I found my now husband when I was 22.

I met him at a time when I was dating casually, a year after ending an awful relationship with a scrote (still learning the terminology) who didn’t love me but didn’t have the balls to break up with me until I forced the issue by making him answer for his obvious lack of plans for our future. I put up with so much shit from this guy(my ex), he didn’t know how to do his own laundry basically, and I was like a mother and sexual partner to him in one blind, willing package. He always had the upper hand because he honestly didn’t really care whether I stayed or not, and I always figured... I did so much for him, accepted so many shitty habits... how could he not love me? I mean everyone else agreed I was too good for him, surely he’d see it too.

How wrong I was.

So after finding out he didn’t see us together and breaking it off (and having a terrible time for six months), I started dating. But something was different. And I found myself suddenly unable to put up with shit from guys. Not able to show me you’re interested in me? Get lost. Don’t want to introduce me to your friends? Fuck off. Do I find you boring? Sorry.

Enter husband. He is high value, well educated, good earner, smart and funny and hot. I thought he was a player and I described to him what I expected from the first time we met. I wouldn’t be played. No other women while he was seeing me. He spent months trying to convince me he was genuine, and boyfriend material. He was surprised when I rejected sexual advances and stumped when I had a life that didn’t always make time for him. Oh yeah, he was used to being very much prioritised by other girls. Eventually his dedication won me over and we have now been married ten years, and he always makes me feel respected and loved and gives me room to do what I want. We have three kids.

I never thought about it before I started reading this sub, but I wonder how our story would have gone if I had been the compliant, compromising girl that I was with my ex.

Anyway. I don’t even know. Made an account just to say this. 🤷‍♀️ thanks for making me laugh and keep on respecting yourselves!!