My ex who left me severe trauma, one of the things he did was he hated me tagging him on my Instagram pics. He always told me how he hated his photo being taken while his photos were being uploaded on his female friends Instagram story without any issues. I have huge huge trauma bc of this as how he’d say no to me while he’d always say yes to his female friend. Till the end he called me psycho telling me I need to seek a therapy. He did go to therapy and he intentionally left all the details of the abuse he’d done to me and gave the story of when he was abused by his family when young. Adding to this he went around spreading rumors and fake stories of me. Since he was in London and I was in nyc there was nothing I could do. We didn’t have any common friends since we met on OLD. And I also wanted to ask advice on his behavior. Whenever we got on the subway, he’d hurriedly get away from me as he’s afraid to be seen with me in public and we never walked side by side when walking on the streets. When I confronted him he’d say he didn’t mean it and I’m over reacting but it was obvious that he was embarrassed of me so when I met him the next time, I put a lot of effort on my appearance but same thing always happened.

That’s why after this I avoid guys who are into social media outlets unless it’s for business or simple pleasure purposes. And moreover, I don’t date guys who are actively into it but never hints anything about their relationship status. It’s just big red flag for me.