By PDA I'm talking about hand holding, a greet with a hug and/or quick peck on the lips, at a park or beach resting head on shoulder or lap of s.o. Just simple gestures that pretty much tell strangers "I'm clearly being romantic with this person".

The LVM ex narc demon love bombed me and would be VERY heavy on PDA with me. He'd initiate kissing and a hug and many times in the beginning full on make-out sessions in public. The make-out sessions in public subsided which I didn't mind because it made me slightly uncomfortable. But he began emotionally abusing me by withholding all other forms of PDA too, he'd hold my hand one week , then the next week when we were holding hands his grip would be so loose that I'd wind up pulling my hand away completely and putting it in my pocket instead or keeping it at my side to which he'd say nothing and continue to walk ahead of me. Not too soon after ,I'd goin for a quick peck, initiate hand holding or a hug and he'd reject it and then started saying "I'm not really comfortable with PDA". This all resulted in me feeling unsure and unsafe to express any sort of affection to him and it forced me to follow his lead. It was a shitshow and I'm thankful every day that the demon has been exercised

Thing is, now I'm pondering about PDA when in a relationship. I'm sort of turned off from the thought of it now because it's been weaponized against me.

What are your thoughts, ladies on PDA? How soon do you display it when in a relationship? Do you at all?