Hello!

I'm in therapy with a great psychologist (finally!!) And we are touching some really deep wounds and issues. Most of my relationships have been abusive, violent or at least controlling in some way.

So, one of the things I've realized is that I tend to fall for people who approach me in a more direct, or even agressive way, and start doing things like love-bombing or future faking. And that's the only thing I know. It confuses me because sometimes it's hard to tell for me when someone is going too fast and trying to trap me, vs. When someone is actually showing real interest on getting to know me.

So, what are some ways to tell them appart?