Not doing this right

glittersparklesglitz · 2020-02-12T04:30:07+00:00

Only engage with men who are already on your level. Don't date for potential. Date for who the man is RIGHT NOW.

Bovvsette · 2020-02-12T04:50:33+00:00

Never date projects, they will drain you like vampires and only take from you with no giving back. I think there was a post recently, it went something like this ”You build them up for the next woman, they ruin and damage you for the next man”. Don't be a convenient placeholder bangmaid who provides free services and comfort, be a loved and adored individual for who you are as person. You may or may not meet someone who will spoil you, these men exist, but are rare. Better alone than with a detrimental leech anyway.

persephones_torch · 2020-02-12T05:41:50+00:00

This is something I've said to my self... "Look for a partner. Not a project. Partner. Not project."

2020-02-12T06:07:32+00:00

Please, please read the sidebar, I think it would be a good starting place for understanding why you keep not attracting, but staying with LVM.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-02-12T06:50:40+00:00

Take a break from dating. Spend entire days doing only what you want.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-12T08:06:21+00:00

Stop giving so much that you keep getting taken advantage of. And also don't date projects like everyone else said.

level_up_always · 2020-02-12T09:22:11+00:00

Focus on figuring out why you feel you need to give so much to men. Do you feel you have to because you are not enough and that will make them love you? Sounds like therapy may be in order here and learning about codependency or as I have heard it referred to "self love deficit disorder".

2020-02-12T09:55:29+00:00

Stop hosting parasites.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-02-12T17:16:56+00:00

You can't show men how you want to be treated by treating them in that way. It is a waste of your time and your money. He's either high value and going to be a good partner, or he isn't. Next these dudes for any yellow or red flags. Just block and delete and forget about him. The low value men far outnumber the good ones, so you'll go through a lot of bad ones looking for a good one. If you waste your time looking for the good in a man or giving him the benefit of the doubt/second chance, you are wasting time you could be spending finding a good man.

Title	Not doing this right
Author	essence2119
Upvotes	26
Comments	10
Date	February 12, 2020 4:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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