Points

Liz_Lemondrop · 2019-11-15T06:17:32+00:00

You don't have to agree or implement every idea mentioned in this sub, but if you find yourself struggling to understand the majority of the ideas here and feel you have to "save" the other women who believe in them and "change their mind" this is not the sub for you.

There are plenty of other dating subs.

PS. There are several threads where women explain their position on this subject and why. Feel free to use the search button.

restlessyears · 2019-11-15T06:25:10+00:00

I’m new here as well, so please take my opinions on this as such. Anyway...

1) Why does he need to know? There is literally no need. It’s done. In the past. Can’t change it. Unless there is a medical concern or something that needs to be brought up, I don’t really think that it’s necessary to tell men our “sexual history” or our “number”. What effect does the number of people you had sex with in your life / who you had sex with have on your future relationships? Barring trauma from sexual abuse / assault, I do not see how past sexual activity has any relevance to your future partner(s). I can only see how revealing this information causes damage.

2) A high-value man will RESPECT you. He will enjoy paying for your dates. He will enjoy being chivalrous towards you and going above and beyond to spoil you and treat you like the queen that you are. I think a man who values and respects strong and confident women will show this by treating her like a queen and paying for dates, etc. We are valuable. If a man can see that and respond accordingly, I think that’s a good thing.

Spicy-kitty · 2019-11-15T18:50:23+00:00

As for your second point, I think having men pay for dates is meant to weed out low effort men who don't want to put work into relationships. If you want to go Dutch that's fine, I get how you feel. I was raised not to accept big favors from because they may expect sex in return, but I also learned from this sub I don't owe them my body.

brainsandb00bs · 2019-11-15T15:37:47+00:00

They don’t really deserve to know that about you. Why do you assume even the good guys are being honest to you? They’re probably not. If you feel comfortable sharing it then do you, but you’re better off keeping more mystery to you
I can show a man I’m financially his equal, as soon as he finds out what I do for a living. I make more money than most men I meet. So yes, they need to pay for the date or else to me it’s a waste of time. I make my own money, I don’t need their money, but I’m not wasting my time with a guy who can’t keep up with my lifestyle. Which means, buying me dinner shouldn’t break his bank. It shouldn’t even be a factor in his budget, it’s just dinner. It’s just a meal lol...I’ll never go out with a guy that acts like he did me some huge favor because he paid for a $20 entree and I didn’t offer to split it. My time is worth a lot more than any dinner I’ve been bought. It’s the absolute least these dusty men can do is pay for my meal.

Ms_Tilly · 2019-11-15T19:23:24+00:00

No man actually wants to hear details about your past sex life. I sure af don't want to hear theirs. Like someone said already, it's in the past. Any man that says he does is low value, in my opinion. I always avert the question with something like oh, I've had quite a few long term relationships over the years and I've also spent years single.

If a guy wants me to be interested at all, I expect him to pay for dates that he initiates. If we start getting serious, then I will pay every now and then as long as it wasn't a date that he specifically planned. Like going to the movies. One of us pays for the tickets and one of us pays for the snacks.

dackaroo · 2019-11-16T03:08:27+00:00

Men do not suddenly respect you because you offer to save them money. That makes them see you as lesser. They will go and brag to their friends that they spent nothing on you and you still slept with them.

Title	Points
Author	himymfan02
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	November 15, 2019 6:05 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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