Someone help me understand why the question “how long have you been single for?” bothers me so much? Being asked that question 2 seconds into a conversation TURNS ME OFF but I can’t verbalize why. Needless to say, I never replied back to him.

proudpine · 2021-07-20T00:24:39+00:00

The wrong “your” would’ve been a block from me immediately

souredskittles · 2021-07-20T00:24:54+00:00

It turns you off because you know he’s going to base your “worth” on the amount of time you e been single. As if you’re the problem and not sup par men. Smh

gcthwy · 2021-07-20T00:47:37+00:00

He thinks if you’ve been single a “long time” (whatever that means) then you’ll be more desperate and thus easier to manipulate!

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-07-20T00:49:14+00:00

I’d reply: “I’ve never been married! How about you?”

AngryTiger69 · 2021-07-20T00:46:32+00:00

It’s none of his business at this point. Maybe it could be appropriate in a more detailed conversation if he was genuinely (I.e. in good faith) trying to get to know you better, understand you, your values, and why you make the choices you make.

But this comes off like there is something wrong with being single. Or attaches a lot of value to it. It’s a red flag that he thinks this is so important

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