Quotation marks cause my dad and his fiance aren't married yet. My dad visited my state last year for Halloween. I couldn't hang with him because my mom didn't want to increase our risk of catching covid. My dad doesn't believe in covid so that's why he wasn't fearful. Anyway, I asked him to come to our house so we can spend time with him.

He left his fiance at my aunt's house (that's where he stays everytime he visits). So my dad wasn't even gone for a full hour. He picks us up some food and we just talk in the car. He gets multiple calls in row. He finally picks up and it's fiance, making him facetime her. She kept asking "where are you? Why is it so dark?". Like really? He told her where he's going, everytime he visits she basically has him by the neck and won't let him leave her sight. I hate it because I can't ever spend time with my dad the way I want.

So anyway I try to be understanding. He turns on the car lights and tell her he's with us in the car. I asked him if could visit our house because he's never seen the inside and I wanted to show him our snazzy living room lol (my mom decorated it gold, white, and teal. I love her choice. But back to the point!). My dad is sitting on the living room couch talking to me, my brother, and my mom. Just telling us stories. Normal stuff. He gets more spam calls from fiance again like what the fuck? Again, it STILL hasnt been a full hour yet and she keeps calling. She makes him face time her again and he looked so scared. Like straight up stammering. He told her "I'm here with (insert my brother's name)" and pulls my brother into the camera view before he can even say anything.

There is no point in having your dude clenched in a vice grip like this. If he wanted to cheat HE WOULD. Her calling over and over like this was useless because my mom was right behind the camera. If my dad turned the camera around and saw my mom she would have a fit. This is very irritating. I only get to see my dad once a year and she always ruins it by being far too clingy. The next day my dad stops by to give me something I asked him to bring from his state. He parked at the end of driveway. He said "wait do you want me to pull up?". Before I can even reply he pulls up and then his fiance gets out looking kind of weird at my house.

I wasn't not happy with the comment she made. No hi. Just gave me a fake happy look and said "haha still skinny" (I'm underweight). I just said "yeah" and gave her the toilet paper she asked for. Now I would I have some empathy for her being insecure if she and her stupid family weren't racist and accused me and my bro of stealing when they actually stole from us (I have more examples of them being racist if you want to know. I'm just trying to keep this short as possible) . My dad has cheated in the past so I can understand her fear. But my thing is this. If you don't trust your partner you NEED to leave

It's mental torture to stay with someone you don't trust. They've broken up at least 5 times in the span of their relationship. I don't like her back handed comments towards my mother. Asking me stupid questions like "is she on welfare?" ( A common stereotype among black single mothers) and asking me where does work. Like mind your fucking business lady. My relationship with my dad was already rocky, but this woman came into his life and made it worse. I legit don't talk to my dad anymore. Anytime he calls he mainly talks about her and her family. Rarely asking about me. And he only calls when he's at work or when he's alone. As if we're some sort of secret.

I'm his kid and he can't even talk to me without her being nosey and rude. This is my dad's fault too. I'm not excusing his behavior either. He has fucked my life up in some horrible ways that I still resent him for and he needs to stop being such a pushover with his fiance. But my mom encourages me to at least be cordial because he seems mentally ill and we don't know when he'll die (as morbid as that sounds. Not due to his mental illness. But because he does not take care of him properly and has weird beliefs that causes him to make stupid decisions. Like smoking herbs that he has no idea what they are when he has asthma just because someone told them it heals you).

Anyway this is my rant. They're getting married this August and I don't want see any of their asses. Not my dad, not his fiance, not her family, not even my dad's side of family. They all irritate the fuck out of me and I want to be left alone. But I can't do that or my dad will throw a tantrum and antagonize me. Wonderful family right ? 🙃