative, stimulating hobbies because that's girly too. Learning how to create music, sketching or painting art, growing plants. No hobbies that require the building of skills or result in long term gratification. They feel no pride, satisfaction or energy boost from whatever dumb shit they call a hobby lately.

The male created and perpetuated stigma of therapy. One of the points of therapy is to become aware of your feelings and what thoughts and experiences led you to have those feelings. To figure out why you behave the way you do and correct yourself so you can have a loving, healthy relationship. Men won't go to a real therapist because they don't want to explore these deep thoughts and feelings and realise they're the asshole and need to be held accountable. They just dump all their emotions and trauma on their wife and go about their day, feeling refreshed and unburdened, while she is drained from active listening, affirming and coddling him.

Socialization, porn, gaming, poor diet/sleep/exercise, unfulfilling jobs, pointless hobbies, draining friendships and refusal to get real therapy has made several generations of men unable to create their own energy, leading to society-wide energy vampirism, with women being used as batteries.

Part 2 - How men steal women's energy