This post shows that 'BDSM relationships' are used as a way to enable abuse and abusers

2020-04-22T00:24:38+00:00

FOUR YEARS

I had to read that three times

SeaNegotiation8 · 2020-04-22T00:40:30+00:00

“yOu’Re jUsT dOInG BDSM wRoNg! CoMmUnIcAtIoN iS kEy!”

-Every BDSM/rape apologist/liberal feminist I’ve ever met

2020-04-22T01:52:34+00:00

"There is nothing inherently abusive in centering your relationship on a sexual power dynamic"

Sure Jan

Logical-Influence · 2020-04-22T01:34:38+00:00

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lilitha134 · 2020-04-22T07:55:55+00:00

She mentions in her post that she was "very young" And this was "her first BDSM relationship" And didn't know anything about it prior. So I am pretty sure this whole thing was his idea from the start and he knew he can take advantage of her lack of experience and young age.

A lot of people on there saying "this isn't real BDSM". But it is. This is the reality of BDSM - toxic, abusive, sadistic men taking advantage of inexperienced, insecure women who are brainwashed into thinking this is normal. Everything this couple did was considered " Safe and consensual", yet this woman will be traumatized for life. How can someone read a post like this and then claim "the sub is always in control". How does this make sense? You cant consent to domination.

2020-04-22T09:14:22+00:00

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cherry-sweet · 2020-04-22T01:06:44+00:00

The normalization of bdsm has essentially given abusers a platform to openly abuse women and not only get away with it, but even being celebrated for it.

radical__daphne · 2020-04-22T00:19:17+00:00

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Laeun · 2020-04-22T08:17:57+00:00

there is nothing inherently abusive about this style of a relationship if done in a safe and consensual manner.

STOP NORMALIZING ANY OF THIS SHIT. STOP IT.

STOP.

UBI1k · 2020-04-22T02:20:06+00:00

So he said "you could have ended the d/s part of the relationship but you weren't mature enough to ask" ... wtf does he even mean by that, shes mature enough to get in but not to opt out? That's a freudian slip on his part indicating that he was intentionally preying on her immaturity the whole time.

TheOGJammies · 2020-04-22T15:41:12+00:00

pretends to be be shocked

😱

2020-04-22T18:11:10+00:00

Ha wait for the pickmes who will explain "a MaN WhO AbUsEs you Does NOT ReAlLY AbUSe YoU" nonsense

Title	This post shows that 'BDSM relationships' are used as a way to enable abuse and abusers
Author	onefoulowl
Upvotes	124
Comments	17
Date	April 22, 2020 12:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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STOP.