Truth.

2020-09-17T04:15:42+00:00

2020 goal: get to the point where a man's ambivalence turns you off and makes you less attracted to him.

ShoshannaDreyfus · 2020-09-17T04:19:33+00:00

I feel like any woman who wakes up to the reality of misogyny in heterosexual relationships will react this way: with anger, frustration, and utter shock.

I cannot even listen to half of my friends talk about the men in their life anymore. Whereas before, I'd be like, "how sweet she has a boyfriend." Now I say, "wtf girl get out of this clearly one-sided situation."

For all everyone talks of equality, it's amazing that we're still so unequal when it comes to dating and sex. I mean, the amount of effort and emotional energy a woman has to spend to get into a relationship and maintain it is SO not worth it 95% of the time.

avakadava · 2020-09-17T05:04:12+00:00

It's always the LV men. Just the fact that they don't seem fully interested in a women anymore and then the women get obsessive over them

sarahsanchez1220 · 2020-09-17T03:21:39+00:00

This.

astrovixen · 2020-09-17T11:58:42+00:00

Just cut ties for good with mine. This post struck deep. Articulated my observations-turned-rationales so perfectly. Why we do this. Whyy

notallowed2havepizza · 2020-09-17T16:16:15+00:00

Since our early childhood, we have been conditioned to equate men’s interest in us as an evidence of our self-worth and value as a woman. Also, having a relationship is an evidence of our self-worth. To unlearn years of conditioning from all areas such as media, culture, school, peers, etc is very difficult.

It takes great effort, strength and patience in building self-awareness, self-love, emotional intelligence and knowledge. In addition, we need to be more assertive and communicative in order to preserve our mental and physical wellbeing through boundaries against many people, including our loved ones who impose deeply held toxic patriarchal belief upon us. That level of gaslighting on a large scale (media, social media, family, friends, SO, work, etc) alone tears us down and make us second guess our right to proper treatment and standards. Without it, we know that it erodes our mental and physical health.

It seems like we’re on a losing side but as long as we have self-love for ourselves, we can fiercely fight against the oppressive forces that try to subjugate us into our supposedly rightful place in the patriarchal system.

For women who have deeply internalized sexism and is in denial or unwilling to change it, there’s no hope in helping them. If they want to change, they can, but they’d rather chase after fairytale romance or some cheap hit of temporary chemicals, which only results in trauma bonding and further erosion of self-esteem and mental health. Thus begins the endless cycle throughout their lives. What we can do instead is to expend our mental energy into bettering ourselves instead of trying to help them.

AverageToHot · 2020-09-17T04:00:12+00:00

I love this. <3

quiiidpr0qu0 · 2020-09-17T18:05:43+00:00

his prob, not ours.

Title	Truth.
Author	hillcrust
Upvotes	809
Comments	10
Date	September 16, 2020 9:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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